To think swinging is URRGH!?

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There is are two couples on This Morning just now talking about their love for swinging. They're just your normal looking every day couples. One couple own a swinging hotel and they do to clubs.

I find this really sleazy and just plain weird. She's saying that it's really common amongst primary school teachers too!!

Eeeew I bet they'll be swapping after the show.

AIBU to think this is a very strange thing to do and be so open about?

If you think that swinging guarantees that your partner won't have an illicit affair .

There have been a few women on here over the years who thought that too, until their husband went off with one of their fuckbuddies or had some other cyber affair.

Naive much?

I can't see it's weirder than any other human practice.

I think I've read far more threads started by women who thought they were in monogamous relationships and have found their partners are having affair/s.

In RL I have disclosed this info to a few close friends and I was taken aback with some of the reactions. Some people are very uncomfortable with that concept.

I namechanged here because I don't talk about my sex life on MN.

Apart from today ! Ha!

See, I don't consider it an affair if both parties know and agree to what is happening. An affair to me means lies, deciet and emotional pain. If you can handle having sex with other people, and your partner doing the same, without any ill affect I don't think that's an affair.

can I ask where marriage vows fit into this scene? seriously - if you are both happy to break them, how much did they mean in the first place?

and I also think it VERY unlikely that both partners would suddenly both get the urge to try swinging - much more likely that one partner wanted it and the other went along with it for fear of losing them

I am with Mal - other partners of either sex, whether known about by the spouse = infidelity

also,another genuine q, how can you feel 100% secure, that your DP is not going to meet someone who just turns him on more or with whom sex is better - how do you cope with the jealousy/am I good enough aspect?

I have no problem with it if both partners are getting their kicks from it! I have questions though....not meaning any double meanings, these are genuine questions as I am actually quite interested!!

Do you fancy your husband when you see him having sex with another woman?
Do the men stay 'away' from each other?
Do you have any rules on what you won't do with another partner (kissing etc)?
Do you ever find men/ women that are better than your partner?

I don't think I'd want to live my life that in any way put me at risk of being reincarnated as an Alley Cat.

If DH and I were at such a low ebb that talking about having sex with other people was the best option for us I'd pack it in and go travel round the world.

But then, I'm not a people person.

But LeQueen, he lost a car

I went to a swinging club for a look about once. Stayed fully clothed all night. I was amazed at the inteeligent professional types that had travelled hundreds of miles to have a swing. IT WAS THE MOST DISGUSTING EXPERIENCE OF MY LIFE!! I felt dirty for abotu a year afterwarda and i am not uptight about sex. Not natural for an accountant to flip up her white skirt next to me at the bar and have the guy standing next to me also hump her.

Oh yes there are kitchen roll holders with kitchen rolls on them at the emd of each sofa. LMAO

Never again but was curios.

No i did NOT before you ask!!! LOL

There is a swingers club in along an A road we drive down to visit my parents. It's in the middle of nowhere and only ever seems to have one clapped out Volvo in the carpark. DH and I often picture the poor Volvo driver sitting in the club, complete with glitter ball, sipping a warm coke and sadly watching the door.....

I think Malicifance (or whatever it is, sorry, my brain can't do words today) is sounding a bit naive there.

I dont think any of the swingers FBWife or Chandilier) are saying it guarantees their partner wont have an affair. Hell, nobody can truly guarantee that.

I dont see why swingers are any more likely to have had or have HPV than any other sexually active person. You may have been married for 30 years and faithful but have been a complete slut before you married, or your husband was. You may have married at 16 but been swingers who have had less partners overall. And surely swingers are just as able to choose to use condoms as any other sexually active person? Who says they have to swap bodily fluids at all?

There are a few assumptions going on here.

I have to admit though I always expect the male half of swinging couples to look like Pete Stringfellow

"my ex-boyfriend made Johnny Depp look somewhat ill-favoured"

not possible, surely LeQueen !!!

Here it is

I have no real problem with the theory, I have to admit I am squeamish about the reality

Chickens - sorry, the bit that makes me laugh a bit is "no jeans or trainers" - fetish-wear, do anything to anything, but no sports casual - that's just plain wrong

I thought the decor would be more...daring