to want grandad to pay for private primary?

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I've namechanged for this.

My DS is in primary 4 at a local state school which I moved to get him into because of its good reputation. I only ever expected him to go there for a year or 2 while I was on maternity leave. However, I was made redundant and have been unable to get another job.

We live within walking distance of a 'perfect' private school which has an intake of an extra class in primary 5 (next year).

I know we could wait until he is due to start secondary (same school) when he will be eligible for a bursery but I want him to go next year. If I had ANY spare money I would use it to send him there, but we are currently classed as 'living in poverty' (4 people on £17k).

There are 2 main reasons why I dont want to wait. Firstly, his IQ is higher than the top 1% of the population. He used to be 4 years ahead of his peers but this has shrunk to 2. His current school has very little to offer him academically. He cruises and has become quite arrogant about being smarter then the other children (and teachers). His school has a 'softly, softly' attitude to what I deem bad behaviour. I can see how this is appropriate for other children but he just manipulates and take advantage. He needs a stricter environment.

Secondly, the children he has chosen to be friends with are not the kind of children I want him to associate with. For example his best friend gets coke for breakfast and is dropped off at school by a shell-suited mother with the obligatory fag hanging out of her mouth. From these children my DS has picked up such an unpleasant accent that I am frequently embarassed at hearing him speak. I really dont want him exposed to these influences any longer.

So I think it's reasonable to want my Dad (a millionaire on paper) to not wait until secondary to help pay school fees. He thinks private primary is indulgent and unnecessary and can't seem to fathom that by the time DS is 11 too much damage will have been done. I went from a good state primary to a private secondary and I never felt like I fitted in.
I know Dad can afford it. I'm an only child so it's not like he has other grand DCs other than mine to provide for.

AIBU?

Have you asked your Dad to pay?

Do you know that he really can afford the fees? Its incredibly expensive to fund a private education particularly if its primary and secondary. And what is a "millionaire on paper"? If all of his money is tied up in the house for example then he might not even be able to afford it.

And what do you mean by "help" pay school fees? If you're living on £17k then it sounds like you'd need him to provide 100 percent of the fees. Is there another child too? Would you expect him to also pay for that child's private education?

Anyway, YABU. Many of us might hope that our parents would contribute but to expect them to is unreasonable.

no surely not serious

but don't get the reference to coke- that should be fruit shoots, shouldn't it

hate it when trolls can't even do their market research properly

how hard is it when all you have to do is sit under a bridge with a few spreadsheets?

rubbishrubbishrubbish.

just marking my place

rofl Riven

pmsl

How on earth do you know what his friends drink for breakfast? And how will that damage your DS? Are they joined by a pipeline?

YABU

Maybe by staying at the state school he would become a more rounded individual? Who learns tolerance.

Not everything in life is learned by chucking money at a situation.

Also marking my place

I think corey said it really...
''hate it when trolls can't even do their market research properly

how hard is it when all you have to do is sit under a bridge with a few spreadsheets?''

YABU. What a sense of entitlement!

PMSL RIVEN

OP are you for real???

Daddy paying for YOUR childs education????

This has to be a piss take

hahahahahahaha

shell suits are available via ebay.......sold as fancy dress

I had 2 lovely shell suits back in the late 80s

"and can't seem to fathom that by the time DS is 11 too much damage will have been done"

Nope I can't fathom that one either

I Vote that this thread be moved to MN classics, for Cory's post to be repeatedly savoured in perpetuity, if nothing else.

Maybe your son has chosen the kind of friends he feels comfortable with.

Could be he's embarrassed by your accent and attitude. I'm cringing and I don't even know you.

Well I never?!

Give him a good thrashing. That'll learn him.

YABU. Obviously. Berk.

Yanbu.

I'm with reality, what a selfish fucktard your father is, your poor son, I mean, an accent, next thing he'll be down the local shop nicking 20/20 and sniffing glue

Millionaire on paper not much good though is it

I see the OP hasn't returned.

Have we been invaded by aliens???