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Original poster

to phone my ex over something he wrote on DDs FB wall.

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SmellsLikeTeenStrop · 06/03/2011 21:28

DD1 logged on to FB and noticed that her status update said ''DD1 has a smelly bum''. She didn't write it, couldn't have wrote it because at the time it was posted we were all at my sisters.

DD1 had been at my exes earlier on that day and she said she'd used facebook. She never logs out properly and when I'm logging on to facebook I usually find myself on her page instead of my own so I strongly suspect that my ex when he logged on decided to have a bit of 'fun'.

Well mumsnet jury, would I be unreasonable to phone my ex up, ask him if he has done this and if he has would IBU to tear him another one for embarrassing DD.

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BluddyMoFo · 06/03/2011 21:43

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Megatron · 06/03/2011 21:43

My dad spent my teenage years trying to embarrass me in many forms and he was very successful too. Hence the reason I adored my dad beyond words and all my friends though he was 'wicked'. He's her dad for crying out loud and he's trying to make her laugh.

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SmellsLikeTeenStrop · 06/03/2011 21:44

sourdough she wasn't happy and wanted to phone him up and have rant, she hasn't as it is bed time for her.

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KiwiKat · 06/03/2011 21:45

Rhinestone, you have a really skewed way of thinking.

Rhinestone · 06/03/2011 21:47

Worra - She's 13, not a child anymore. He should have more respect for her.

Anyway, that's what I think - couldn't care less what anyone else thinks.. The OP asked for opinions and that's mine - and the OP was obviously bothered enough by it to post.

Megatron · 06/03/2011 21:47

rhinestone I'm sorry but most people (not all, granted) have a sense of humour and he is not being disrespectful of his daughter, he is clearly trying to have fun with her. Is that now allowed now that he is not with her mother?

You would have hated our house when I was a kid. I get the feeling that farting contests really aren't your thing.

Megatron · 06/03/2011 21:48

13 years old IS a child.

Cat98 · 06/03/2011 21:48

I don't think it's creepy, but I agree with rhinestone that he shouldn't have done it. Is your dd embarassed though, or has she laughed about it?

Rhinestone · 06/03/2011 21:48

KiwiKat - no, I don't. I was imagining how OP's DD might feel. And OP has just said that her DD wasn't happy.

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SmellsLikeTeenStrop · 06/03/2011 21:49

Megatron that's as maybe but she didn't find it funny. It had the opposite effect. I think that I will not phone, but if DD1 wants then she can phone him up tomorrow and tell him how she feels.

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worraliberty · 06/03/2011 21:49

You don't lose your sense of humour just because you've turned 13 Rhinestone (or some of us don't...)

Megatron · 06/03/2011 21:50

I can't see where in the OP where it mentions that her DD is unhappy about it. The OP is unhappy about it.

Rhinestone · 06/03/2011 21:50

Well it doesn't sound like OP's DD found it very funny. So not much fun for her.

MmeLindt · 06/03/2011 21:50

I would let her sort it out with her Dad herself. Don't get involved.

It is not creepy, or nasty. Just a bit of harmless fun.

Rhinestone · 06/03/2011 21:51

See OP's post at 21:44:35

worraliberty · 06/03/2011 21:51

Why didn't she just text him before bed saying she didn't think it was funny?

Megatron · 06/03/2011 21:52

Ah sorry smells I didn't see that your DD was unhappy about it. It's not that big a deal really is it? If she doesn't like it then she should speak to him herself but I honestly think he was probably trying to make her laugh.

thornykate · 06/03/2011 21:52

Maybe just let her call him tomorrow, I think in the absence of any major issues kids should handle their own relationships with their non resident parent especially as she is now a teenager.

We must all be innapropriate in this family too as I wouldn't find that creepy but each to their own.

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SmellsLikeTeenStrop · 06/03/2011 21:53

''I would let her sort it out with her Dad herself. Don't get involved. ''

Yes, I think you might be right. Case closed folk. Please go about your business.

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Cat98 · 06/03/2011 21:53

Think she should be able to trust her parents not to embarrass her intentionally.

Gemsy83 · 06/03/2011 21:54

She should be more internet savvy tbh and not staying logged in to a facebook account.

Rhinestone · 06/03/2011 21:54

Wow, some of you are really quite unpleasant.

Just because I can appreciate that a lot of 13 year old girls will find this pretty mortifying, doesn't mean I have no sense of humour. And it's not harmless fun when someone feels upset and embarrassed.

The OP has already said that her ex is a twat.

Megatron · 06/03/2011 21:54

Aw I was kind of enjoying talking about farting. I'm obviously creepy. Grin

GoodDaysBadDays · 06/03/2011 21:56

Creepy? Really? Jeez!!

It's just what people do if someone's fb is left logged on. Your dd's dad is interacting with her on her own level. a good thing, no?!

She didn't like it, she will learn to log out! If it was at a friend's house it could have been much worse then that!

Maybe she shouldn't be using fb yet if she get's upset easily?

worraliberty · 06/03/2011 21:57

The OP has already said that her ex is a twat

Find me an OP who hasn't Wink