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Original poster

to really HATE my daughters Christmas presents and think they are really shit?

218 replies

TotorosOcarnina · 26/12/2010 21:34

Shes 2.

She got from family members (who must have conspired together ...)

A play kitchen
A play iron
a play kettle
a play micrwave
a play hetty hoover
play food to cook.

Ermmm just because shes female she gets cleaning and domestic appliances for xmas??

My boys didn't get anything like this... ever!! So why because shes a girl has she got all this crap??

Why would she want to pretend to iron?! or pretend t warm up a tin of beans?!

Am baffled!

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1percentawake · 26/12/2010 21:36

That would have made my DD's Christmas to get all that TBH!

Without any encouragement she loves cleaning, cooking etc Blush

Put it all on ebay if she doesn't like it and get her something she does want!

LaurieFairyonthetreeEatsCake · 26/12/2010 21:36

I was all ready to come on and remonstrate with you but that is spectacularly shit.

I'd return a couple and get some other, less domestic presents.

MsKLo · 26/12/2010 21:36

Dont you think you might be reading a bit too much into this?!

Miggsie · 26/12/2010 21:36

I will lend you my brother...he bought my DD (age 7) a scalectrix...

MorticiaAddams · 26/12/2010 21:36

I think that most kids, boys or girls would like these presents. Unfortunately people only tend to give them to girls which is definitely unreasonable.

dustycups · 26/12/2010 21:36

because little girls love things like that!

onepieceoflollipop · 26/12/2010 21:37

I have 2 daughters and the things they play with the most are the toy tea set, toy food and kitchen. (however if I had boys I would still buy stuff like this.) dd2 also has a wooden garage that she absolutely loves.

I guess people buy what they are conditioned to think of as presents for little girls. Tbh I wouldn't have been bothered if people had bought the stuff on your list for my dds.

LaurieFairyonthetreeEatsCake · 26/12/2010 21:37

You should post this on the feminist thread, I can imagine we could all get properly irate over there.

HeathcliffMoorland · 26/12/2010 21:38

YANBU.

TrinityMotherOfRhinos · 26/12/2010 21:38

if she likes to play with it then I dont see the problem

if she doesn't then change it for what she does, no [roblem Smile

cece · 26/12/2010 21:39

DS2 got a play kitchen for his present. He has spent yesterday and today happily 'cooking' and then tidying up. SO i was thinking I might get him a cleaning set for his birthday!

Original poster
TotorosOcarnina · 26/12/2010 21:39

She doesn't!

she loves to draw, to paint, play doh, BUILD THINGS.

shes never shown any interest in cleaning (she must be like me!!)

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TattyDevine · 26/12/2010 21:39

My son, PFB, has all these things and loves them. Why? Because he sees both of us doing these things and likes to role play with them.

So I have no doubts that your daughter will love these gifts, as would your sons probably at the same age.

However, YANBU to wonder why it is the DD that got given these and not your sons previously. m

fuzzypicklehead · 26/12/2010 21:39

I think YAB a bit U, to be honest. All the two year olds I know have them--girls AND boys. At 2 its common for little ones to want to mimic what their parents do, so they do actually get excited about pretending to cook & hoover, etc.

LaurieFairyonthetreeEatsCake · 26/12/2010 21:39

Dh has just said one or two would be fine but all that just suggests domestic servitude.

He's properly irate for you :)

Iwantscallops · 26/12/2010 21:40

My DS, aged 3, has all of these apart from the iron. You may be proved wrong and she may love playing with them, copying what mummy and daddy does.

What would you rather her have something non-gender specific?

Could be worse...your DH could have got those presents for you!

PlanetEarth · 26/12/2010 21:40

Pretending to iron and hoover, ha ha Grin. But boys and girls both seem to love play kitchens (surprised your boys never got one). The play food was the the most value-for-money present my girls ever got, one of them got a basket of plastic food at about age 2 for a fiver, we took out the meat in advance Hmm as we are veggies, and they played with it pretty much every day for years, mostly putting it in bags and pretending to go on picnics.

Quattrocento · 26/12/2010 21:40

DD never received gifts like this - thankfully

But if she had, they'd be in the charity shop bag pronto

Awful example of conditioning. Horrible.

Oh and YANBU btw

expatinscotland · 26/12/2010 21:40

my two-year-old son got two toy hoovers. he loves them.

he plays with his sisters' kitchen more than they do.

TattyDevine · 26/12/2010 21:40

Sorry about the random "m"

fuzzypicklehead · 26/12/2010 21:40

Perhaps your family wanted to get some things that they knew you wouldn't already have, & thus got something different from your previous kids.

Original poster
TotorosOcarnina · 26/12/2010 21:41

She got a load of babies too.

Maybe I'm just over anylising things but I think she can do more interesting things during play than clean and look after babies!

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SkyBluePearl · 26/12/2010 21:41

my 2 year old wouldn't be keen - she loves train sets and mulit story car parks.

RockinRobinBird · 26/12/2010 21:42

I think any small child would love that. DD would explode with excitement as would my nephew. Have you actually thought about whether your dd will like them or have you just taken one look and got the hump? And they might not be what you would want for her (note the you as they're not actually your presents) but they're not "shit", don't be so childish.

welshbyrd · 26/12/2010 21:43

I think your ungrateful, many daughters would love these gifts[from parents who couldnt afford it,how would you have felt if they had all clubbed together and bought her scale electrics,monster trucks and slimy things?[DS age 7 wanted a pretend nose with boogies Hmm ]