To think swinging is URRGH!?

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There is are two couples on This Morning just now talking about their love for swinging. They're just your normal looking every day couples. One couple own a swinging hotel and they do to clubs.

I find this really sleazy and just plain weird. She's saying that it's really common amongst primary school teachers too!!

Eeeew I bet they'll be swapping after the show.

AIBU to think this is a very strange thing to do and be so open about?

fb, someone (I think Mal) claimed your sex life can't be very good if you swing. You responded 'we've been swinging since 6 months into our relationship so our sex life has always been exciting thanks'. Doesn't that reinforce what Mal said to you? That it has always been exciting because of swinging? What were your reasons for not giving your relationship its own sex life for longer than 6 months before introducing other couples? Genuine question, not criticism!

I think it's sweet that they have a lounge just for gingers.

well she was already beiing hump[ed and he moved next to her

so are you saying that people in swingwer clubs have to be humped?

not in my experience

didn't want to but could have...

I regularly nearly kill DH , he's often left looking like he's been mauled by lions and can't even speak for a few minutes afterwards.
Oh I'm good, me.

"at set times we even close the curtains for sexy close up dancing"

I must point out here that I have nothing against swinging or anything really, as I said further up thread (everything I'm typing sounds like a double entendre to me) but I think that website is just, hilarious

I laughed at Gingers too.
Sorry to any red heads.

and also what happens on the Reception Stairway so that there's a photo of it? and why not any photos of the "Kasbah"

ILY - so he was waiting for his turn ?

I can't think of anything less erotic than a swingers club, they must be full of desperate (to hang on to their husband) women and pathetic cuckold men.

NOthing wrong with it.. but it does always seem a bit.... unhygenic

And the ones they show are always pushing 70 like leftovers of the free love generation

Tatty PSML

I had experiences in 3somes in my 20s and been with woman which made me realise I liked having sex with both.

FWIW- I was the one who suggested it to DH (and he is the best sex I have had- keeps on getting better )

We did try the club thing- some are vile, some are clicky, some feel like a bit of a spa retreat with lots of naughty stuff involved- we're not fond of them as the social/personal aspect is important to us- I can't shag someone I find stupid or that can't make me laugh IYSWIM- This is why we choose carefully who we get involved with.

justcarrots

Your questions:

Do you fancy your husband when you see him having sex with another woman? Yes - I also find it very sexy

Do the men stay 'away' from each other?Usually yes unless there are things they want to try- I have seen a man give head to DH I liked it.

Do you have any rules on what you won't do with another partner (kissing etc)? We had so many rules in the beginning only to learn that a lot of them had to be broken- I can't ask my DH (who is a fantastic lover) to be cold and not be considerate while with another women - that's just not who he is. Safe sex is a must-We have a code phrase when one of us gets uncomfortable with a situation- We have learned a great deal about each other and ourselves along the way.

Do you ever find men/ women that are better than your partner? No- I had great times and some people are great lovers. My favorite moment when we meet others is when we go to bed together, talk about our night and have mind-blowing sex!

I never thought I'd post that kind of stuff !

Nothing worse than a clicky sex club.

I'm so sorry.

I quite like clicky sex. You can get a rhythm going, like a metronome.

I was just a little bit sick in my mouth at " I have seen a man give head to DH I liked it" .

Thankyou for your answers! I can see why it would be a turn on - my problem would be jealousy. I would feel very envious of a good looking woman with my husband in case he wanted her more. I guess you must have a lot of trust in your relationship!

I can understand why people don't like it as well - but as it is not hurting anyone I am not sure why anyone would get angry about it.

I'm getting very interested in the Atlantis. You can learn lap and pole dancing and wear tall red plastic boots. My kinda place.

oops

I ment cliquey-

Oh FFS mal,some people are bisexual.

Get over yourself.

I clicked on one of the links and I'm at work - that was stupid wasn't it?

LeQueen. I have a fantastic DP, we really love each other. We have the most amazing sex (sorry TMI, but it's relevent to make my point). We both share a mutual love of all things slightly different andwe like to push the boundaries sexually, shall we say.

We both like the idea of sharing our wonderful sex life with another couple. We are totally faithful to each other and have complete trust in each other. Our sex life is far from dull and boring. We do it for each other long term, we are both happy to only ever have sex with each other, however we both feel it would be mutually enjoyable - ENHANCE not REPLACE our own private sex life.

At some point we will meet another couple for sex. We are not ugly old gits with crappy hair either. I am 25 he is 41 and we are both fairly attractive, intelligent and professionals.

Malificence - Er why? Some men are bisexual! Why does a man giving another man oral sex make you vomit in your own mouth?