to be pissed off that DH told me infront of inlaws to go back to work?

[kanchan]

Spent New Years with inlaws.....conversation turned to work and DH started going on about how I should get back to work now the kids are all at school. I stated the obvious.....kids are all under 9, who would take/pick up from school, what about when they're ill and also I don't want the stress of it all now. He suggested I could do some work from home seeing as I must have so much free time on my hands....anyone else feel so unappreciated?

Oh, I think that definitely comes into it Xenia. If you've been full-time with them until they go to school it takes a while to recover. I do feel recovered now and ready to work, but I also understand why others don't wish to work, or can't

I think the OP's original point has been lost somewhat. It's a discussion for you and your husband OP and YANBU

you think, onceamai?

Does whoever wins get a trophy or some kind of prize?! I work full time, study (law - 15 hours a week), am project-managing an extension and have two DSs under 5. Knackered does not begin to describe it!

If I could afford to stay home with my kids I would, so I don't begrudge somebody who makes the decision to be a SAHM. I bet their houses are clean, the school uniforms are ironed and the DCs get ferried around to swimming, karate, dancing, etc with no problems.

What pisses me off is SAHMs going on about how much they have to do. Give me a break! Try cleaning the bloody toilet at 5am because it's the only chance you'll get all day or telling DC you'd love to watch a film with them but your coursework is due in tomorrow.

OP- it's already been said, but the crux of this is why does your DH want you to return to work?

it's not a competition at all. I work full time and solely support five children who are with me 100% all day, although they are getting older now so it's nothing like as hard as it was.

Pity jjkm had to make that sacrifice. Why not the husband making the career sacrifice - why always the other way about in these very sexist relationships which litter mumsnet.

Mofes

~Sometimes wish I could work so I could have them in childcare. They can't trash the hosue if they're not here. Sorry off topic just astounding at how much chaos they've created in so little time this morning.
The odd thing is I suspect I will have more to do during the day when I have 4 children at school than I did when I had just one child who was at home all the time even though he wasn't the easiest of children.
The assumptions that people make on this thread astound me. We all know some people are super mums, some struggle to be organised however hard they try, some have help from outside, some don't care so much about the state of their house, some care for grandparents I could go on. Peoples situations vary so much it's not one case fits all and is useless saying well I do this am I not the most wonderful being