to not 'do' santa?

[jmt2211]

I don't believe in Santa and refuse to lie to my child about it. The first year he could ask about it was when he was 3 and I just said that lots of people liked to believe in Santa but really he was just pretend.
I have yet to find a single person who has done the same, even if I can get them to agree in principle, no one will agree in practice. I'd love to hear what others think (other than that I am a Scrooge) and see if anyone agrees with me....

its what she started the thread for imo

I don't think so.

don't know if you are still around OP but please don't do it! My parents told me from day one that FC was a big lie "we don't lie it's wrong" etc It actually made me very sad as a child and now I go crazy at Xmas for DS and DD, I am trying to persuade them not to pass this on to my kids, I love my parents but I think that decision was wrong IMHO

JoBettany this isn't about the OP's original question. It's about the rude and high-handed way she dealt with the discussion and she was nasty to missmoopy for no good reason. I think casting aspersions on a complete strangers parenting skills over something fairly lighthearted is way nastier than being called

I have read the whole thread. I am not talking about someone being called a pompous ass!! I do think the OP is being U. Absolutely.

I do think looking around MN for other posts she is making is out of order. And the subsequent comments...just leaves a nasty taste.

The idea that she 'deserved' it in some way because she had offended another poster is not in anyway a justification.

Once again IMO.

JoBettany you can always get our comments deleted

Yeah right!

Not a road I would go down!

JoBettany, you know I did think about that. I was looking yesterday to see if she was a first time poster because it came up a few times throughout the thread, not looking to spill this over into other threads. I didn't post it yesterday probably because I felt the same as you. Sorry for the nasty taste, I accept that was OOO.

Crikey, don't apologise! Now I feel bad. .

Jobettany ..you have made us feel guilty now

Deleted! Fo calling someone smug??????

I've been deleted again! LMAO

Oh God, honestly, honestly that wasn't me. Definitely not my style!

Message deleted by Santa

Hello. Please can we remind you all of our Talk Guidelines

Yes, we WILL delete posts that are a personal attack once they are reported to us.

We welcome robust and forthright debate but, as we say in our Note at the top of every AIBU thread: "Please bear in mind that whilst this topic does canvass opinions, it is not a fight club. You may disagree with other posters but we do ask you please to stick to our Talk Guidelines and to be civil. We don't allow personal attacks."

Ooops, naughty missmoopy.

(P.S I stand by every single post I have posted, so there....blows raspberry)

Bit choosy on who she choose to report though

missmoopy : it's fine to stand by your opinion; but not fine to attack someone personally. Trust you understand

Its all your fault maryz ...I've never been deleted before

It's possible, maryz.

But equally posters have a right to be treated civilly - even on AIBU and no matter how, um, interesting their opinions - and it's not unreasonable of them to report personal attacks. Especially if they are a newbie...

HelenMumsnet - the OP made a number of very insulting statements. Some applied to a large number of people (parents who tell their kids about FC are liars and don't value the truth as much as she does), a smaller number of people (telling her DS that his friends' parents are liars) and some people in particular (re missmoopy's parenting skills). These are all personal attacks and people's morals/values and their parenting skills. The only reason this looks like ganging up is that the OP threw out highly offensive remarks and no-one thought she was being reasonable so she ended up in a minority of one.