to think new posters shouldn't be ridiculed?

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I'm not being unreasonable in any way, I'm just getting sick of new posters who aren't sure of the way the land lies getting ripped into by threads full of frothing "I'm better than you because I can spell" up their arse Mumsnetters. Being able to spell or not means nothing. Do people really think they are superior over someone just because they can spell better? Newsflash: you aint.
Now froth away, I'm not wrong so don't give a shit

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No poster, young or old, should be ridiculed because of spelling or grammar. It's very childish.

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Ooh loving the YANBUs

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Especially when there is so much to ridicule already here. Ridiculing new posters about spelling shows a huge lack of creativity.

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I don't like "this has been done before" either.

But if you wear Uggs ........

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but to be fair, I think the only way some people can feel good about themselves is to slag of other peoples spelling.

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It's nasty.

Ridiculing is un-necessary. If a poster uses txtspk tell them politely that it is not welcome on MN. If their spelling or grammar is relevant to their post then correct it politely, otherwise it is none of your business.

And, for that matter, I hate the way people get told "This has been done before" or that they should research old threads for their answer before starting a thread. Just because you've had your say on a matter doesn't mean there's nothing new to say about it, or that other posters won't have an opinion or benefit from a new thread on it.

Not only that but when do search old threads they get told off for bringing them back!

Oh and OP YANBU

One of my first ever posts on MN was when I inadvertently added to a year old thread. Someone popped along and had a go for bringing the thread back.

Was a lovely warm welcome.

YANBU - I always notice how first time posters are always very apologetic and humble at the start and end of their first post in a 'Please sir allow me to make my point without flogging me, thank you, thank you, thank you' sort of way.

YANBU. But a lot of regular posters just seem to come on here for a row and to criticise. Maybe they get all their aggression out and are absolutely lovely, super calm people in rl.

I remember my first thread and some people started coming at it from some completely different angle from the one I intended and I was like WTF????

YANBU in respect of most new posters... Some posters (old and new) deserve everything they get (including me).

YANBU - I didn't have my spelling ridiculed but was made to feel unwelcome - it was explained as a 'joke' and i should give over, but new to the site and incredibly sensitive (read very pregnant and hormonal) and i was very upset - even though i knew i was being stupid

Fact is I am now more concious of areas of the site i would prefer to stay away until i build up a thicker skin

my first thread was alright IIRC

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However, I would recommend that new posters get a feel for different parts of the site before posting.

Criticising people for their spelling is pretty grim (unless they are being a pedant over other things)

or if I was ridiculed in it, I have kind of blanked it out but it was more than 5 years ago now.... and back then MN was a lot more robust as in tough than it is now, so I am always a bit surprised when people complain about MN atm. It is more gentle than it was before IMO

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Its scary enough when you first start posting as it is without worrying about spelling and grammar.

YANBU - this site can be very aggressive and unsupportive on so many levels.

Thank goodness it is also very gentle and supportive on many others.
It is sometimes scary to think that some of the mums in the playground are actually having such angry thoughts though [scared emoticon]

scary? Really?

YANBU - like smoggii I didn't have my spelling etc ridiculed but the content of my post sparked an all out war with me being made to feel quite stupid, actually put me off posting for some time and believe me in RL I'm not one to shy away from a little controversy.

As a first time poster/first time not knowing what I'm doing mum I asked whether the Gina Ford routine was worth trying..... now prior to having children I hadn't heard of Mumsnet, nor had I familiarised myself with the fact that GF had publicly fallen out with Mumsnet etc etc and it had been in the papers, so unbeknown to me posting this was like pouring alcohol on a flame. The replies were astounding!

I've also seen threads where first timers have been told to maybe "research" Mumsnet before posting to ensure what they are posting and the wording of it falls ties in with what Mumsnet is really all about. This wasn't talking about posting in the right topic area, the word "research" was actually used!

ZZZagain I have been around a while in various guises. I don't think mumsnet has become anymore touchy feely at all. I suspect you've just gotten used to it!

well touchy feely no. Maybe I have hardened up or I always was a bit armour-plated, I don't know but I do remember loads more fights and tears

Maybe I am just reading other threads these days, could be me though, you're right