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AIBU?

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to really HATE my daughters Christmas presents and think they are really shit?

218 replies

TotorosOcarnina · 26/12/2010 21:34

Shes 2.

She got from family members (who must have conspired together ...)

A play kitchen
A play iron
a play kettle
a play micrwave
a play hetty hoover
play food to cook.

Ermmm just because shes female she gets cleaning and domestic appliances for xmas??

My boys didn't get anything like this... ever!! So why because shes a girl has she got all this crap??

Why would she want to pretend to iron?! or pretend t warm up a tin of beans?!

Am baffled!

OP posts:

MilaMae · 27/12/2010 21:47

Also sweeping toys are fan bloody tastic.My twin boys used to fight over our dust pan and brush set.Had to get a broom too then another complete set for dd. Keeps them quiet for hours and great for clearing up Lego.

Doubt very much my 3 will be able to afford chefs and cleaners so not sure why one wouldn't allow cleaning equipment.

MsSparkle · 27/12/2010 21:56

My ds got a miniature henry hooter and it is all he has played with!

MsSparkle · 27/12/2010 21:56

Sorry hoover. I blame the phone!

ensure · 27/12/2010 22:00

Yanbu. Your DD hasn't shown any interest in domestic toys, so to get an entire set from everyone for Christmas is shit, in my opinion.

It does reflect their reasoning that she just SHOULD like it by being a girl.

My 2 yo DD would love a kitchen but we don't have space. She got a fire engine instead.

MilaMae · 27/12/2010 22:03

No it doesn't reflect their reasoning that she should it because she's a girl but instead that 2 year olds love role play-boys and girls.

itsawonderfuldarleneconnorlife · 27/12/2010 22:05

My DD (3) got 2 dolls and other pink plastic disney princess cack so I know exactly how you feel.

I bought her a skateboard.

sungirltan · 27/12/2010 22:08

high fives itsawonderfuldarleneconnorlife

A1980 · 27/12/2010 22:12

I haven't read all of this so forgive me if this has been said 100 times or i've missed something.

My friend noticed that when she took her then 2yo DS to nursery he would make a beeline for the play kitchen and he absolutely loved it. So she bought him one for christmas. When her DD was old enough to play with it, she loved it to.

Have you actually allowed your DD to play with her "shit" presents? She may well love them. Try it! Children often do like copying their mum and dad.

I feel a bit sorry for the people who bought it for her, there was surely no malice intended in it and they didn't know you were such a feminist I'm sure.

MilaMae · 27/12/2010 22:16

We're not talking about Disney Princess but kitchen play equipment which has masses of play value for boys and girls and I agree with A1-feel very sorry for the gift giver.

So should kitchen play equipment and dolls not be bought for boys as well as girls because my twin boys had both and got masses of play value out of them?Why should dd not enjoy the same?

AitchTwoOh · 27/12/2010 22:40

"MilaMae Mon 27-Dec-10 22:03:51
No it doesn't reflect their reasoning that she should it because she's a girl but instead that 2 year olds love role play-boys and girls."

in this case why have The Same People not already bought these presents years ago for the household that contained a 2-year-old boy, twice, in the form of this little girl's brothers? how is that to be explained?

swanandduck · 27/12/2010 22:47

What a deprived child. Lots of fond relatives buying her toys they think she will love. Some one call social services.

Laquitar · 27/12/2010 23:02

Aitch, yes this is annoying but they might be older generation. I wouldn't fume and i wouldn't expect them to think excactly like i do or guess what i want for my dcs. Instead i would thank them and then use the toy as a tool. With 2 older sons OP can use the opportunity to pass her own message to dcs. Nobody said that dd has to heat the food and serve her brothers. Or be toldthat she will cook because she is woman. They can share the toy, learn to take turns, and pretend to cook because mummy and daddy cook, it is fun and better than take aways, food is basic need and every man and woman cooks and eats - even Xenia does.

Toys, tv, shops etc can be good or bad-depends how we use them.

MilaMae · 27/12/2010 23:27

Exactly Laq and the point is every 2 year old should have access to role play equipment and as the op hasn't already got said equipment you'd think she'd be slightly grateful.

There is nothing wrong with kitchen role play equipment,it is not a shit toy-ask any early years play expert.

Triggles · 28/12/2010 00:53

sigh. this was my point. if the OP is so concerned that her children are not pigeon-holed into gender stereotypes, why did she herself not buy these types of toys for her two boys when they were that age? why is this gender-specific type of toy only an issue when it involves her daughter?

I'd be curious to know if she bought and/or encouraged her sons to play with toys that are more "girl-oriented".... or if she is of the opinion that boys play with boys toys, but girls must play with both or it's gender stereotyping.... because unfortunately that's the impression I'm getting...

TheLadyEvenstar · 28/12/2010 01:01

DS2 got
My Little Pony sets which included 21 ponies of various sizes and colours.
Make me better puppy
Puppy in a case with hairdryer brush etc
Hoover
Playmobil - pony ranch

He did get some real "boys toys" but they are not very popular with him.
He has spent every day since christmas day playing with his ponies. Brushing their hair etc.

I HATE the way toys are for certain genders.

DadIsSad · 28/12/2010 03:26

Bloke's input: my younger son got a play kitchen for his main xmas present, both sons have enjoyed playing with that lots (along with other more stereotypically boys presents, though I think the kitchen won on Xmas day). If I had daughters I'd be buying them trains, cars etc., but also kitchens. I should point out that it's not just my wife who decides on stuff like this (can't quite remember, but I might even have suggested the kitchen).

Yes it looks like your family are a bit sexist, but does that really matter if these presents are balanced by stuff you buy?

If it's really not the sort of thing she wants to play with, then I kind of get your point, except that it's not at all unreasonable for your family to think she would like to play with it (and in the longer run she might well enjoy it if she doesn't get struck down by your negative vibes).

moondog · 28/12/2010 10:18

Good point about the negative vibe.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with domestic chores. Somoene has to do them at the end of the day.

LilyBolero · 28/12/2010 10:23

Play kitchen - fabulous! One of the best toys we ever got our kids. Play iron - not so keen. Play kettle/microwave - hours of fun. Play hoover - she will enjoy this. Play food - essential!

I understand where you're coming from, but honestly, she will love them. We bought a play oven for ds1, but it is dd who plays with it, makes pretend meals etc. The boys aren't really bothered.

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