Would you be happy for your DC to marry other race/culture?

[sundayrose10]

Just honest answers please. Ta

Many of my Jewish friends maintain there is a Jewish race. Something can be anti-Semitic and racist so the terms aren't necessarily mutually exclusive. Part of the religion/ethnicity I suspect is the rarity of conversions and the idea that if your mother is Jewish you are Jewish.

What I find interesting in Britain is the quite positive strong identification with Black British (or maybe that's associated with a particular age group?). Is that more about the black or the British part though? Have never dared ask in RL.

In answer to the original question I say the same as MmeL!

As long as they were happy I wouldn't care a jot.

It's funny though this subject came up on one of the first occasions I met MIL, she casually said 'i'm sure your dad is the same, and would prefer it if you married someone the same as you'. I think she was quite shocked when I said 'actually he wouldn't care one bit as long as I was happy but I think he would draw the line if I bought home a tory'

I'm talking about Bush's "attack of terror".

Which has resulted in Muslims being involved in racist attacks...usually involving Indian men being attacked (I doubt the attackers ask if they're "Muslims").

LOTM I'm not being hostile.

The N word is in the dictionary too, it refers to a person of ANY race that is regarded as inferior or ignorant. So would you be okay with using that to refer to someone who isn't black?

I'm just trying to understand your thought process that just because a word is in the dictionary it's okay to use it regardless of whether someone would take offence to it.

Trust me when I say that African Americans/Black Americans (whatever you want to call them) don't take kindly to being called Negros even though the word is in the dictionary.

I would be happy with anyone my DC bought home so long as they treat them well.
I'm mixed race and feel so privileged to have two cultures to which I belong, would love my (future) grandchildren to have that and more.

(I thought all Israelis are Jewish as people of other faiths can't get citizenship, but that could be out of date now)

I'd wouldn't care about the race of someone DS wanted to marry, culture that doesn't respect woman is more of an issue, but I guess having a son, i'm less concerned about that than mothers of daughters would be.

As others have said, I'd be more upset by someone from another country who might convince my DS to go live somewhere far away I can't just pop round and make their lives hell be a helpful MIL and involved Grandmother. That said, DH is married to a me, a woman from the same culture and country, but he's worked in 2 other countries already and we're talking about possibly moving again, so it's not like I expect DS to just work in the City and live round the corner from us as an adult...

My dd is bicultural and "mixed race". If I expected her to marry someone who shared the exact same heritage, I expect she'd remain a spinster!

Seriously, why would I care?

at "negroes". Think you need to buy yourself a new dictionary!

I suspect the word "Negro" is too connected to the slavery trade - and that is why it is considered offensive.

My mum used the word "coloured" recently and was surprised when I told her that she should not. She thought "black" was offensive.

To answer to OP no I would not mind seing that I married out of my "race" and original religion (with my own parents' blessing)!

Hmm coloured. Would that make caucasian people, not coloured?!!

My dictionary clearly states that it is an offensive term. I'm amazed that any new dictionary wouldn't.

And yes, it's offensive because of all of the historical connotations.

Sooo what about the yellow/white/black point? Where do you stand on that?

Call negro/black people black but call S.E Asian people S.E Asian people as "yellow" is offensive?

I agree about Vulcans - I'd love to have grandchildren with little pointy ears!

I draw the line at Ferengi. They make their women walk around naked, yuck.

would I mind - no, not at all. mixing up the genes is always a good thing, imo.

I did. I'm from uk and my husband is from Kenya. so different cultures. I'm white and he's black, so different colour too. I'm vaguely christian in an unspecified non-organised religion way, he is church of scotland.

he likes baked beans and they make me want to puke

I've seen what generation after generation of breeding with your next door neighbours can do to a small village.

Why on earth would anyone who was not a very stupid person actually give a shit anyway?

I suspect DD's particular ethnic mix may be unique. So she'll have too.

Find the question a little tbh

If they were involved with someone very religious I'd be extremely worried.

Why so? Religious in what way? Covering her head, or sacrificing children at dawn?

I wouldn't want dd to marry into a religious family, especially one where circumcision is practiced, no grandchild of mine is going to be mutilated in the name of some god.

I fucking hate threads like this when the OP posts a contentious question and then fucks off. I don't think they're worthy of a response so have a instead

The older generation (people in 60's and 70's) were told to use the word coloured not Black. Coloured was considered the PC word when they were younger.

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I truly wish I could say I'd be completely cool with it

But I might find it a little bit challenging if I'm being completely honest.

I grew up with quite a bit of racism, and feel I've been on a life-long journey towards more tolerant attitudes - recognising everyone as equal which I believe they are.

Hopefully I'd embrace the challenge, and the person, and it would be another step along this road for me.

Hope I don't come across as having terrible attitudes - but as someone who's being honest and on a journey towards better things !

Kind of think you're child marrying someone from a different race and culture would be the final step on such a journey, and truly embracing them and your grandchildren without prejudice.

I'm sure love would win the day !

Circumcision, covering up, restricting food, guilt, control, paedophile priests mad mullahs and the absolute irrational, unquestioning belief systems.

Mine will be in mixed relationships unless they find someone with their exact heritage, which is unlikely.