to want grandad to pay for private primary?

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I've namechanged for this.

My DS is in primary 4 at a local state school which I moved to get him into because of its good reputation. I only ever expected him to go there for a year or 2 while I was on maternity leave. However, I was made redundant and have been unable to get another job.

We live within walking distance of a 'perfect' private school which has an intake of an extra class in primary 5 (next year).

I know we could wait until he is due to start secondary (same school) when he will be eligible for a bursery but I want him to go next year. If I had ANY spare money I would use it to send him there, but we are currently classed as 'living in poverty' (4 people on £17k).

There are 2 main reasons why I dont want to wait. Firstly, his IQ is higher than the top 1% of the population. He used to be 4 years ahead of his peers but this has shrunk to 2. His current school has very little to offer him academically. He cruises and has become quite arrogant about being smarter then the other children (and teachers). His school has a 'softly, softly' attitude to what I deem bad behaviour. I can see how this is appropriate for other children but he just manipulates and take advantage. He needs a stricter environment.

Secondly, the children he has chosen to be friends with are not the kind of children I want him to associate with. For example his best friend gets coke for breakfast and is dropped off at school by a shell-suited mother with the obligatory fag hanging out of her mouth. From these children my DS has picked up such an unpleasant accent that I am frequently embarassed at hearing him speak. I really dont want him exposed to these influences any longer.

So I think it's reasonable to want my Dad (a millionaire on paper) to not wait until secondary to help pay school fees. He thinks private primary is indulgent and unnecessary and can't seem to fathom that by the time DS is 11 too much damage will have been done. I went from a good state primary to a private secondary and I never felt like I fitted in.
I know Dad can afford it. I'm an only child so it's not like he has other grand DCs other than mine to provide for.

AIBU?

YABU

Oh God....I'm scared of the replies and it's not my OP!

Oh whatever

Influx of morons again.

Yes.

YABVU

I agree with your dad.

You sound spoilt and petulant and not very well brought up yourself. Hopefully your son won't grow up with that lovely sense of entitlement you seem to be carrying round

Has he got life insurance?

elocution & Mandarin lessons
tell him not to talk to common children
and cane him every night if he messes around at school.
sorted.

I think the very OTT para about the best friend may mean that this is meant to be a joke ... ?

Otherwise, it's just so unsubtle.

Well this is either a troll or a rather strange person.

If a troll then you need to try a bit harder.

if your dad is a millionaire on paper, does not mean he has the liquid cash available now to pay the fees

tbh, you sound like a terrible snob.

obligatory shell suited mother/fag/coke for brekky for the child/embarassing accent

so, your DS has a high IQ, that's great.. he is unliekly to get stupider staying at a state school

he is likely to pick up your snobby atttitude and sneering

if your son is misbehaving and not trying, you should as his mother take some of that onboard

what school did your dad send you to?

You sound deluded love

LFC put it very well. Private school obviously didn't do you any favours in the tolerance front.

Also, WRT your ds only being 2 years ahead instead of 2. It might just be that at entry point he was way ahead, and since the other children have had access to the school, they have caught up a little.

Shellsuits

YANBU, I bet they shop at Asda too, you need to get him away from such people.

do they even still make shell suits?

you need to try harder to fool us op. Nobody is as awful as you sound so obviously not true.

So your son is cleverer than his teachers. Whose genes has he inherited as you don't sound too clever?

The childs mother is obviously a crack whore. Tell Daddy the whole situation and i'm sure he will agree your child needs to be moved asap.

Are you serious? Fuck me I'm speechless.

Not real, surely?

Of course YABU.

Would love to know what the other parents think of you...

This is a wind up, surely.