AIBU to be annoyed with mothers who can't be bothered to work?

[HellaH]

Went to a baby playgroup the other day and met yet another mother who has handed in her notice just because she has had a baby.

Thanks a lot! Now when I will go looking for a job employers will think that I too will hand in my notice if I fall pregnant again and will probably take on a man instead of me.

Can't wait for men to get more parental leave, maybe it will equal things out a bit!

And surely with the flexible working hours law and such a woman CAN go back to work without silly excuses.

I would quit work in an instant if dh earned enough.

Why the hell shouldn't she? What an odd thing to be cross about.

Yes

Be annoyed if you like. I'm too busy eating cake to care.

So its all about YOU HellaH?
Get a grip woman.

They CAN go back to work but they don't HAVE to. It's up to the individual family.

I'd quit in an instant too.

Hellah - you are about to get FLAMED!!!!!!!!!!

Really - you think that women WANTING to be with their babies will stop you getting a job. Oh please. I have worked since mine were tiny but I never judge those who choose a different path - have a

YABU

It is nothing to do with you if a woman chooses to bring her child up herself rather than go back to work.

Even with all these flexible hours maybe she just doesn't want to!

so you begrudge her leaving work to look after her new born baby? a baby not a 10yr old child?

maybe she has a partner who if wealthy enough that she dousnt need to work?

shes doing her best for her family,

I don't work because I want to be with my babies, I don't care about the career prospects of some random other mother.

I love annoying people by doing nothing

Anyone for more coffee?

YABU surely it's her decision and nothing to do with you.

How do you know she "can't be bothered to work"? Have you actually asked her?

There's a big difference between "not being bothered to work" and choosing to be a SAHM.

YABU and fucking judgemental.

She might have done the maths and figured out that it'd be better economically for her to be a SAHM than if she worked and paid for childcare.

Not everyone has a sufficiently high-paying job (or indeed likes their job enough) to want to go back to it instead of taking care of their kids.

It's not like taking care of a baby isn't work - otherwise why would nannies and childminders expect to get paid?

YABU

Oh you know YABU but you've clearly just posted this to annoy so sit back and watch it happen ...

I'm 22 weeks pregnant at the moment and we are still debating whether I'll stop working or not because I'm nervous about giving up a good job, but I do want to be able to spend time at home with my son when he arrives. Working out the finances is one thing, working out timings is another which makes it difficult for me to realistically continue in my job so its more than likely I will stop. That's my choice, it isn't going to impact on your future employment.

You do know that the planet Earth revolves around the Sun and not, in fact, you?

I haven't had a proper job since 2001, do I care what you think - no. I work one hour at lunchtime and that suits me fine. Oh and guess what my children are 13 & 7 - shocking!!

Never heard a baby called a 'silly excuse' before...

what were her reasons 'exactly'? Everyone's circumstances can be very different

Is there anything wrong with wanting to stay at home and look after your children yourself?

There is nothing to say she wont go back to work when the children are older. If she is going to be an unreliable unenthusiastic employee surely employers 'dreading' mums coming back to work because their heart isn't in it is worse?

I think YABU

I find the children/ work balance (happiness/guilt) the hardest part of becoming a mum and do not judge anyone on their choices of how they manage that delicate existence.

It's an interesting point actually. The tone of the OP is vile, but unfortunately there is still a culture of prejudice against mothers in some workplaces.

So the OP is bitter of course, and badly worded (unless trolling and fishing for a fight), but there is some truth to the undercurrent, so to speak.

Oh and thanks very much, there'll be a load of comments about women 'dumping their children on others' coming any minute.

Time to HIDE this thread I think.

Erm, Hella, there are loads of women who don't quit working when they have a baby.

If there weren't, the WOHM/SAHM debates wouldn't be nearly as vitriolic boring frequent.

(YABU btw)

My children are at school, so I have 6 hours to kill.