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AIBU?

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Original poster

to be speechless at this behaviour?

216 replies

Smuddy81 · 17/01/2011 14:54

My DH and DS (15months) were visiting the church where my father is vicar yesterday and as it was his 60th birthday there was fizz and cake after the service for all the congregation. My dad was having a great time and loved showing off his only grandchild to his flock (it was so lovely actually) but as he was talking to a couple of ladies from the church one of them had been coo-ing over DS and all of a sudden shoved a huge chunk of cake into his mouth!

I was at a distance looking on and wasnt able to get there in time to ask her what the hell she was doing but to say I was shocked was an understatement! I actually shrieked!

I have a few issues with this and tell me if IABU but surely having food shoved in your mouth when you're not expecting it (and even if you are) is a basic human rights violation! Also, what if he had an allergy she wasnt aware of. I let him have a bit of cake every now and again so thats not an issue but she even ask my dad if he was allowed any, she just shoved it in!

I'm sure DS didnt really mind although he was a bit taken aback! (He's BLW'd too so never really has anyone put food in his mouth for him!)

Maybe I've blown it out of all proportion but I was so shocked! She was an older lady if that's relevant? Is this just what they do!?

AIBU?

OP posts:
Misfitless · 17/01/2011 15:06

I agree that the human rights violation is a bit much though, TBH!

wheresmejumper · 17/01/2011 15:06

What does a shriek actually sound like? Ive never heard a shriek before...Did people look at you wierdly?

scurryfunge · 17/01/2011 15:07

Free the Battenburg One!

Original poster
Smuddy81 · 17/01/2011 15:07

btw loving that people think I'm serious about it being a HR violation! Grin

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pagwatch · 17/01/2011 15:07
Grin

yy scurry - much better than flangate.

DameShirleyKnot · 17/01/2011 15:08

When I was a child, I had my human rights violated once a week by the evil of cake. I was forced. FORCED to eat Gypsy Tart at school.

Even the name of the stuff is casually racist.

Acanthus · 17/01/2011 15:08

Ha ha ha ha you loon!

Ooopsadaisy · 17/01/2011 15:08

I have just re-read the post - your ds is 15 months.

I read it first as 5 months.

If he doesn't like it he'll hurl/puke it back at her won't he?

She was just being kind - poor old gal.

I wish someone would shove cake in my mouth.

I think it should be against my human rights NOT to have cake shoved in regularly.

I'm sorry but I think YABU.

pagwatch · 17/01/2011 15:09

Cake is evil.
but a boubrbon dunked in coffee is soft enough to chew

KaraStarbuckThrace · 17/01/2011 15:10

Smuddy Grin

I think it gets people's backs up because it is too often a term which is bandied about inappropriately, and from the tone of your post it didn't appear you were joking!

VinegarTits · 17/01/2011 15:10

funny OP, made me laugh this did Grin

wheresmejumper · 17/01/2011 15:11

You might laugh at peoples reaction to human rights violation smuddy but I bet they werent far off the mark when thy said your DS is a PFB eh?

GetOrfMoiLand · 17/01/2011 15:11

I remember a dear old soul gave dd a gingerbread man when she was about 1.

i let her eat it

These days I would have to strong arm the woman against a wall and shriek until she was taken away.

Aims80 · 17/01/2011 15:11

Smuddy I got that you were joking don't worry!
I don't think I'd like this either so don't worry! Did anyone say anything?

JenaiMarrHePlaysGuitar · 17/01/2011 15:11

If a colleague I didn't know shoved cake in my mouth, I would indeed be approaching HR.

Grin at shrieked though OP.

freshmint · 17/01/2011 15:12

If you read this in 5 years time when you have had three babies (and your third will be on the floor, under the desk, chewing a pen lid) you will be so embarrassed it may well keep you awake at nights.

Can't believe you shrieked. What a numpty!

COCKadoodledooo · 17/01/2011 15:12

15 months? Meh. 5 months I'd have had a problem, maybe. But human rights violation?? Bwahahahaha!

fatpantsandgladrags · 17/01/2011 15:12

Oh dear......if your DS was 5 months I would have agreed with you, however you're being very pfb over a 15 month old! Wait until you have another child, you'll be grateful when little old ladies shove cake into it's mouth so you don't have to Grin

Original poster
Smuddy81 · 17/01/2011 15:12

My SOH is waaaay too dry obviously! (as was the cake)

Apologies.

(could have something to do with not actually being allowed cake myself. My outrage is obviously spawned from pure jealousy!)

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madhairday · 17/01/2011 15:14

rofl @ 'gateux violations inflicted by religious fanatics' Grin

OP yabu, but I think you know you are really.

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 17/01/2011 15:15

Cake is evil????? Good lord, what heresy is this? Cake (if made well) is delicious, and my mum's caraque cake is proof that there really is a God (which will horrify her beyond belief as she is an atheist). And my coffee cake is pretty angelic too!

Smuddy - well done for coming back and taking it on the chin. And at least she didn't follow the lump of cake up with a swig of champagne to help your ds wash it down!

QuickLookBusy · 17/01/2011 15:16

She should have asked first but I wouldn't be too annoyed. It was only a little bit of cake.

My DDad gave my precious DD2 a whole SAUSAGE at a family do when she was 8 months. He was a bit tipsy and thought she ate whole sausages all the time! Mind you maybe he was on to something, what with this new fangled BLW thingSmile. They didn't have that in my day, we cut things up into little pieces.

LetThereBeRock · 17/01/2011 15:16

YANBU if it was fruitcake or anything with even a hint of marzipan. Otherwise YABU.

And as for 'human rights violation'.They were feeding him cake,not exactly up there with waterboarding is it?

ItWasSelfDefence · 17/01/2011 15:17

OP I know where you are coming from. Someone fed my DD a piece of peanut brittle Shock when we were at a party at one of those soft play centres. It wasn't the food provided by the party, she had brought along her own peanut brittle and was just handing it out.

Your story is funny because its about cake (mmm, cake mmmm) but had it been something other than cake it might be a different story.

I was livid but managed not to say anything. I made her spit it out though because she was only one at the time and didn't have enough teeth to manage to eat it anyway!

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 17/01/2011 15:18

Cakeboarding is going to be the next big thing at Guantanamo, I bet.