to feel uncharitably that she has got her comeuppance

[OhdearNigel]

(am a regular poster but have namechanged)

SIL and I have babies of the same age. We decided to BLW, she wanted to do purees. I never said a word about her decision, although she made it quite clear both to me, MIL and DH that she though BLW was dangerous & we shouldn't be doing it blah, blah. ILs have made subtle and not so subtle attempts to undermine BLWing at their house.

FF to christmas. We were all together and MIL did dinner for the babies. DN would not eat any of what had been done and SIL ended up pureeing it as he started screaming when she tried to spoon feed him with it (it was finely cut up). Apparently he won't eat anything that isn't pureed to within an inch of it's life. DD enthusiastically tackled her roast dinner all by herself, roast potatoes and all. DD eats anything you put in front of her

SIL then comments that she now wishes she had gone the BLWing route as DN is very fussy with food. AIBU to feel a sense of "I told you so" smugness ?

ooh get you op!

Oh god, I take it she's still a baby?

Most of them eat everything at that age.

Just wait til she turns into a toddler.

I agree with TrillianAstra. My first child did everything early and luckily I sat on the urge to boast. BOY was I glad when my 2nd child had global developmental delays, as I feel people were probably much kinder about it because I'd never been braggy McSmug the first time round.

How old are the babies?

If they are 4 years old and he still only eats pureed foos then maybe there is a problem but if still "babies" I do not think it is strange that her DC would still only eat pureed food.

Also, I think "fussiness" is not only a food consistency issue.

YANBU to feel confident/ justified in following your own beliefs and a personal boost in the compliment she has paid you by admitting that for you and your DC the BLW was the right choice.

I'd be careful about smugness though, there are so many stages of development you don't want a competition to ensue that will leave you as often deflated as you are currently inflated.

Good on your SIL for admitting that maybe your way was best - hopefully there will be a time you can repay her the respect she's offered in this comment.

Come on, Nige, you never said anything about your SIL being snide about ALl of your parenting choices in the OP.

There is nothing wrong with smugness per se but it is tiresome when someone is smug about something their child has eaten, smacks of Lucinda loudly proclaiming in Waitrose to her toddler 'oh let's buy some of that sushi darling, remember how much you love it'

Motherhood is not a competition ODN. We are all different people, and we all deal with different little personalities in our children. There is no right or wrong - only what works best for us and out children.

Perhaps you mistake your sil's idle chatter about mothering as direct challenge and conflict where there is none? Lighten up, or just accept that she's a bit nuts/insecure about it all. Don't get equally nuts and insecure.which is how you sound now.

Sorry but if how your baby eats is of such overwhelming importance to you, then that makes you officially tedious. You need some more fun!

YANBU to feel glad that your child eats happily.

YABU to feel anything like satisfaction that your DN gets upset when faced with non-pureed food.

YABU - having a fussy eater is a nightmare. Your poor DN and SIL. I hate smuggy, irritating people.

You're lucky your DD loves her food.

I weaned both DC in exactly the same way. DS has a severe fish allergy but hoovers up anything else you put in front of him. DD is a fussy little madam. Just differences in their personalities.

I'd rather deal with DS's allergy than have to try and find something that DD will eat if we're out and about....

How is that helpful to your SIL or your DN. How horrid.

I thought my first child was a total genius because he could recognise and name every letter of the alphabet by his second birthday and was a very early talker.

He rejected all my attempts to teach him to read before school, and when he got to school he struggled, and was behind with his reading until he was about 7. So that told me then.

I pureed and my DD was also happily eating roast potates etc by 7-8 months. YABU.

my first was an angel that slept all night, ate everything, walked and talked bang on schedule, a darling baby (still is at 7yrs). I was probably a little smug.
Luckily I got my comeuppance with no2, with his severe reflux, failure to thrive, multiple allergies and speech delays, still has never slept through at 3.5. Probably deserved it.

DS2 was BLWed same as DS1. DS1 eats most things with gusto, DS2 avoids most things. Don't be such a berk - if your SIL says idiotic things then call her on it, but don't get all excited about your child being 'better' than hers or your parenting either. That makes you just as bad, only too afraid to say it to her face.

Sounds like you both need a hobby to be honest or a mighty good shag...or do you both try to outdo each other on the size of your Husband's manhoods?

OP you smack big style of PFB and smug to boot. Karma is going to bite you on the bum so hard if you think you are out of the woods at this tiny juncture.

Fussy babies are born not made. Fussy children may be a different story and can be influenced but if you are still talking about 2 babies (anything under 2) you have a lot to learn.

You sound nuts, like you are locked in your own sad little world where stuff like this actually matters and validates you. You need to get out of that, ASAP.

To be honest it could be just luck that your dd is a good eater. In any event, one upping with your SIL over who's doing what and who was right in the end is a bit silly.

DD2 and DNeice were born on the same day, within 7 hours of each other. Both were spoon fed and weaned at the same time - DD2 ate anything put in front of her, DN barely ate a thing. This went on for months and months. I suspect that like my DN and DD your situation can be attributed to chance and not your obviously superior feeding routine.

OhdearNigel - Mn can be a nasty bunch of nit-pickers.

I would be been smug too. You were openly critised by your SIL for blw then she admits to wishing she had tried it.

It is true, it may well have been all down to luck but she critised you, imo you are entitled to be smug.

You don't say how old the babies are but I would say that the majority of babies 8/9 months would be capable of eating finger food regardless of whether they were weaned on puree or blw. Don't blame you for being smug though as SIL had tried to make you feel bad but in reality she probably just has a fussy baby and has been quite unlucky and it's nothing to do with how she weaned.

The lone supporter of the misguided smugness - about time you came along

Did you self-satisfyingly smirk too?

I'll bet you did

Jeez !