to want labiaplasty

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This isn't a joke. Since having 3 huge babies,(last one was nearly 11 lbs), my inner fanjo lips have turned a hideous grey/brown colour and hang down about 2 inches outside the outer ones. I just think they look vile. I have only just realised that you can have an op to have them "trimmed". On the same day that I read about this, I read a description in the novel I was reading of a woman's bits, describing "the dark red bud enclosed by the pink petals". It was such a contrast with the way mine look. It's not as though I go about flashing my fanjo at everyone but I have to see it in the shower, going to the loo etc and I hate it. I mentioned the possibility of getting it "fixed" to a friend who plans to have surgery done to everything - boobs, face, tummy etc and she gave me this lecture about how it's totally misogynistic etc. I find this really hypocritical. What's the difference between a boob job and a fanjo job? I probably won't ever actually go through with it but just wondered what people thought.

LOLing at the reminder that no-one has ever got as far as the vulva and then decided that no, they don't want a shag that much after all.

Plugging the labia wall..

Hi,

Since having two children, I have always lacked confidence in how my fanjio looks too.
In fact, I hate how the inner lips protrude beyond my outer lips. My DH assures me that he loves the look of mine, I could NEVER totally believe him.

One day, I was trawling the webby (actually looking for labia hair removal creams), when I came across this site, where browsers actually post photo's of their "bits", since looking at the vastly differing array of fanjio's, I feel re-assured that we never see a plain janes fanjio, and I am feeling much better about my downstairs appearance.

Please look at www.vulvavelvet.org/

There are some pics on here too which made me feel better!
www.channel4embarrassingillnesses.com/galleries/vulva-gallery/?image=599

Just wanted to let you know my experience. I have recently had labiaplasty and I wish I had not. I did have very long and uncomfortable labia so went ahead with this op after feeling embarrassed about my body for years.

Basically, I look worse than before, very 'top heavy' and like 'franken-fanny', if I didn't feel so upset and skint and sore and disappointed, I would laugh.

I wish I had spent the money on therapy to learn to love myself more instead! I can't walk, sit or look - I feel awful after 4 days. Every time I look, I want to cry, it's so hideous.

I know my surgeon will think he has done enough, but it is a terrible job, not what I imagined at all. I just wanted to feel 'normal' enough to undress in front of people, men and women, with confidence.

I also had asymmetric breasts uplifted and reduced on one side - another bad job - now I have scarred, uplifted, uneven breasts! And, my word, it's painful!

After my marriage ended, I felt this would make me feel more confident to meet someone new, I had been very body conscious and shy since teenage years, but I have ONLY achieved debt, upset, pain and guilt - on top of my renewed dislike of my breasts and vulva, albeit for different reasons now!

Please don't have surgery without serious thought to the implications of botched ops, pain, financial loss and unhappiness. I can't believe I have been so stupid.

The description in the book doesn't sound like a mature part of a woman's body..more like David Attenborough at the Chelsea Flower Show. If I knew how to send a link here I would (I'm just getting familiar with the computer) but I would absolutely urge you, and any other woman unable to delight in their own appearance, to google "Fruit and Veg" by Hollie McNish. It is a spoken word poem by a young but wise Scottish woman, with an enlightening video.

Also see Hollie McNish "Wow", to inspire appreciation of and respect for your natural body and all its wonders, personal history and capabilities.

Maybe men carry a neat flaps gene too? After all, essentially all a ball bag is is labia that have grown and then fused together

ROFL spraying tea everywhere

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"Wow" is indeed a great poem, all women that hear it will think it empowering I'm sure - shame is, I think there will always be girls (well I was once) like me, who feel different from the other girls in the changing room, who get teased and who grow up feeling ashamed of what they are....it's 'different' difference.
I have always admired the women who appear not to give a hoot, who love their imperfections just as much as I acknowledge what beauties there are out there. I never wanted to try to achieve perfection, just clothes that fit and to not feel ugly.
I hope my post makes people think twice about trying to fix themselves - I wish I'd had the strength and self-love not to have tried.

I have had a recent Holywood. I was considering veeting my muff into a Dinosaur shape previously.

I was talked out of it (the dinosaur); hence the Hollywood; with very kind advise on here.

In the course of the Hollywood I was advised that I had very hanging and dangly flaps. "Is that normal"
"No"
I secured a 2nd opinion "Is This Normal" "Yes, and then she pulled all the hairs out of my cunt region. Because I wanted it. Not because I was a porn star or someone who is married to a perv. MY CHOICE as a grown woman.

My labia extend beyond the vagina; it's a protective wall/screen. They're massive. They're brownish red. They rub somewhat when I walk.
I like it better after the Hollywood.

I'm pretty sure that my inner labia are pink; as I am sure that my outer labia are brown.

The best thing is just exposing oneself to a trusted loved one. Completely.

Zombie 🧟‍♀️