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to want my DDs shoes back?

216 replies

purplewednesday · 07/01/2011 17:58

DD, aged 13 months goes to nursery. Another child there has an identical pair of shoes, and when her Dad collected her mid afternoon he took my DDs shoes instead of his DDs.

This Dad/ Mum won't bring them back until the child is there again on Monday. It doesn't bother them apparently because they have another pair of shoes they can use.
They would have had time too as it was mid afternoon they were taken. They are going away for the weekend which is why they can't return them, but they have only gone to Grandparents, it's not like they were catching a plane. Hmm

In the meantime, my DD has to go without shoes.

I hope they are MN and read this.

Not Happy.

OP posts:
DiscoDaisy · 07/01/2011 23:22

Slightly off track but one of my DD's lost her school PE jumper. The deputy head asked if it had her name on it! I was very polite as I pointed out that of course it had her bloody name on it as it was school policy that the PE jumpers had to have their surnames on them like football shirts. As far as I'm aware my DD was the only one with that surname at her school!

dearprudence · 07/01/2011 23:23

I've never been called lovely before Blush. Thank you pip Smile

Original poster
purplewednesday · 08/01/2011 03:17

mollyhawk - yes you are right, that was DH.

He has been told. In no uncertain terms.

I can't quite believe the number of posts about this either Grin

OP posts:
prettymuchapixiegirl · 08/01/2011 08:33

I think I would be concerned that the shoes would come back in the condition they were when they were taken more than anything else. Hopefully the parents that took the shoes by mistake will have the good sense not to let their child wear them.

The actual fact of my toddler having no shoes for a weekend wouldn't bother me too much; he is 18 months and to be honest doesn't wear shoes all the time. When we go out and he'll be in the buggy and footmuff I don't put shoes on him, and in this weather it's not often that we go out to places where he'll walk; I don't let him walk in town or anywhere where we need to get things done.

Hope the shoes get returned to you first thing on Monday and are still in good condition, OP

MorticiaAddams · 08/01/2011 10:11

YANBU if he was just being a lazy devil and had time to bring them in. At the beginning of the post I assumed that they had actually left for their weekend away but apparently not.

Also, if the Dad who took the wrong shoes didn't realise he had done so and then wouldn't bring them back he doesn't sound as if he would bother to look inside the shoes to see if they had a name in.

wishingforcrystalball · 08/01/2011 10:37

Purplewednesday please let us know if ever your dh brings home the wrong top, lunch box, wellies, shoes etc, when collecting any of your children from any venue.

As we would like to berate him for the inconvenience he would have caused the poor family Grin

Dansmommy · 08/01/2011 10:50

I know I'm a bit late to this, but why does your DD take her shoes off at nursery? Odd.

QuintessentialShadows · 08/01/2011 11:34

Dansmommy, Hmm
Dont tell me your children are wearing shoes in nursery all the time? Do they wear shoes at home all the time?

BluddyMoFo · 08/01/2011 11:48

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mutznutz · 08/01/2011 11:52

I've never heard of that. The kids don't take their shoes off at the nursery here...if they did they'd be made to put them back on.

stoppinchingthedummy · 08/01/2011 11:58

Ok well its an easy mistake - clarks have a small range of shoes for 13 month old's with little feet so probably a lot of children have the same shoe , in the same size - always name them ....Re taking shoes off in nursery - at 13 months and newly walking they dont want to be in shoes all day so of course they should take them off - we have slippers for indoors and wellies for outdoors in our nursery - so shoes are only used if its dry outside or just when they come in and go home.

QuintessentialShadows · 08/01/2011 11:59

Do the parents wear shoes inside when picking up their children?

I have never come across a nursery where outdoor shoes are worn inside, for reasons of hygiene.

TrinityMotherOfRhinos · 08/01/2011 11:59

'not stupid enough to jump in puddles'

'keep them for posterity'

PAAAH HAA HA HAAAAAAAAA Smile

mutznutz · 08/01/2011 12:02

Actually come to think of it I'm forgetting the ages in this nursery. The one I'm talking about is part of an Infant school so they're aged between 3 and 4yrs old.

StealthPolarBear · 08/01/2011 12:02

"I've had to replace DS1's shoes twice because his have gone missing from the nursery shoe box "

Shock at this - I'd be furious, and Shock that you don't think £30 is a lot of money.

Oh and I wondered how long it would be before the OP was asked if this was the worst she had to worry about Hmm

StealthPolarBear · 08/01/2011 12:03

mutznutz, are their shoes not muddy quite often? Plus it's not meant to be good for their feet to be in shoes all day, is it?

mutznutz · 08/01/2011 12:11

Stealth They're taught to wipe them thoroughly before they come in.

At that age (between 3 and 4) in a school nursery, they're only there for a max of 3hrs. Also, I suppose they're encouraged to keep them on because when they go up a year (reception class) they wouldn't be expected to take them off then either...for safety reasons I expect (craft needles and such like)

belgo · 08/01/2011 12:13

It does sound like a genuine mistake, not to be compared with other posters' examples of stealing. It's annoying, but if they are away for the weekend, then it's not surprising they can't bring them back until monday. I do hope you will get them back on monday.

Two days without shoes for a 13 month old will be good for her feet.

StealthPolarBear · 08/01/2011 12:13

ah I see
Yes, I'm thinking about 16month old DD in nursery really (who, incidentally wouldn't know what to do with a puddle :)), I'd be less concerned about 3yo DS - although I think he does take his off.

MsKLo · 08/01/2011 12:14

Yanbu

They should have returned them and it was rude of them not to!

mutznutz · 08/01/2011 12:16

It was my fault Stealth, for some reason when I hear the word nursery I always think school nursery.

As far as I know it would be a H&S breech for school children to walk around a class without footwear...again because they're old enough for craft lessons and all that.

MsKLo · 08/01/2011 12:17

Stealth
That it terrible

What sort of skanky person steals another child's shoes?

The nursery should keep an eye out and name and shame them if caught!

Steepedinalcohol · 08/01/2011 12:17

I'm not getting why it's stupid to jump in puddles either .... unless your name is Foster and you come from Gloucester.

mutznutz · 08/01/2011 12:23

(Admits to being 41 and still jumping in puddles) Blush

MrsMooo · 08/01/2011 12:24

I think YANBU to be annoyed but are being a bit U to expect them to be immediately returned - if the other parent is at home and they are going away for the weekend they genuinely may not have time, I totally second the extra half hour in car = meltdown with a toddler that someone mentioned ealier

Yes it's annoying, yes it's unfortunate that you don't have a spare pair, but cut the other parents some slack. It was a genuine mistake and it's not going to do any harm if she's without her shoes for 48 hours is it?