to want my DDs shoes back?

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DD, aged 13 months goes to nursery. Another child there has an identical pair of shoes, and when her Dad collected her mid afternoon he took my DDs shoes instead of his DDs.

This Dad/ Mum won't bring them back until the child is there again on Monday. It doesn't bother them apparently because they have another pair of shoes they can use.
They would have had time too as it was mid afternoon they were taken. They are going away for the weekend which is why they can't return them, but they have only gone to Grandparents, it's not like they were catching a plane.

In the meantime, my DD has to go without shoes.

I hope they are MN and read this.

Not Happy.

LOL at you

she's 13 months old not a long-distance runner

it's a weekend

sounds like a mistake

anyway she doesn't need shoes really so I'm sure you'll survive over the weekend - just have to avoid making her wakl outside

I find that a 'sharpie' marker is great.

You really can write on any surface so it works on clothes lables, as well as the soles of shoes.

Judging by the snow falling ever faster it's going to be a welly weekend

Only one pair of £30+ shoes, how does she get jump in muddy puddles?

or play in snow?

Toddlers new to walking can't manage wellies without tripping over or stepping out of them.

The best thing for newly walking children is bare feet, when that is not practical the soft leather shoes, inch blue, robeez etc are second choice.

As for certain shops who measure and fit childrens shoes, they are only as good as the person fitting them.

I need to clarify - the child was not at nursery today, but at home all day with the father. He was told at 3.00pm that they had the wrong shoes (he had taken them , not given them by staff).

I am still rankling, eleven years on, about the father who took my son's lovely new Gap hoody from nursery and left us with a manky old one. Ours was named, too, with a tag. I waited and waited but it was never returned.

If you're reading this, I HAVE NOT FORGOTTEN.

I agree with justcarrots entirely. YANBU. My dcs only had one pair of shoes at that age and wouldn't have had wellies either. The first pair of shoes are very special to many parents so it would be a bit upsetting. Given the current weather, if you can find wellies small enough without upsetting your own plans for the weekend (they were clearly unwilling to upset theirs!) then I would get a pair. She will think it is all very exciting and hopefully you can get your own shoes back on Monday. If she has a spare then there should be no need for them to have been used.

I think that the soft leather shoe things are lovely but very expensive.

What about a gripper sock?

Lunarrose - the DD is just walking. We are country dwellers (ex dairy farmers), and so not stupid enough to let DD jump in puddles.

I have to admit i would also be annoyed at the inconvenience of it and like you my main concern would be getting them back in same condition. But it's a mistake that often happens. Even with labels in it's easy when you're in a hurry just to pick them up and go. I once had mine come home with one of her own and one same style but a size bigger. he-he

We label everything but have still had belongings disappear and then reappear three weeks later...

The issue isn't really about labelling anyway as they are aware the shoes aren't their daughter's and could have brought them back if they really wanted to they just can't be bothered.

Wellies are always a useful thing to have but it would annoy me too.

Once at DD's nursery we were given a plastic bag full of dirty clothes to take home which were not DD's. I assumed someone else was given hers by mistake as well and as it was a weekend I couldn't leave them festering for four days till DD was back in nursery so I washed and dried them and sent them back the next week. In return we got DD's clothes also beautifully washed and dried! Never did trace who the other mum was.

This is a great site for labels, iron on ones and stick on ones that are great for inside shoes, lunchbox etc.
www.mynametags.com

It's not 'stupid' to jump in puddles - it's bloody good fun.

Abr1de - my mum still feels the same about the lovely jeans she sent home on one my sister's friends (after she wet herself at our house). It will NEVER go away

YANBU if they were clearly labelled.

YABU if they weren't.

Sorry, not reading the whole thread to find out the answer to that.

I'm quite surprised by the replies here, I don't think OP is unreasonable for buying her DD Clarks type first shoes, or for only having one pair, or sending her money however she wants, or for not wanting to put someone else's child's shoes on her child (?? why would anyone do that, they'd be completely the wrong length and width and might hurt her feet)

Yes labelling would be a good idea in future, but you don't always think of these things if it's your first child.

FWIW OP, - I would have brought your DD's shoes straight back as soon as I realised the mistake, and yes I would have put myself out to do so, even if it meant setting off a little later for my weekend away.

yes why?

Lolacola - I agree that it an easy mistake to make. My gripe is that the father who was the one who made the mistake, is sitting at home, and is being selfish not to rectify the mistake.

what is stupid about jumping in puddles??i dwell in sort of country and spend a lot of time in puddles..with welly wearing dd 15m...

And ref the puddle-jumping: it is wet, -1C and these are her first shoes. I want to keep them for posterity when she outgrows them as I did her sisters.