have had enough and gone back to bed

[VivaLeBeaver]

They can sort fucking dinner out. Was doing the veg and dd hit the dog. Dog screamed, ran into the table and screamed again. Dd is nine and terrorises the dog for no reason. Am at my witd. End. It'll bite her one day. So i start yelling at dd and dh who saw everything yells at me for yelling at her. Merry fucking xmas.

eurostar i agree but held off from posting such.

crocky by saying the DD sounds perfectly OK implies that you think her behaviour is normal. it isn't.

Boo, your children are very young, when you have teenagers and a bit more experience in parenting maybe i will take advice from you. You come across as very self righteuos.

and your attempt at patronising comes across as ill tempered snapping. maybe that is where your dcs see it.

None of my kids hit animals. Where am i telling you that this is ok. I am saying that the ops daughter, by her behaviour elsewhere doesn't sound like she is a delinquent yet you are all branding her as one.

Boo, i wish you a happy life with your perfect children.

no-one said she is a delinquent.

we are saying it isn't normal and OP needs to sort the problem.

mature.

You're loving it

I'm not normal

Or very mature

I'm a bit fed up with you lot saying i have said it's ok to hit an animal, i never said that it was, i don't, my children don't so stop telling me i think it's ok. No surprise the Op hasn't come back

sorry, have i stepped into a school yard? what exactly am i supposed to be loving?

I've got teens, they don't hit, punch or throw things. It's a good job too as they both outweigh me and are a good foot taller.
That's what you teach them as you parent them.

My dc are 10, 8 and 5. They have always had dogs and other animals around them from the word go.
I can't ever see them being horrible to one of our animals, because it's been drummed into them from the word go.

Crockydoodle, you implied that all dc lash out sometimes, and this is perfectly ok. To a certain extent you're right, but when it comes to pets, lashing out at them is never acceptable. They can only defend themselves in one way, so a responsible pet owner will teach their dc to never, ever lash out at an animal.

Someone said on here that the daughters action could be the result of nearing puberty...shes 9 so in my reckoning this poor dog will have to be abused in this way for maybe the next 10 years? totally unacceptable in my book.

It was also stated by original PO that the daughter terrorises the dog for no reason then she adds that the DD only hits/beats the poor animal when it gets in the way . If the DH sticks up for the child when the PO attempts to tell the DD off could it be that the DH treats the dog in the same way? to condone such behavior by DH does seem a little suspect in my opinion. If the poor dog does bite and ends up in a rescue [at best] it will have a very slim chance of being re-homed once it has the reputation as a 'child biter' Please PO rehome before it comes to that.

'Lucky you, that your children don't have an emotional/psychological problem, best not be too smug about it though as many do.'

My son has Aspergers and used to be highly aggressive. It has taken an enormous amount of effort, consistency and supporty to enable him to learn to function in the world, and to walk away when he can't.
Pissing off to bed when I felt unequal to the task was not one of the options I exercised. Or deceiving myself that it was OK and inevitable and there was nothing I could do.
So maybe I am smug that I shouldered my responsibilities and enabled my son to become a social animal within his limitations.

supporty?
support.
fat fingers.

Hitting animals is wrong, unless they attack you first. Very simple.