to be speechless at this behaviour?

[Smuddy81]

My DH and DS (15months) were visiting the church where my father is vicar yesterday and as it was his 60th birthday there was fizz and cake after the service for all the congregation. My dad was having a great time and loved showing off his only grandchild to his flock (it was so lovely actually) but as he was talking to a couple of ladies from the church one of them had been coo-ing over DS and all of a sudden shoved a huge chunk of cake into his mouth!

I was at a distance looking on and wasnt able to get there in time to ask her what the hell she was doing but to say I was shocked was an understatement! I actually shrieked!

I have a few issues with this and tell me if IABU but surely having food shoved in your mouth when you're not expecting it (and even if you are) is a basic human rights violation! Also, what if he had an allergy she wasnt aware of. I let him have a bit of cake every now and again so thats not an issue but she even ask my dad if he was allowed any, she just shoved it in!

I'm sure DS didnt really mind although he was a bit taken aback! (He's BLW'd too so never really has anyone put food in his mouth for him!)

Maybe I've blown it out of all proportion but I was so shocked! She was an older lady if that's relevant? Is this just what they do!?

AIBU?

This is the sort of thing thsat happens when you let an elderly congregation play fast and loose with booze and carbs.

As the Dalai Lama once said, "Human Beings, indeed all sentient beings, have the right to pursue cake-free happiness and live in peace and freedom"

Nb - dry humour intended there.

A little OTT perhaps but YANBU. No harm done, we all know that but its still irritating. Why do old ladies think its ok to do stuff like this? If you had turned round a few minutes sooner you would have seen her giving your ds his first taste of bubbly!

'Cakeboarding is going to be the next big thing at Guantanamo, I bet.'

If so,I'm on the first flight to Cuba.

I await the "gateux violations" facebook group with impatience. I think that there should be a scale of seriousness (a light fruitcake only warranting a 'green' low level of alert, whereas choclate or coffee and walnut cake would obviously get a big flashing red light).

I think you were perfectly within your rights to be shocked and outraged. What if he had choked? Plus it's sugary, junk food - you may not want your child eating that kind of stuff.

I understand how you feel. But no harm done so try and move on from it now. However, make it very clear to all your family, that at social gatherings, only you and your OH are in charge of feeding. Strangers are not allowed to feed your child!!

*chocolate

at cakeboarding.

It always starts with that little bit of free cake.
Then you are hooked and they start charging you huge amounts and when you end up begging for just a bit on account do they show any mercy ? No

You end up trapped. walkng their lap dogs or holding their knitting yarn just to get a bit of maderia. Wasted lives

Theres a reason why strangers are called strangers-cos they are strange!-and they will randomly do things to other peoples DC that they used to do to their own. totally unacceptable to you but not to them..I imagine in 50 years time we will be doing the same!!And people will come on MN and complain about us!

Pag

I look to a day when people will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their Victoria Sponge. (MLK).

arf at OP trying to make out we are the weirdos for laughing at her human rights line rather than knowing it was a joke and laughing with her. oh silly old us eh?

You go to their house, planning just to have one small, innocent piece of cake, then the coercion begins... "just one more slice..." Before you know it you're vomiting all over the floral sofa.

I needed cheering up, and this has done the job! Thanks OP. YABU - they were teaching your child how to share nicely. I was more concerned about the poster who said she is not obsessed with cleanliness, bit does not like people touching her dc hands? Fine, if you don't like it, but it does mean you are obsessed with cleanliness.

"This is the sort of thing thsat happens when you let an elderly congregation play fast and loose with booze and carbs."

Brilliant, love it.

at this thread.

I had a friend once who was addicted. It was awful. I caught her once in the gent's toilets at a pub. When I asked her what she was doing she said she's overheard someone talking about "Urinal cakes" and she just had to have one.

She had to move to Portugal in the end. Their cakes are proper shit.

Hardly a violation of human rights is it, get over yourself
It was how ever very very rude and she should not have done it, but to say it is a violation of his human rights makes you sound barking

I'm coming out in support of Smuddy!!! I do think it's totally out of order to be shoving cake into anyone's mouth, regardless of age. DS may be 15 months old but he is still a person and I would be very put out by seeing this. Yes, ok, the shrieking and 'human rights' reference is possibly OTT but I understand the gist of where OP is coming from

So I think YANBU to be pissed off OP

hil-ar-i-ous. church setting makes it even funnier. can see a little britain-esque sketch featuring oversensitive first time parents and fuss and nonsense older ladies (in hats) getting kids to do all sorts of dangerous things.

Can I be your friend ??

Hee hee, at that age my two would have had their HEAD in the cake

Fascinating. All goes to confirm my theory that food has replaced sex as the new parental anxiety/taboo.

Why is it "rude"? Eating cake is nice. So is feeding toddlers. She was giving him a treat to be kind. It wasn't rum-soaked trifle or a hash cookie.

As for popping it in his mouth, please remember that baby-led weaning is a completely alien concept to anyone with children over the age of 10. Us older mums are accustomed to stuffing grub into kids gobs, not waiting for them to "choose" what they eat.

That cake could have contained polonium. YANBU.