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have had enough and gone back to bed

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VivaLeBeaver · 25/12/2010 10:55

They can sort fucking dinner out. Was doing the veg and dd hit the dog. Dog screamed, ran into the table and screamed again. Dd is nine and terrorises the dog for no reason. Am at my witd. End. It'll bite her one day. So i start yelling at dd and dh who saw everything yells at me for yelling at her. Merry fucking xmas.

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Animation · 27/12/2010 17:00

OH, bloody hell, I'd not read that bit - that the dog had bitten the little girl on the nose!!

Well that puts a whole different perspective on it. Obviously it's resulted in her being more hypervigilent, particularly when this dog's barging around being mad arsed.

Poor little girl - nothing to do with her having anger problems at all.

Toughasoldboots · 27/12/2010 18:40

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VivaLeBeaver · 27/12/2010 19:13

And your point is what oldboots?

As far as I'm concerned the dog has not bitten her. It jumped up and snapped while half asleep, it stopped herself as she realised it was dd. There was no blood though the skin was slightly scratched. I did at first say no reason as i don't consider the dog barging past dd a reason to hit the dog, not that there is any reason.

Thanks for all the advice on how to help dd deal with the dog better. Thanks for all the advice on how to get the dog to stop barging about. Thanks for the advice on how to get dh to back me up which is what i was actually pissed off about.

Id love to know what criminal offence I'm guilty of. Load of bollocks, kid hits dog, mum trying to stop it, oh yes can see police been very interested.

Yes i have dpoken to rgt, its them who have given me name of trainer, well a behaviorist actually, whatever difference is.

And the person who said ninety mins walk not enough, crap. Rgt say forty mins enough.

Sorry for spelling mistakes. Am on phone.

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ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 27/12/2010 19:31

OP lots of people have given you the only advice that ensures the safety and happiness of your DD and the dog.

and the criminal offence is allowing an animal to be abused without preventing it. by keeping the dog there after your DD hit it a second time you failed to prevent teh abuse.

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 27/12/2010 19:33

daily excercise for greyhounds

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 27/12/2010 19:35

I'm really shocked by your last post OP. you don't seem to want to do what is right for either yoru DD or the dog. who are you thinking of here?

OKComputer · 27/12/2010 19:42

OP, your posts read as though they're written by someone who doesn't care and is back-tracking. Ever heard of the Animal Welfare Act???! Of course it's illegal to turn a blind eye to animal abuse in your home.

You're suppose to be the responsible adult - sort this out and stop being to neglectful of your DD and the dog's needs.

I rarely get angry and posts on MN, but this is just crap.

VallhalaLalalalalalalalaaaaaa · 27/12/2010 19:57

Animal Welfare Act - it requires you to prevent unnecessary suffering. This is happening repeatedly, your DH is not reprimanding your child, you are failing to prevent her from hurting the dog even if you are reprimanding her, ergo you are in breach of the Act.

(1)A person commits an offence if?

(a)an act of his, or a failure of his to act, causes an animal to suffer,

(b)he knew, or ought reasonably to have known, that the act, or failure to act, would have that effect or be likely to do so,

(c)the animal is a protected animal, and

(d)the suffering is unnecessary.

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VivaLeBeaver · 27/12/2010 20:15

From your link ILoveItWhenYoCallMeBoo

"a greyhound requires two or three 30 minute walks each day"

RGT say 40 mins a day, either way I'm more than walking the dog enough. I would take suffering to mean more of an ongoing act. Dog is happily laid on its back at my feet now snoring its head off.

"Of course it's illegal to turn a blind eye "

Where am I turning a blind eye to it? Am I ignoring it, condoning it, saying its OK for this to carry on. I don't see that I've been given "lots" of advice, only advice has been to rehome the dog. I do care, hence why I'm trying to sort it out.

I'm quite happy to email the RSPCA tomorrow and report myself, will see what they say.

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OKComputer · 27/12/2010 20:17

Blind eye? Your title suggested you would go to bed while your daughter "terrorises" your dog. That's one hell of a blind eye!

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VivaLeBeaver · 27/12/2010 20:17

The situation had been sorted before I went to bed. I went back up to bed as I was so mad with DH. DD had been removed from the dog and told off and was nowhere near the dog. So hardly.

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ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 27/12/2010 20:18

erm, 2 or 3 30 minute walks is 60-90 minutes. you have only been doing 40. so, no, actually you aren't walking the dog enough. not sure how you do your math but check it again.

could you define ongoing please? to me teh fact that this has been happening for 4 months means it is ongoing.

yes teh only advice has been to rehome the dog. why do you think that is??

i really don't get your logic OP.

OKComputer · 27/12/2010 20:20

Exactly, why do you THINK the only advice is to re-home the dog?? This is ridiculous.

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VivaLeBeaver · 27/12/2010 20:21

I walk the dog for 90mins a day! I quite clearly said that. You do the fucking maths.

If it had been every day, or even every week for 4 months I would agree it was ongoing. But its sporadic, I think its sorted and it happened again. I'm paying for a behaviourist to come and help. The RGT reckon it is sortable, these are dog experts who know me, my family and my dog. Not people on the internet who don't know us.

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ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 27/12/2010 20:24

OP when everyone is telling you the same thing it is time to accept that you are wrong. why wont you listen? you are harming the dog, your DD's relationship with animals, her relationship with you. what is making you put all that on the back burner? what are you prioritising over all that?

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 27/12/2010 20:25

less of the agression please. i can see where your DD inherited the temper from.

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 27/12/2010 20:26

and apologies, i haven't seen your post where you said you did 90 minutes excercise. when you referred to teh 40 minutes excercise i thought it was what you provided for her.

VallhalaLalalalalalalalaaaaaa · 27/12/2010 20:27

Guess what lady? There are a few dog experts on here too and you've been given advice by them.

OKComputer · 27/12/2010 20:28

What a crap life that poor dog has had. Used for racing and then ends up with an abusive family.

If anyone's interested, Greyhound Action do good work to help these poor pooches.

VallhalaLalalalalalalalaaaaaa · 27/12/2010 20:34

And if anyone has no idea how much or what type of abuse racing Greys often suffer or how they are abandoned or killed at the end of their racing careers, have a look at Greyt Exploitations

beachholiday · 27/12/2010 20:40

OP I get that you posted looking for support and some comfort that you were feeling stressed and down on Christmas day.

There were quite a few threads like that over Christmas, mainly about feeling underappreciated by DH/DPs

On some of the threads the OP basically got support.

On some of the threads, where the DP's behaviour rang alarm bells there was a big consensus that they needed to rethink the relationship/end the relationship.

Drawing a loose parallel here, this is the dynamic on this thread. The reason no-one just offered comfort, is because a 9 year-old hitting a large dog rings alarm bells.

It rings alarm bells in terms of the child's welfare, the dog's welfare, and the child's difficulty coping with this situation.

It does not sound like a situation that can be easily reversed by modifying the dog's behaviour.

Because the dog's behaviour is not the only factor here.

Toughasoldboots · 27/12/2010 20:52

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OKComputer · 27/12/2010 20:55

Sorry about that Toughasoldboots. I just thought it was appropriate to post, as this dog is a retired greyhound. It makes me really pity the poor old thing.

Toughasoldboots · 27/12/2010 20:59

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beachholiday · 27/12/2010 21:06

As the OP posted that her dog still reacts with anxiety to strangers, her dog may well have had a hard time already.

OP I think you may think it would be cruel or unkind to give up your dog.

But as you say, it is unusual for posters on here to advocate rehoming.

On this thread there is an overwhelming majority urging you to do so.

Why do you think that is?