to think ds teacher is a bitch?

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Ds is autistic in a mainstream school, and has 2 full time support teachers. On friday he cae home with the class prize, and I had no idea he was getting it, and he was upset I wasnt in assembly to see him. He has a "hoe school" book which is basically a comunication book between school and home, and I was a bit upset it wasnt mentioned in there so I wrote a small comment in the book thaat maybe if there is a next tie it could be mentioned in this book. Got said book back home tonight with a snotty message in it saying the communication book wa not for this purpose and it would be far too time consuming to write things like this in it. I went straight back to school to have a word with the class teacher who had written this, and was basically told to bugger off in a more polite way!!! She aid there is no time to write these things in the book (I pointed out that if between 3 teachers they find it too time consuming to write a sentence then I a a bit worried). I pointed out that the book doesnt come home evry night a it is meant to, and she said "well it doesnt come back from home all the tie either" to which I pointed out I am pregnant and VERY forgetful, and they are being paid to write in this book and send it home. She was having none of it, and tried to talk right over me, then in the end just said "right" and walked away.
Am I being paranoid or was she being a cow??? She maybe doesnt like me to start with as I found my son almost out of the school gate as the support teacher was nowhere to be seen and his class teacher just let him go, and I complained.

I agree with harpy...

Baaaaaaaa!

i hope the teacher or TSs arent MNers because they will recognise who's being talked about, which will do nothing for an already strained relationship.

I really think the OP is over reacting BIG TIME and needs to get a grip.

Lol at the fact that they always have time to communicate with home when they want a fancy dress costume turned around in 24 hours with no prior warning!!!!:0

I find it interesting that the teacher writes that it would be too time consuming to let you know about the award but took the time to write that in his book. Surely it would have taken the same length of time to write about the award as it did to write her comment?

And I find it interesting (nay, astonishing) that posters are up in arms about anonymous labelling a teacher 'bitch' and most concerned about the wrongs put upon this teacher - i.e. the teacher hasn't been called this to her face and is blissfully unaware of the insult, and yet the same posters are perfectly happy to be openly hostile to the OP (e.g. "you sound like a thoroughly rude and unpleasant individual"). Goodness its big and clver to be harsh towards a mother who has an autistic child to worry about, and therefore a good deal more on her plate to cope with than most of us with nt children!!.

I think some people are being overly harsh.

When there is an opportunity for a child with autism to feel special in a good way and part of the school community, of course he would want that to be witnessed by his mum. And that IS what the home/school book is for, or at least what it should be for.

My (AS) ds's teacher only uses his to tell me what naughty things he has been up to that day! I had a go at her about it yesterday and that doesn't make me a horrible person! Just frustrated!

When you have an SN child your life seems to be about fighting for them, I suppose this can come across as aggressive to people with NT kids but every day can feel like a battle.

Your son's teacher recognised his good behavior and rewarded him with a certificate? Wow what a bitch! YADBU. Be thankful that your son has a teacher that is so keen to give him positive rewards.

This thread is a perfect example of what I don't like about MN, and why I'm not here very much any more.

Agree, tbh these days I mostly stick to just one thread (my dieting buddies) and rarely bother with the rest of the discussions ....feeling a bit jaded after 7 years!

i know, it didn't used to be like this. ok there were always a few people who'd cut through what they believed to be ignorant thinking with their insight and their razor sharp logic..but it was rare enough once upon a time and those people who had the confidence to do that usually had a point, and somehow, retained the moral highground a bit more successfully! but now, it's like a fucking sport. Who can I make mincemeat of today!?

Have to say mumsnet got a lot nastier when AIBU was started.

Seems like a free for all to bitch at and about everything

~And posters who have savaged somebody says 'well this is AIBU'

I missed the memo that said that it was ok to be nasty for sport on AIBU

I agree totally with PinkIceQueen! Sometimes teachers forget - a lot (and I mean, a lot) happens every day in a busy classroom. She has to think of every child and it probably slipped her mind to tell you...or, if they don't normally tell parents then it wouldn't necessarily have occurred to her.
It's a shame you missed it though but maybe she'll think to tell you next time.

For Gods sake, do any of you you actually know what it is like to have a child with any form of disability? An SEN child disapears in a class, they become a no- body, the small achievements they make, may seem tiny to those who have 'normal' children, but are massive to our children. My child is Home Educated due to a schools failure on his wellbeing and education. It is their job to look out for ALL children not just the ones who are easy to teach, with no extra needs. The people who are commenting on this should be ashamed of themselves if they have no experience of a life with a Special Needs child. We are here on MN surely as a 'sisterhood' of support, not a bloody slagging match, whilst those who can sit smugly knowing they will never have a SEN child and all the educational nightmare this brings with it. If your childs finds learning difficult, by God, you want to know when they have done something well, and are actually getting some credit for it.