have had massive row with DS headmaster NOW IM IN THE S**T

[AliceInWonderBra]

posted sunday that ds escaped through broken fence at school, went in to see headmaster to day, and am now in shit.

they managed to get hold of my facebook page and printed off where i had said the school is losing standards etc and that i was still not happy, etc, nothing to heavy or slandering but i was pretty cross.

the school will not accept responsibility for ds getting out, i have tried to meet them half way on it, about the behavior etc but they having none of it.

things got VERY heated today and DS teacher and headmaster joined forces and had me in tears.

i ve asked when is fence getting fixed and they said gonna be a good few weeks. i took ds to our other local school and have enrolled him there to start next monday,
and all because we (me and DP) are never going to have a good parent teacher relationship, and now i ve called his teacher a cow as DS fell off a 4ft ladder and she never told us!!!!!

i feel we been pushed out now, do we move him or see how it goes?

ps sorry i never replied sunday things got out of hand

advice would be greatly appreciated :)

Could you clarify if it is a nursery, a school or both? Nursery complaints are dealt with differently.

Sorry, Simba, think you're wrong here:

From Ofsted's website
How to complain
Date: 10 May 2010

1. Complaints about the service providers we inspect or regulate

We have some powers to investigate your concerns about services we inspect or regulate, but would usually suggest that you start by discussing your worries directly with the person in charge, for example the headteacher or service manager.

For concerns about your child?s school, you can find more information about when and how to complain, the type of complaints we are able to consider and the action you can expect us to take in response in our guidance for parents, or you can contact us.

And on this page

Summary
If you are concerned about your child's school, you should start by talking directly to the teachers or headteacher or, if necessary, the governing body or the local authority.

If you are not satisfied with the responses you have received Ofsted may be able to help.

There are a number of things we can do, and in exceptional cases we can arrange an immediate inspection of the school.

Delete that post if I were you.

I had no idea who ofsted were when my children first started school! why would I?

Speaking to parent governors is not a good idea and can muddy the waters. The Chairman of Governors deals with complaints after they have been taken to the Head.
Ofsted inspect and regulate schools and other establishments Alice. Have a look at the Homepage of the website I linked to. You can even look up your schools last Ofsted report on that site.

AliceinWonderbra, I cannot believe you have named the school on the internet!

There is no Ofsted in Wales. School standards are inspected by Estyn.

It is also fairly common for children to be in the nursery of a school aged 3. I started at my school the September after I turned 3, in my case just a week later!

Seems far to boring a tale to be made up.

No you don't go to ofsted or the parent governor.

You follow the complaint procedure which will be clearly laid out.

Head teacher then governing body ( not an individual governor).

No way, I know that school!

p.s. However, I would stop posting the name of the school on the internet!

thanks feenie,
is ofsted like the LEA?? if so im on same wave length but as ds is only 3 i ve never had to know these things and i chose the school i attended, at his age. (obviously different teacher lol) but all they have is PTA and LEA.

xx

Oh, and your in Wales, so as above, you have a different inspecting body, but I would guess that the complaints procedure in the school or nursery should still be followed.

how do i remove post i new ish to mn

In England children are funded tonsatrt nursery at 3 years and 1 term.

Schools can legally admits rising 3s (children who will be three by the end of the term in which they are admitted).

at the OP's stupidity to post the school's name on here.

You really aren't helping matters are you?

You really need to get the post naming your school deleted and I suggest you stop discussing it so obviously in the internet. It won't do you any favours.

Ah, I see you are in Wales, hence no knowledge of Ofsted and different start age

Alice, read the Estyn link that has been posted for you above. It's the Welsh equivalent of Ofsted. Stop posting about this all over the internet, deal with the problem by following the correct procedures.

ok, just asked mn to delete my post, thanx for helping tho, i named school as i really wanted to prove what was happening :(

There is ofsted guidance for parents on complaints about school. It details what can and cannot be taken tom them after the matter has been dealt with. Y the school. It includes

And we are not in a position to:

 investigate incidents that are alleged to have taken place
 judge how well a school investigated or responded to a complaint, or
 mediate between a parent and a school to resolve a dispute.

why do you say that you and DP will never have a good parent/teacher relationship? Your DS has at least 13 years of school ahead of him so you may want to think about how you might handle things in future. Did you have a negative experience of school? I get the impression that you are not comfortable around educational people/ establishments so perhaps when your DS starts his new school you could ask to have a meeting with the classteacher just to establish some familiarity and start to build a positive relationship. In my experience as a teacher, parents who themselves found school a difficult or unpleasant place are often very jumpy around them when dealing with their childrens' issues and can come across as hostile. Better to establish a relationship before any incident occurs.
Also, OFSTED is the abbereviation for the Office For Standards in Education and inspects schools. In Wales I understand it is a different organisation..