to want my DDs shoes back?

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DD, aged 13 months goes to nursery. Another child there has an identical pair of shoes, and when her Dad collected her mid afternoon he took my DDs shoes instead of his DDs.

This Dad/ Mum won't bring them back until the child is there again on Monday. It doesn't bother them apparently because they have another pair of shoes they can use.
They would have had time too as it was mid afternoon they were taken. They are going away for the weekend which is why they can't return them, but they have only gone to Grandparents, it's not like they were catching a plane.

In the meantime, my DD has to go without shoes.

I hope they are MN and read this.

Not Happy.

YANBU that it sounds really irritating and not ideal. But this child is 13 months old and the weather is appalling. How much walking is she realistically going to do outside between now and Monday? Wellies fine for walking the dog or other muddy trips and she can just have socks in the buggy muff if she really needs to go in the buggy. Put the wellies under the buggy and stick them on if she needs to walk. In the house, surely she can just wear socks too? And she should be either socked or barefoot in the house really, anyway, as it's not good for tiny feet to spend too much time in shoes.

I don't think it's unreasonable for a child of this age to have a single pair of expensive shoes, btw. My DD was the same at that age. And she didn't have wellies, actually, because her feet were too small (would have loved her to have some).

has this thread kicked off yet?

I cant believe there is a bunfight over whether 13 month olds should be jumping in puddles or not, or whether it is ok to only have one pair of shoes, and what a 13 month old should wear in town if she does not own shoes.

Wellies are usually taller than a small childs calves, so she would not be able to bend her knees properly in them.

no, it doesn't make it true. but i am almost certain that children are generally much older than 13 months when they learn to jump. so it seems likely that that is why she doesn't jump in puddles

am not sure why people are getting so het up about it anyway. maybe the OP just doesn't want her to. does it really matter??

You think anyone actually cares what the OP's child is wearing on here feet QuintessentialShadows I'm only on MumsNet to avoid doing Mum stuff

They care enough to comment, or rather, they care MORE about ops toddler and parenting than their own.

Personally, I a escaping "The Bear in the Blue house"

Too true! And my days of that hideous bear and the stupid mice things have well and truly passed.

Oi! My preschooler has been in bed asleep for a good hour! I am here only to give my judging muscles a good workout.

Am also sick of sodding bear in the big blue house and wish someone would take the nuclear option and bomb the lot of them, especially that irritating squeaky mouse (why is it called Tutter?).

OP our dc's grandparents are 100 miles in one direction and 240 in the other - not so easy to come back for a pair of shoes. If the shoes are identical, why couldn't your dd have worn the other girl's shoes over the weekend? I think I'd nip out tomorrow and get a cheap pair or welllies from Asda/Shoe Fayre and put it down to experience tbh.

Just like Faith No More BluddyMoFo

Horton - cos Fucker didn't get past the census. That's the real name.

Surprised OP to hear that you have other children. I thought you were a newbie at this malarkey given that you are so wound up over shoe-swapping. Kids lose things and get them mixed up all the time.

There aren't enough hours in the day to waste them being such a mardyarse over such a minor issue.

I would have borrowed the other little girls' shoes until reversing the swap on Monday. They've only been worn by another little girl, I can't see what the fuss would be about. It's not like they are a pair of smelly trainers.

And I agree with the other posters who say that you should let her run about barefoot for a weekend. Will do her feet good.

URB A little U

Get some wellies for the weekend and label everything.

My DS, aged about 2, always took his clarks shoes off at playgroup, I would go and find them at the end, one day they were nowhere, and never turned up. Nicked I presume. So I obsessively label everything, tights, mittens, sandwich boxes.

Don't be a drama queen! It's only a few days. Wear some old ones, or some wellies or the other shoes , or some 99p trainers.

Hahaha at Fucker! Too right, earwicga!

TBH I think even if I'd just got back to my house, not even going away for the weekend, I doubt I'd drive back to the nursery! It's annoyingm but that's about all.

My DS only has 1 pair of shoes as they are bloody expensive. But recently I've been thinking I need to get him a spare as he's got a bad habit of hiding single shoes. we spend far too much time trying to root the bloody things out!

the other girls shoes might not even be the same size though

and the point is why should the op HAVE to go and spend money on more shoes just because someone couldn't be bothered to check they had the right ones?

am surprised that so many people think OP is unreasonable actually

she has already said they weren't leaving to go away straight away, mum was working normal hours. so the dad had plenty of time to drop the shoes back
it's just really unthinking of them to say "it's fine, we have other shoes" without it even crossing their mind that the OP's daughter may not!

if the 13m old is expected to walk a dog surely she has a right to jump in puddles.

and if she does have wellies why is she not able to wear them for puddle jumping thus saving fancy fitted shoes for posterity??

The OP just comes across as unreasonably high-strung for the mother of a toddler.

Has her child never ripped the strap off a pair of shoes inn a bad fall? Stepped in a smelly poo/deep puddle? Taken a screaming irrational dislike to a certain item? removed them stealthily while sitting in the buggy, and silently placing them on the floor while you roll obliviously on?

Lack of shoes is an irritating but normal parenting challenge.

At one point Ds2 was driving me so potty with his shoe throwing that I owned 3 pairs of blue crocs (I figured it was a cost effective way of dealing with the unmatched shoes disaster.

OP if you've kept the shoes of your older children can you not use a pair of theirs for the weekend?

And please explain the comment of used to be dairy farmers so jumping in puddles is stupid.

Having lived in the country all my life, and having dairy farmers as god parents, I really am not seeing the link.

DH has been posting under my name while I have been putting DD to bed

The comment about not letting her jump in puddles as we are ex farmers was meant to be sarcastic. DD1 spent vast amounts of time in wellies and overalls.

The wellies she has are miles to big but they were the smallest ones in mothercare. I bought them weeks ago and she can't walk in them. DH obviously wasn't aware of this.So no, they won't suffice.

Woa judgy pants certainly got aired here didn't they! What the feck have wellies got to do with whether the child has proper shoes to wear?

I'd say YANBU and I would return the shoes if I'd made the mistake.

I did have a worse version happen though - Bought (2.3 yo) DD new shoes and after a week or so sent the old ones to the charity shop. Then a week later the mother of DDs best friend at nursery said she had the wrong shoes (my DD's initials were in the shoes her daughter was wearing) and could we swap back! I'd only send her DD's shoes to the charity shop! Mind you both children had been walking round in the wrong shoes for AT LEAST two weeks [bad mother emoticon]
I had the shop turn the place upside down but they couldnt find them. Said shoes sell really quickly. I was gutted and SO embarrassed. Other girl's mum was really nice about it and bought her DD new shoes (were nearly due anyway)

Two months later ... I found the shoes wedged under the hall stand the shame!!!!!