to want grandad to pay for private primary?

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I've namechanged for this.

My DS is in primary 4 at a local state school which I moved to get him into because of its good reputation. I only ever expected him to go there for a year or 2 while I was on maternity leave. However, I was made redundant and have been unable to get another job.

We live within walking distance of a 'perfect' private school which has an intake of an extra class in primary 5 (next year).

I know we could wait until he is due to start secondary (same school) when he will be eligible for a bursery but I want him to go next year. If I had ANY spare money I would use it to send him there, but we are currently classed as 'living in poverty' (4 people on £17k).

There are 2 main reasons why I dont want to wait. Firstly, his IQ is higher than the top 1% of the population. He used to be 4 years ahead of his peers but this has shrunk to 2. His current school has very little to offer him academically. He cruises and has become quite arrogant about being smarter then the other children (and teachers). His school has a 'softly, softly' attitude to what I deem bad behaviour. I can see how this is appropriate for other children but he just manipulates and take advantage. He needs a stricter environment.

Secondly, the children he has chosen to be friends with are not the kind of children I want him to associate with. For example his best friend gets coke for breakfast and is dropped off at school by a shell-suited mother with the obligatory fag hanging out of her mouth. From these children my DS has picked up such an unpleasant accent that I am frequently embarassed at hearing him speak. I really dont want him exposed to these influences any longer.

So I think it's reasonable to want my Dad (a millionaire on paper) to not wait until secondary to help pay school fees. He thinks private primary is indulgent and unnecessary and can't seem to fathom that by the time DS is 11 too much damage will have been done. I went from a good state primary to a private secondary and I never felt like I fitted in.
I know Dad can afford it. I'm an only child so it's not like he has other grand DCs other than mine to provide for.

AIBU?

spot on Riven!

I am sorry people are being mean. It must be very difficult for you.
Could you possibly work on some things after school if you feel your father won't step up to the plate?

maybe you could buy him a boater, or go to polo matches and rub him up against posh types - I am sure they won't mind. I often do charity work myself and allow a poor person to rub themselves up and down my leg on alternate Tuesdays.

If not perhaps you could sell him and put the money towards eduacting the next one. The chav exposure to which he has already succumed may be irreversible. Forget the first one and concentrate on the younger.

I am intrigued though that his current school is at least teaching him to 'cruise'. At least if he can't get any other emloyment he could be professionally camp. Its not much but at least its a trade

Jesus there is so much wrong with this I literally do not know where to start.
Oh, oh, wait, I know have my very first

YABU - Private school is excellent if you want to learn that jizz-on-a-biscuit game. State school will cover everything else.

oh dear love, you're not exactly a great advert for private education are you?

LOL at Pag.

rofl at pag- let me know the next alternate Tuesday you are available

Brilliant Pag

pagwatch

[sigh] I very booked up Cory... You don't wear nylon at all do you. I wouldn't want any static burns.

Applauds Pagwatch. Cracking post.

I want to nominate riven for a mumsnet oscar

And pagwatch

PMSL at Pag - tea ALL over the keyboard!

you sound like you need a reality check, incredibly judgemental and just a little bit snobby. You also have a sense of entitlement.

Of course you can't expect your father to pay school fees for your child.

I'm pretty sure no one on 17K is allowed on mumsnet actually.

I think people post shit like this to make you all hate, loathe and despise anyone who privatly educates.

No way is this OP for real.

Pag, that's twice you've made me go 'huh?' today :o I only caught the first line of your post.

(the other time was you you seemed to encourage someone to send their child to Catholic school because Catholics love converting people! :o)

I knew someone would read that shite Rockbird

It was all a bit Tom Cruise for a moment...

Whatever. Like anyone would really think this.

20/20

MrsMerlot did you know there are now Greggs drive-throughs?

How can anyone's IQ be higher than the top 1%.

Or is the a special uber level that we lesser mortals have not heard of?

Hang on, I think the OP may actually be dealing with quite a serious problem here. After all she says the friend gets coke for breakfast, not drinks it.

YANBU. You need to tell your dad to cough up the fees now.

Not state school teacher wants an arrogant, ill behaved little brat boy in their class, and his best friend's mum is probably fed up about hearing how your DS has muesli and freshly squeezed juice for breakfast.