to feel uncharitably that she has got her comeuppance

[OhdearNigel]

(am a regular poster but have namechanged)

SIL and I have babies of the same age. We decided to BLW, she wanted to do purees. I never said a word about her decision, although she made it quite clear both to me, MIL and DH that she though BLW was dangerous & we shouldn't be doing it blah, blah. ILs have made subtle and not so subtle attempts to undermine BLWing at their house.

FF to christmas. We were all together and MIL did dinner for the babies. DN would not eat any of what had been done and SIL ended up pureeing it as he started screaming when she tried to spoon feed him with it (it was finely cut up). Apparently he won't eat anything that isn't pureed to within an inch of it's life. DD enthusiastically tackled her roast dinner all by herself, roast potatoes and all. DD eats anything you put in front of her

SIL then comments that she now wishes she had gone the BLWing route as DN is very fussy with food. AIBU to feel a sense of "I told you so" smugness ?

you need to get out more!

YABU but I totally understand your smugness! I just wish I could say the same for dd2, who was BLW and totally fussy with food still at the age of five.

Erm, it's not exactly eating up my life. Just a mild feeling of satisfaction

YANBU

For the sake of family harmony keep it to yourself though

YANBU. Smugness is not attractive.

I agree with PP.

Go and have a bottle of wine with your SIL and try not to talk about kids or babies.

I had to stop and think, wtf is BLW??? My youngest is nearly 5. And thank GOD!!

You need some more confidence in your own decisions. It doesn't matter at all how you or her feed your offspring, as long as they are fed.

And don't be so cocky that your dd eats everything because of anything you did, you got lucky, she didn't. And you might get your own afterall/

Agree with needing to get out more. Seriously.

ps, I might be told off for thinking this, but now that my kids are a bit older and I have two of them and they're so different, I think a lot of things are just down to pot luck not parenting skills or decisions.

FFS, all I am saying is that she was very vocal in criticising my parenting decision - now she wishes she'd done it. Who wouldn't feel the slightest sense of "I told you so" ?

What on earth is blw. Ing?

YABU, and unkind. She is big enough to be able to say to you that she thinks she made the wrong descision and that you made the right one about something as important as her child and you feel smug about it?

Why would you namechange for this?

'tis human nature to be a bit smug so don't worry

I think it depends on baby though - my DS has purred to begin with and went onto bitty food with ease

DD had both and was ok with both too

A friend who did blw had all kinds of problems so I reckon it's more about the baby

But I can see why you would feel smug ;)

Don't be too smug til they've gone through the twos and threes and are still eating everything. My eldest was excellent at eating as a baby, but now, aged seven, is quite fussy. A small sense of satisfaction is allowed though.

I wouldn't condem you for it, but I would warn you that your child eating well now does't mean she won't drive you crazy with faddyness later on, we blw as did many people I know, and its not a magic cure for toddler fussiness....

baby led weaning - you miss out the puree stage and go straight to finger foods.

And I wouldn't give the slightest shit if she hadn't told DH that it was dangerous and we shouldn't do it

So she had the balls to admit she was wrong and you were right and you still act smug and post how great you are and how thick she is?

Nice.

ach, I do remember caring about that stuff intensely too.

I think it's healthy when the babies just become children in their own right and everybody stops looking at them to see what stage they're at and who got there first and whose mother parented better.

What people are saying is, the kids will be fine, whatever they eat, I'm sure of it.

Treat yourself to a night out with your SIL though?! Maybe you could both do with a night out where you practise not talking about children. We've all been there! I'm not trying to be mean, honestly.

Because the fact that your child is a good eater AT THE MOMENT may be NOTHING to do with how they are weaned. Children are nothing if not random when it comes to eating .

Jeez read your opening post and and then think about how bloody smug you sound LOL!

Not your baby and not your business...and at the end of the day what difference does it make? Your kid might hoover up everything you feed her now...but that's not to say she wont become fussy at a later date

If she was being completely obnoxious then you are probably pretty well matched

How old are these babies? Even the best eater gets faddy around 15 months and turns their noses up at stuff they've happily eaten in the past.

Let's hope karma doesn't bite your somewhat smug arse...