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To be shocked on the way the girls are dressed on My big fat Gypsie Wedding

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pigletmania · 25/01/2011 22:32

I understand that the Gypsie/travelling community have very high morals, why the hell are the little girls dressed like mini lolitas Hmm. Flesh everywhere, and dressed in a sexual manner. Its fine for the adults if they want to dress like that and wear those big wedding dresses, but not kids. They are just little girls.

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friedtoacrisp · 25/01/2011 22:33

It's their way, not ours. Is there a high incidence of child sexual abuse within tha gypsy/travelling community?

troisgarcons · 25/01/2011 22:34

Why should you be shocked at Traveller culture?

It might be a meat market - but they don't slut around and bed out of wedlock or have illegitimate babies.

AuntiePickleBottom · 25/01/2011 22:34

the little girls seems to get excited about wearing them.

Also you can't control people mind about looking 'sexual'

PaisleyLeaf · 25/01/2011 22:35

If I let my 6 year old chose, buy and select her own clothes/shoes I think that's how she'd probably want to dress. Big, puffy ballgowny, princessy stuff.

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pigletmania · 25/01/2011 22:35

I dont know, but surely its not right for a little child to wear hotpants and crop tops with heels. Its kind of hypocrasy to say that they are very strict but then to allow little girls to dress like that.

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celebmum · 25/01/2011 22:35

where do they find/buy cloths like this? the UK was in uproar when primark sold croptops/hot pants/'sexy' clothes aimed at 8/9yr olds....!!!! Shock

TrillianAstra · 25/01/2011 22:36

What is a "mini lolita"? Is it not inherent in the concept of Lolita that she was underage?

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pigletmania · 25/01/2011 22:37

Not shocked at the traveller culture trois just the way the little girls are dressed, as I have been on another C4 programme a while ago about child stardom or something. Its still a child whether they are a traveller child or not.

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pigletmania · 25/01/2011 22:40

Why cant I be shocked that a young child is allowed to dress in hotpants, crop tops and heels and dancing provocatively, cant be right wherever the child is from traveller or not.

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BarbieLovesKen · 25/01/2011 22:42

Yes, you have a good point. I said this to DH last week when watching actually, that whilst they have such high morals I dont understand why they dress like prositutes (I wasnt talking about the childrent, the adults).

Completely respect the culture and each to their own but just very curious as to why.

GloriaSmut · 25/01/2011 22:43

The gypsy/travelling community have extremely high moral standards and certainly while their young girls might be rather extremely dressed they don't drink or sleep around.

Unlike a depressing number of similarly aged girls from outside the traveller community who go out wearing fanny-length skirts and add to their general air of elegance by vomiting in gutters and fucking in back alleys.

So of moral high ground, I think one has to be very careful before attempting to occupy it all.

Booandpops · 25/01/2011 22:43

The big dresses were fine. My dd would love one! Not my taste tho. The other pop star clothes were awful but as someone mentioned not purely travellers that dress like this. It was wrong to me but not my culture I guess!! So who am I to comment.

AuntiePickleBottom · 25/01/2011 22:43

i suppose light clothes are easier to wash and dry when living in a caravan

Aims80 · 25/01/2011 22:46

It's entirely innocent. Don't get your knickers in a twist.

bubblewrapped · 25/01/2011 22:47

The message that their clothes give out though, certainly the older girls, is provocative sexuality, tarty, cheap, and gagging for it.

Whether they are or not, it certainly isnt a chaste image and really does look dreadful.

I also have very clear memories of travellers in the pubs around Epsom at Derby week, and the girls certainly dont have high moral standards then.

AuntiePickleBottom · 25/01/2011 22:51

but saying there clothe give out the wrong msssage, it like saying that women who get raped wearing skimpy clothing lead the men on.

A person should be able to wear what they want, if someone thinks it sexual they should keep the thought to themselves.

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pigletmania · 25/01/2011 22:53

Its not the communion dresses, its the ones that the little girls danced in at the party. Not all people from outside the travelling community get pissed, sleep around and end up in gutters. Who knows what the little girls will do in the future. And the little girl being stray tanned for the first communion! I think that these first communiions are more about show, and less about religion imo.

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pigletmania · 25/01/2011 22:55

Auntie yes people should wear what they want, but little girls are children and cannot have the same freedom as adults.

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allatsea1 · 25/01/2011 22:59

What about indigenous tribes who don't wear clothes in the traditional sense? Do we judge them as overtly sexual or just accept it's part of their culture?

bubblewrapped · 25/01/2011 23:00

it like saying that women who get raped wearing skimpy clothing lead the men on

no doubt I will be flamed here, but when women go out with a skirt showing their ass, and cleavage falling out of their top, with belly on display, they are hardly saying "dont look at me"...

yes, women should be able to wear what they want, but dressing in a provocative way that attracts attention IS asking for trouble.

Of course it doesnt mean that a woman should be raped for wearing those sort of clothes, but the message a woman dressed like a prostitute sends out is that she wants attention.. decent normal men will avoid a woman like that, some blokes will think she is fair game to treat like shit..

thats the way the world is..

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pigletmania · 25/01/2011 23:01

That is totally different allatsea, the type of attire is different. The clothes that the children were wearing were minituriesed adult clothes which give out certain messages. Ok then all the girls should be able to wear what they want. Would you let your dd if you have one dress in that way!

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AuntiePickleBottom · 25/01/2011 23:02

it part of there culture, every one in the culture wears the same sort of clothes...to them it is normal way of life.

i have seen my nieces dance like pop stars ( in a sexual way) however this is behind closed doors.

these little girl live in carvan, which don't have the room like a living room

bubblewrapped · 25/01/2011 23:02

What about indigenous tribes who don't wear clothes in the traditional sense? Do we judge them as overtly sexual or just accept it's part of their culture?

stilettos, hot pants and crop tops are not traditional to any culture.. as far as I am aware..

kissingfrogs · 25/01/2011 23:05

It was the mother of the bride's fake-bake face that won the award for most startling moment Grin
A close second was taking a fire extinguisher to the wedding incase the bride caught fire Grin

troisgarcons · 25/01/2011 23:06

Traveller girls dont go out unchaperoned either ..... they go in groups, they dont leave each other, they dont drink before marriage... meat market it might by by 'our' standards ... but they are chaste and faithful - unlike a very large proportion of manstream society. They'd rather die than have illigetitimate children; yes, they should be applauded for their sexual morals.

no man wants second hand goods.