have had massive row with DS headmaster NOW IM IN THE S**T

[AliceInWonderBra]

posted sunday that ds escaped through broken fence at school, went in to see headmaster to day, and am now in shit.

they managed to get hold of my facebook page and printed off where i had said the school is losing standards etc and that i was still not happy, etc, nothing to heavy or slandering but i was pretty cross.

the school will not accept responsibility for ds getting out, i have tried to meet them half way on it, about the behavior etc but they having none of it.

things got VERY heated today and DS teacher and headmaster joined forces and had me in tears.

i ve asked when is fence getting fixed and they said gonna be a good few weeks. i took ds to our other local school and have enrolled him there to start next monday,
and all because we (me and DP) are never going to have a good parent teacher relationship, and now i ve called his teacher a cow as DS fell off a 4ft ladder and she never told us!!!!!

i feel we been pushed out now, do we move him or see how it goes?

ps sorry i never replied sunday things got out of hand

advice would be greatly appreciated :)

the fence of the yard where the playground is for the 3 and 4 year olds is actually broken there is big gap, which they put a table across, ds didnt understand the danger was curious and got out the gap is about 3ft wide.

sorry not explaining to good,

xx

the school is 100% responsible for a three year old child and obviously the table can't count as even basic security. They have failed in their duty of care.

alice this is getting silly now not sure people are reading the thread to realise you are in wales and so no ofsted.

i would be worried about my 3 year old being in a school setting, not sure how the system works in wales but would it be feasible for you to consider pre school or nursery accompanied with cm?

I would be furious if i were you.

I would contact ofsted and also the LEA. if the fence is broken and a child can escape then it is dangerous and should be a priority fix.

how bloody dare they print off your personal page.

Coldcomfortfarm - and that is what the school would investigate as part of the complaint.

Even if you were in England you cannot contact ofsted as they have no remit. I uploaded the link earlier.

If you complain to the la they will refer you straight back to the school and the governors. They will follow a set out complaint procedure. If that process is fully exhausted and you are still unhappy the la may then be involved at that stage to investigate the handling of the complaint.

i shall put it in capitals lol

I AM IN WALES :) :) :)

i know they cant have eyes in their arse and see absolutly everythin, i wouldnt expect it,
they have 2 members on staff on duty for 50 children so i know eyes cant be everywhere, i just concerned they dragging their heels bout the fence,

i really dont know why or how they were on my FB account, i dont see what that was going to do cos i wasnt really slagging them off, it WAS wrong i know, but i just dont see why they done it!! i ve got nothing to hide on my FB regarding what i post as my status, and i had already been to see the teachers etc, so i didnt shout my mouth off without seeing them first and trying to resolve it!!

i'd really better go and put LOs to bed now!!

xx

Where where the staff then when he escaped? How long did it take to realise? Do they have any common sense?

For a three year old - covering a gap in a fence with a table (and therfore giving easy access to roads and strangers) is compariable to not putting saftey latches on bleech filled cupboards at home.

This was in our local press, are you a blond mother of 6 by any chance or is letting little ones escape through holes in the fence a common occurrence ?

I'm a journalist and regularly speak to libel lawyers and have frequent ethics and legal dangers training. What you have done could easily be construed as libel against the school's managers. It is very serious. People are being sued for social networking libel all the time.

I don't have a facebook account, so struggle to see what you hoped to achieve by posting.

it wasnt the staff on duty who noticed it was the staff room teachers who noticed!!!!!
he was in the car park! they noticed fairly quick but i only have their word for that but i dont see why they'd lie about that!

2 staff for 50 pre-schoolers? Surely not

i posted on FB to my friends not for the school to see,

no i not the mother of 6 lol i have a ds 3 n half and a dd 7months :)

Libel is only libel if it isn't true though.

Just move him to another school and drop the rest. As a teacher, I would hope that my HT would stand up for me against a parent who called me a cow. And I suspect you may have burned your bridges in terms of asking for a complaint to be upheld. The FB thing was stupid - I doubt very much that the teacher and/or HT had gone deliberately trawling through FB looking for you on the off-chance, so someone must have given them that information.

IMO, the only thing you have to complain about is the lack of supervision surrounding the hole in the fence. You've complained, you lost your temper, you were inexcusably rude, so I think you need to gracefully retire. Your DS is young. He will make new friends. And anyway, there's no guarantee he'd be able to stay at that school once he's "school age" is there? I have a close friend in Wales, and her DS1 couldn't stay in the pre-school he was at, as he was allocated a place at a different school for reception. So he'd perhaps be moving anyway in a year or so.

yeh 2 staff for 50 but only at play time, its usualy 3/4 staff, for a class of 37, just on play time they like to go for a cuppa!

freedom of speech -you are allowed to say what you want within reason on face book and it's nobodies business.

Well if there are two incidents in the same week of children under 5 leaving the schools premises then that is pretty shocking IMO
The child local to us was found wondering down a main road by a member of the public.

Yes evil twins she should just shut up and go away

If I understand the various postings correctly.

The child didn't leave the premises did they? They went through the fence into the school car park where they were seen by a member of staff.

I don't see how anyone, particularly the child will benefit from the OP continuing this arguement with the school. Move him, get a fresh start.

And if you're pissed off with the next school, try not to resort to teenage FB slagging off and insulting professionals to their faces.

evil twins i have said i lost my temper, i did call her a cow, but i apologised i didnt have an apology that he got out etc, im sure you as a teacher would apologise to the parents, and im certain you HT would!!
i hope this dont sound like im being nasty or summing, i not lol :)

argument - sorry.

They certainly owe you an apology, OP - I'm outraged that they didn't.

no he was just in the car park