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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

to be speechless at this behaviour?

216 replies

Smuddy81 · 17/01/2011 14:54

My DH and DS (15months) were visiting the church where my father is vicar yesterday and as it was his 60th birthday there was fizz and cake after the service for all the congregation. My dad was having a great time and loved showing off his only grandchild to his flock (it was so lovely actually) but as he was talking to a couple of ladies from the church one of them had been coo-ing over DS and all of a sudden shoved a huge chunk of cake into his mouth!

I was at a distance looking on and wasnt able to get there in time to ask her what the hell she was doing but to say I was shocked was an understatement! I actually shrieked!

I have a few issues with this and tell me if IABU but surely having food shoved in your mouth when you're not expecting it (and even if you are) is a basic human rights violation! Also, what if he had an allergy she wasnt aware of. I let him have a bit of cake every now and again so thats not an issue but she even ask my dad if he was allowed any, she just shoved it in!

I'm sure DS didnt really mind although he was a bit taken aback! (He's BLW'd too so never really has anyone put food in his mouth for him!)

Maybe I've blown it out of all proportion but I was so shocked! She was an older lady if that's relevant? Is this just what they do!?

AIBU?

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sarah293 · 17/01/2011 16:30

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nickelbabysnatcher · 17/01/2011 16:33

I'd be a bit annoyed, too, actually.

you have blown it out of proportion and she should have asked you or your dad.

but no harm done, after all.

Ozzy1 · 17/01/2011 16:35

I was having a rubbish day but this has made me laugh out loud! Hilarious!

Ormirian · 17/01/2011 16:36

Evil bitch cake-pusher! I'll bet she hangs about school gates too.....

Ormirian · 17/01/2011 16:37

Oh lord. Is this serious? Hmm It isn't is it?

MrsFlittersnoop · 17/01/2011 16:42

Somehow these dreadful old hags have managed to raise our parents and ourselves to adulthoodwithout the benefit of the latest childcare guidelines.

I find the ageism implicit in these nasty comments about "old women" touching babies, or giving them treats really quite distressing. Have you ever thought how completely starved of human physical contact and affection some lonely elderly people are?

I used to be friends with a (genuine!) masseuse who made a point of offering very discounted rates to OAPs for this very reason. Some of her clients would uncontrollably during their first session with her, because it had been years since anyone had touched them, even as a gesture of kindess.

nickelbabysnatcher · 17/01/2011 16:42

Orm Grin

reminds me of the Chris Brass (or whatever his name was....) The Day Today, with their Cake scandal! Grin

MrsFlittersnoop · 17/01/2011 16:43

Sorry - that should read "weep uncontrollably".

nickelbabysnatcher · 17/01/2011 16:44

MrsF :(

QuickLookBusy · 17/01/2011 16:45

I think Mrs that people are having a bit of fun and are being highly sarcastic.

JamieLeeCurtis · 17/01/2011 16:46

Right, am going to have to start believing in God or at the very least, going to church, on the off-chance that someone may shove cake in my gob ....

JamieLeeCurtis · 17/01/2011 16:48

MrsF

I'm with you. Loads of of ageism on MN. Some people can't wit to get their "old bag/hag/cow/bitch" comments out

JamieLeeCurtis · 17/01/2011 16:48

wait - not wit.

Disclaimer - many comments on this thread of this ilk have been sarcastic

wannaBe · 17/01/2011 16:49

I'm assuming this is a wind-up - bof was it you?

GandTiceandaslice · 17/01/2011 16:51

What church is this. I'll happily let old dears shove cake in my mouth!

YABU as baby is 15 months old. He probably loved it!

ILovedYou · 17/01/2011 16:52

Time and time again this kind of thing keeps on happening in our society.

What are the Government doing about his?

Nowt

Bring back hanging NOW!

MrsFlittersnoop · 17/01/2011 16:52

Sorry for being a bit of a downer Blush. Must be the rapidly approaching 50th birthday, but I do read some extraordinary assumptions on MN about older people.

dinkystinky · 17/01/2011 16:52

Iraq, Iran, North Korea, Little old church going ladies bearing cake - a regular axis of evil!

Perhaps they should start hunting for Osama Bin Laden(with-lots-of-baked-goodies) among the blue rinse knitting circles of the CofE as opposed to those Afghani tunnels Hmm

lucky1979 · 17/01/2011 16:53

Finally I have foubnd a good point to having a fussy eater - DD hates trying new foods, so people at parties ask me (or not) and try and feed her things and she always clamps her lips shut and shakes her head at them.

I look like a lovely liberal mother, and she still eats nothing but bloody rice cakes and fruit.

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TurkeyBurgerThing · 17/01/2011 16:57

WHAT ABOUT THE CAKE'S RIGHTS????????

SantosLHalper · 17/01/2011 16:59

Get. a. grip.
And give your child more cake.

BluddyMoFo · 17/01/2011 17:00

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QuickLookBusy · 17/01/2011 17:05

Don't worry Mrs-we will all be old one day [hopefullyGrin]

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