have had massive row with DS headmaster NOW IM IN THE S**T

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posted sunday that ds escaped through broken fence at school, went in to see headmaster to day, and am now in shit.

they managed to get hold of my facebook page and printed off where i had said the school is losing standards etc and that i was still not happy, etc, nothing to heavy or slandering but i was pretty cross.

the school will not accept responsibility for ds getting out, i have tried to meet them half way on it, about the behavior etc but they having none of it.

things got VERY heated today and DS teacher and headmaster joined forces and had me in tears.

i ve asked when is fence getting fixed and they said gonna be a good few weeks. i took ds to our other local school and have enrolled him there to start next monday,
and all because we (me and DP) are never going to have a good parent teacher relationship, and now i ve called his teacher a cow as DS fell off a 4ft ladder and she never told us!!!!!

i feel we been pushed out now, do we move him or see how it goes?

ps sorry i never replied sunday things got out of hand

advice would be greatly appreciated :)

If they had an accident they didn't tell you about and are using your own personal information online to fight you over something which is clearly their responsibility to fix (the fence) then I would consider seeing a solicitor and definitely move your DS to another school. It sounds horribly stressful. I would probably stop posting anything online about it though....

I don't see what them seeing your facebook page has got to do with your very appropriate issue with them. It is irrelevant and they have just proved themselves to be even less professional than they were in the first place.

Move him - how can you trust them to act in loco parentis after this?

they printed off your face book page

how old is your DS?

He fell off a 4 ft ladder and the school didn't bother to tell you????

Been following your other thread, and

Have you spoken to Ofstead about it yet?

oh dear. Time to check the privacy settings on your FB page. But what the hell was the head doing, stalking you on the internet, rather than actually doing the day job of keeping children safe?

Suggest moving ds is wise as it's hard to see how your relationship with school can recover from this - and how you will ever trust them again.

Report the fence and the fall to Ofsted - the fence is the kind of safeguarding thing Ofsted are very hot on.

Well YABU for posting that kind of thing on FB in the first place and they are BU by the sound of things.

It sounds like you've burned a few bridges there tbh. What's the other school like? Could DS be happy there?

yeah have stopped the actual post online said "god name of school standards have gone down hill having a 3 year old escaping"

they just will not accept they are wrong!! i will take responsibility for going on facebook etc so why cant they??

have no idea how they got on there as i have high security settings.

Complete break down in trust. You have to move him, I think

Why would a headmaster and a teacher seek out your facebook page?

You didn't do yourself any favours with being verbally abusive however angry you were.

If you are not happy go through the correct channels,contact the local education authority and inform then of the situation.

goodness me id be very worried about how they are acting and definatly use a solicitor. I would also suggest mentioning to them that you will go and talk to your local newspaper about how they have acted. Id also tell the other parents, if I were a parent there id want to know if they did that to you

And yes, report to Ofsted, including the FB thing.

your Facebook page or a Facebook page you'd set up to slag off the school?

oh god absolutely move him!! I am normally on the 'be reasonable give them a chance' side of things too but read your previous post and was extremely about this, and now to hear this ... and it will take weeks to fix the fence??! You can't hsve your ds somewhere they can't keep him safe, bottom line. And bringing up your facebook page sounds like ludicrously defensive and unprofessional behaviour to me.

we told them about ds being hit and kicked by 3 other boys and got told "god your giving 3 year olds to much credit to pick on 1 child"
i ve seen it 3 times happening, and have asked them only to keep an eye on it, but they av made me out to be lying.

im glad i called her a cow she bloody well is one hmm :(

Great move getting your DS out, by the way. But still worth making a complaint to prevent stuff like this happening again.

WTF does what you write on your personal facebook page have to do with them anyway?

Why haven't you spoken to Ofsted?

I don't really know how FB works but they'd have to get access to a private page right? So did one of your contacts or friends or whatever send them the page? Or are you linked to the teacher on FB?

Do you think another parent printed it off and handed it to them as a complaint or worried about their own child's security? I can't see why or how a head would have time to look you up on facebook to be honest.

my own personal face book page, and it was just a stupid comment. i had two replies asking if ds was ok so there wasnt slagging off (as the school put it)

< even more determined to never go on FB >

This sounds very odd to me. This only the second thread you've made, op.

You also didn't mention the ladder/cow incident before?

Why are you 'in the shit' if you are moving your ds to another school?

i have no idea why they would do such a thing as my concern was ds but i think they scared and tried looking for a way of turning it around perhaps??

i have no idea who ofsted is or what i say etc??