To let DD age 8 sleep in a tent by herself...

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... on a campsite, with me & partner in another tent right next to her, and surrounded by a load of other responsible adults and family friends?

Only asking because it hadn't occured to me that this was risky, but friend who is organising the trip has just expressed outright and horror at the idea.

DD loves the idea - she is already trying to work out what selection of sleeping bag, cushions & quilts she'll be able to cram in the car to make her nest.

My relationship is a new one (although we have known him for years & DD is very comfortable with him, very keen on him coming camping etc) so I'd really prefer to be sleeping with him - although I won't if you all think I'm being ridiculously negligent!

Am I?

I wouldn't.

Personally I wouldn't

I wouldn't. I am considering letting my 8yo travel by train alone, (have put that off for now) and she goes to school alone and stays at home alone, but I don't feel happy with her sleeping in a tent alone. I am going to let 8yo and 10yo dds sleep together in a tent soon, but even that seems a bit iffy. Maybe it is low risk but it seems too isolated, one child in a tent.

No way, she's only 8.

I wouldn't. Our church goes on a camping week every summer, Yes there are lots of responsjble adults around, But under 13's are not alowed to sleep in a tent on thier own,

no, I wouldn't do that, love

two or more children, in the circs you describe, but not one alone

No.

You would prefer to sleep with your new man than in the tent with your 8 year old daughter.

Fair enough. I'm genuinely interested to hear opinions and quite happy to accept the verdict of the MN jury on this one. But may I ask why - I mean, do people really wander around campsites in the middle of the night looking for lone children?

I wouldn't either.
My eldest are only 6 and I know a lot can change in two years but you'll really regret it should anything go wrong.

Please dont-do you remember the little girl who was taken from a tent in her granparents garden while her older brothers were in a tent near by?

no way...

Can she go in with another family?
I would worry about my ds who is 9 waking up and being scared but not being confident enough to find me. I don't think anything serious could go wrong that couldn't happen at home.

I was thinking of people looking for a single child.

What if a lit match fell on her tent (who knows how it would get there, maybe a gust of wind blowing a flame toward her tent, I don't know but whatever)?

What if a car reversed onto her tent with her in it?

what if she got her hair caught in the zip?

what if she needed the loo in the middle of the night and was scared?

what if her tent isn't actually water tight and it rains?

what if she just wants her mummy?

My 7 year old may think he is old enough to go to the loo in the middle of the night and not be able to find his way back. Knowing how clumsy he is he is likely to break a leg by tripping over a guyrope. Not to mention that he would walk into the complete wrong tent when he came back.

ALso, we had "wildlife" in our family tent last time (properly zipped up and pegged down but something got in and made a hell of a noise). That would terrify my DCs.

Oops, OK then

Sunshines: Yes, I would prefer to sleep with my partner, but obviously DDs safety comes first and clearly I have been a bit hard of thinking on this one

So thanks for your opinions. Really.

Sorry I wasn't thinking of folk looking for a child alone in a tent.

I wouldn't. Realise the new relationship is exciting and all that (I'm a single mum, I understand entirely) but you have to put your DD's safety first I'm afraid.

put your bloke in a tent by himself and stay with your daughter

yes...very long odds that something might go wrong

is it worth it though ?

I do pranma, so awful... First thing I thought of...

Just not worth the risk imo, can you not make it upto her in terms of choccy, stories etc snuggled in with you? Laughing about trumps and such, may well be a bonding event for you all!

I don't see the problem. You can hear every movement on a campsite - presuming she is right next to you, I don't get the danger?

I hadn't heard about that case actually
How awful

I would not - can you not just get a two bedded tent?

She is 8, not 3

"What if a car reversed onto her tent with her in it?"

How would she be safer in this instance if the OP was sharing the tent with her? Does the OP have special car repelling properties?

Could you get a bigger tent with seperate froms for abit more privacy?