to want my DDs shoes back?

[purplewednesday]

DD, aged 13 months goes to nursery. Another child there has an identical pair of shoes, and when her Dad collected her mid afternoon he took my DDs shoes instead of his DDs.

This Dad/ Mum won't bring them back until the child is there again on Monday. It doesn't bother them apparently because they have another pair of shoes they can use.
They would have had time too as it was mid afternoon they were taken. They are going away for the weekend which is why they can't return them, but they have only gone to Grandparents, it's not like they were catching a plane.

In the meantime, my DD has to go without shoes.

I hope they are MN and read this.

Not Happy.

Our DS had a full on puddle-dance by 13 months old!

Having said that he'll be spending most of the weekend in socks as its better for his feet...

OP YANBU to want the shoes back nor AYBU to expect them to return them.

Sadly some people lack manners.

All my kids had more than 1 pair of shoes at 13 months simply because Im a shoe oholic laughs

I am really surprised that you have an older child as well op thought this was pfb to be honest.

And as for the poster who suggested the other parents were in the wrong so should have paid for a taxi to return the shoes . I will remember that next time ds1 comes home without his school jumper/pe kit/lunch box/shoes and suggest it to the school

Come on seriously how much does a 13 month old walk outside, it's one weekend, were you planning on doing a hike with him walking the whole time op?

He can just be in pushchair/car seat whilst out for one weekend surely, and just socks in the house is fine, if he really needs to walk somewhere cheap shoes for what 20 minutes at the park won't damage his feet, even slippers with a waterproof sole for a quick run around then dry socks on and back in pram.

Oh and actually it wasn't totally the other dads fault, the shoes weren't named, your fault then, you are very lucky to be getting them back at all considering that.

Skydance, have you not thought that DD's Grandparents may want to see her in her first shoes?

With regard to blame, DH tells me that the nursery told him that the other mother put their child's shoes in the wrong place, and that DD's shoes were taken from her (DD) clearly marked shoe holder

purplewednesday - I've thought about this long and hard. I think you should spend the weekend sourcing an AK47 and sort it all out on Monday.

'have you not thought that DD's Grandparents may want to see her in her first shoes?'

Is your whole family this precious? Oh dear.

As for 'blame' - if you want to play that game they you and your husband are to blame as you didn't name your child's shoes.

to be fair, I also initially thought they ought to have been named.
but if they have named cubby holes that they put their shoes in then that really ought to be enough didn't it?

why did the other father take them out of the wrong hole???

Because he had a deathwish thisisyesterday. This will be sorted on Monday.

i will look forward to monday morning

"ABIU to think that the cowbag who shot my husband at nursery today could have just waited for her shoes?"

disclaimer: I don't actually think you're a cowbag OP

hahhaha (don't lol) at earcwig!!
Because he had a deathwish thisisyesterday. This will be sorted on Monday

and purplewednesday

Skydance, have you not thought that DD's Grandparents may want to see her in her first shoes?

this is starting to rival the bonkers pombears thread!!

LOL thisisyesterday

YABU. It's a pair of £30 shoes.

Kids do this all the time - I've had to replace DS1's shoes twice because his have gone missing from the nursery shoe box (presumably taken home by someone else). Last week we collected DS2 - I picked him up & DH found lunchbox, shoes etc - when we got home I pointed out that his shoes were on his feet so who else's had we got? (2 sizes too small as well!).

DS1's shoes were never found and we took the wrong shoes back to DS2's nursery after the weekend. None of this hysteria or drama. Other parent glad they'd been found and returned and thanked us.

Then again, it's not -1 here and barefoot is the norm for most kids (and some parents!)

I'm with op. yanbu to expect the other childs father to return them, especially as he was at home(different if half way to an airport 100 miles away). I hope that they are in a good condition when you get them back.

And for christsake, when you get those shoes back, make sure they are stapled on good and hard for the next nursery visit.

earwicga and thisisyesterday

This thread is great, I can't stop coming back, we have 6 pages on the wrong shoes.

and as for 'have you not thought that DD's Grandparents may want to see her in her first shoes?' priceless, really, send them a photo or take her to visit more often maybe

purple is this you now, or is it still your DH winding us up?

Oh I have enjoyed this thread, thank you. I have to keep reminding myself it's about a pair of shoes lost at nursery

For the record:

The other people should have returned the shoes when they realised their mistake - or at the very least passed on profuse apologies via nursery.

The OP is being a bit precious about it, given that this is a 13m old who has no special occasion to go to and she didn't label the shoes in the first place.

It's perfectly reasonable to only have one pair of shoes for a 13 month old (of any price), because it doesn't matter that much if they get wet/lost/sicked on, as they can manage without them for a day or two.

If the first shoes of the first (two?) children have been kept for posterity, perhaps one of those might fit well enough for the weekend?

Being a bit sneery about supermarket shoes is never going to go down well on here.

I would've gone out of my way to return them if I'd been daft enough to pick up the wrong shoes.

Labels aren't always enough either. My Ds on his first games lesson of year 7 saw another boy putting on one of his rugby socks and tolds the boy who chose to ignore...Ds old the teacher who also ignored the protests of Ds who was trying to tell the teacher that his socks were labeled. Never did get it back. A few months later Ds getting changed picks up the only rugby shirt lying next to his feet and I discover at laundry time that Ds's labeled and initialed rugby top is not the one I'm about to wash...it's never been seen again and Ds is forced (by me) to wear someone elses shirt with someone elses initials on it. So kids, even when they are old enough aren't always careful enough to avoid wasting over £30's worth of games kit.

I am so happy that this shoe disaster is the least of the OP's worries.

Also so glad I am not the accidental shoe thief - Monday would be traumatic!

The worst of the OP's worries, not the least! Although it would be the least of mine! (Contemplates the hundreds or maybe thousands of school jumpers with SEWN IN NAME TAPES....)

Yanbu IMO

I would be really pissed off

She is not being unreasonable to want her daughter's shoes back, at all (original post).
IMO, she is being unreasonable to be THIS hacked off at not having them back before Monday.
Worse things happen at sea.

"Skydance, have you not thought that DD's Grandparents may want to see her in her first shoes?"

Ahahahaha. DH is back, methinks.

13 month olds do not need shoes, on the whole.

Everything the lovely Dear Prudence has said I would be cross, and yes my parents would have been disappointed to not see my boy in his first shoes - if that makes me all PFBish then so be it.