Would you be happy for your DC to marry other race/culture?

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Just honest answers please. Ta

I told dd when she was little she could marry a man or a woman but I never thought to specify race or culture. I just assumed that that was a given.

If she wants to marry a Muslim, Sikh, Jew, Hindu, Buddhist, Born Again Christian, Jedi, Klingon, whatever...as long as he/she treats her well and makes her happy, I will be delighted.

If you'd asked my parents you'd have gotten a completely different answer, but they were old generation (probably like a lot of peoples' nans) and they were ignorant about the multiracial society to some degree.

I hope that we've all evolved past that nonsense?

I wouldn't mind provided they were treated as equals and happy.

My mum always said I could bring home any colour, religion or same sex and she would not bother. Just so long as I did'nt marry a tory!
I am growing more like my mother every day

I hate these sort of threads, because anyone who gives an honest view is immediately jumped on for being racist if their view doesnt conform to political correctness. It makes for a very stifled debate.

redpanda13 - how enlightened of your mother

I'd prefer it for my daughter to marry someone of her own race/culture (i.e. 1/16th Irish, 1/8th Chinese, 1/4 French, 1/16th Scottish and the remainder English) but I accept this is unlikely to happen so will be happy for as long as she is happy!

I would be happy for my DDs to marry anyone they wanted, although I think my heart would secretly sink if it was someone from a country a long way away because they might well end up living over there.

Bramshott, I married someone from the same kind of ethnic/social background as myself, after a string of previous boyfriends of very varied nationalities and skin colours - I think my mother breathed a sigh of relief.

DH and I then promptly went off and spent 12 years living on the other side of the world (we'd still be there if he hadn't died) - so don't count on anything...

Hi, really sorry for abandoning thread. I fell asleep as soon as I had made the thread and now at work [blush.

I asked the question because a 'friend' is pretty adamant that she would go ape nuts if any of her children married outside of their race. I wanted to hear other people's opinions.
Friend and I are both black.

I will come back to thread this evening (after work) if it's still on page 1. Thanks.

I'll second what StanHouseMuir said.

Im going with the tiny minority, or maybe I be the only one, for me it would depend on the race/culture as to whether or not I would be bothered.

Albeit primarily my childrens happiness comes first.

Oh, and I'd be happy for my DCs to marry anyone from anywhere, and given their upbringing I'd say the chances of it being someone not British are fairly high.

I would just rather, in DD's case, it wasn't someone like their white, British uncle who believes housework, cooking etc are all women's work and he should have the final say on anything to do with house and family. But SiL seems fine with that...

Skin colour or country of origin wouldn't bother me, but basic respect for women, children etc. as well as not possessing extremist (particularly religious beliefs) is important. However, no child of mind will be stopped from marrying such a person; their upbringing should educated them well enough to have the self-confidence to find this for themselves.

However, no tories allowed.

I would be horrified if DD married a Scientologist or into any extremist religion.

I would feel that I had utterly failed her - it is my job to teach her critical and rational thinking, neither of which I regard as compatible with Scientology etc

Race etc not an issue.

As I have boys I wouldn;t face the same worries re some faiths, but were it my sisters I would want to reassure myself that said sister was happy and safe.

but as people in the UK don;t amrry until theya re adult unless I suspected brainwashing or similar it would be thir choice.

That of course wouldn;t stop me disliking aspects of that faith: it's the fact it's different from mine that would not bother me, IYSWIM. but then I have an RE degree so would be awful if I felt otherwise.

have an exceptionally racist grandfather so was raised to be accepting of any race, culture, sexuality etc- quite unusual for my childhood in the 1970's rural counties: I remember dad getting stick for taking a life to work from a gay man and not giving a shite. I have been very lucky indeed.

Interesting point raised with the Tory thing. I know it's jest in 99% of cases but would you genuinely have problems with someone who held very different political views?

Interesting Snap.

I woulds truggle with them personally and as a very political family I'd feel I had to watch what I said a bit for their sake- but I wouldn't mind that they married someone different, just see it as something I don't agree with IYSWIM? DH and I don;t always vote the same way anyway.

OTOH if a child of mine did what my sister did and threw away a lifetime's political activism for an independent income and alrge house (it was very much a condition of the engagement) I would be shocked: but at the lack of substance rather than beleif, if that makes sense?

DS can do what he likes with whom he likes.

I am completely

Would hope he wouldn't opt for ukip/ bnp/ tory/ general right-winger though as the rest of my family might disown him.

Snap, apparently there are some very nice tories out there but I honestly don't think I could sit down to sunday dinner with a BNP supporter.

Ah now BNP would be a challenge; my oldest friend has gone over (followed her DH- argh ) and I have to say it is ending our friendship gradually.

Sorry I draw the line at any of my sons marrying a Lizard, I couldn't bear to be a granny to someone green and scaley!.

Yeah, BNP would be a deal breaker in a friendship for me I think. There are just some things that are unreconcilable.

Christ. What would I do if DS brought home a fascist? That's given me a whole new raft of stuff to fret about.

Or someone very religious who tried to convert me which, as a devout atheist, I would find morally wrong?

Maybe I'm not so after all...

Oldwoman which would you rather? Lizard or BNP supporter? I think I'd go with the lizard.