AIBU to be annoyed with mothers who can't be bothered to work?

[HellaH]

Went to a baby playgroup the other day and met yet another mother who has handed in her notice just because she has had a baby.

Thanks a lot! Now when I will go looking for a job employers will think that I too will hand in my notice if I fall pregnant again and will probably take on a man instead of me.

Can't wait for men to get more parental leave, maybe it will equal things out a bit!

And surely with the flexible working hours law and such a woman CAN go back to work without silly excuses.

Someone else is more than welcome to the nightmare that my old job was.

I think employers would far rather you hand in your notice so they can employ someone else, rather than take a year's maternity leave that they have to pay for and also cover your work with a temporary person.

And another thing ...

Why is it you only recognise paid work as work?

This is an important point because one of the interesting things about our current socio-cultural condition is that women are leaving unpaid, caring work for paid work.

That's not an entirely bad thing. As your post shows, paid work brings recognition of labour done, and money (along with increased opportunity to fraternise, organise, and petition for political/workerist rights.

But who, now, does the caring work? Some of it can be outsourced, but not all ...

If I won the lottery or DH suddenly got a humungous pay rise I'd give up my contract at work and just do the bare minimum of hours to keep my registration.

YABU

Yes you're right, it would be so much better if she dumped the child in a nursery for 60 hours a week and got back to work wouldn't it ?

I don't mind if you are annoyed. I have no intention of working for a few years (at least until DS2 starts school).

Am loving being at home, DH makes more than enough to support us comfortably, and I enjoy phaffing around.

It's great, if I had known how much easier my life could be I wouldn't have worked when I had DS1.

hahaha Mofo I said that already - do catch up woman 3)

can I ask a question to Maylee and overcooked, by benefits, do you mean CTC and child benefit, what do you mean exactly?

I agree with BluddyMoFo - everyone who can afford to not work should bugger off out of their jobs so there are more employment opportunities for those of us who need the money :o

Gino isn't getting nekkid, but the fit Hub man did They did threaten a naked Eamon Holmes, but I think they were joking.

YABU- I could have kept my job - out of the house at 7am back at 7.30pm sleep away 1 night a week and on call 24 hrs .... Don't be so very silly. Some people are able / can / want keep their jobs for others it is impossible or simply they prefer to be a mum.

OP - How about I give you something even worse to be annoyed at?

I left my job because I got married! I didn't even have the excuse of any babies.

I just found myself a man and quit my job - enjoy having a good rant about that one if it gives you that lovely sense of superiority.

Yes. YABVVVU. If they can afford it, why the hell shouldn't she stay at home with her baby? It's their choice.
Or have you stopped to think about childcare? Sometimes it just isn't possible (ie affordable.) I have 2 children, worked when my eldest was born and carried on working, but when number 2 came along I had to give work up as there was no way I could have afforded to put both in nursery! I would have actually been paying to go to work, that's how ridiculously expensive it can be in relation to some wages!
Now my youngest is about to start school I'm frantically applying for jobs as I'll need one for my sanity, I'd go stir crazy if I was at home all day until 3pm by myself!

Bravo, AMum!

YABU. I planned to return to work when I had my child, but the ex couldn't be trusted to look after him. When I left him, I went into a refuge, where it would have been financially unsuitable for me to work. Until my son was 21 months, I was a SAHM, I'm now back at uni. But hy, that'll give you something else to get on your high horse about, I suppose.

Hella, have you considered going for this womans job?
You know there's a vacancy now!

I don't know any mothers who don't work.

They might do unpaid work but it's still work.

Nekkid man on ITV right now

Shocker op hasn't come back.

Btw op I'm gonna quit just to piss you off

Actually, Ormirian, I keep the work bit to a bare minimum.

*looks for jobs page in case Eammon gets his kit off