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Alcohol has destroyed me

244 replies

startingover202 · 04/07/2023 19:54

I have ruined my relationship, my family and my health through drinking wine every day.
I am on day 3 of not drinking. I've had anxiety and shaking and my sleeping is bad but I'm determined not to drink.
I was shaking and anxious everyday after a drink as well as constant diarrhoea so I have to ride this out.
I'm slightly better today so hoping tomorrow will be better.
Has anyone else had withdrawal symptoms?
Alcohol services kept telling me not to completely stop but that wasn't helping.

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startingover202 · 07/07/2023 16:34

I am finishing work and struggling. I think it's the hot weather.
I'll be working the weekend so that will help.
I still haven't had a drink but finding it hard today.
Feeling quite upset.

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Chocchops72 · 07/07/2023 16:50

If you are still there OP stick with it. Focus on making it to bedtime without a drink: that’s your target, a manageable one. One day at a time.

Mama678 · 07/07/2023 17:12

Just think, your so close to making it 7 days, one whole week! Why don’t you get some nice alcohol free alternatives in eg a shloer type drink that you can pour into a wine glass so it feels a bit more fancy? Watch a film/take a bath/go for a walk. At least if youre at work, you will keep yourself distracted

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startingover202 · 07/07/2023 18:13

I've made it home with no wine.
Just struggling with my emotions today.

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mikado1 · 07/07/2023 22:39

Well done. Let the emotions out if you can, cry, journal, talk if you can. A twenty min brisk walk also useful. Nkind of decluttering or even pampering etc. Just get to bedtime and you'll be thrilled. Rooting for you.

isthesolution · 07/07/2023 22:58

Please go to AA. You are not alone. Learn the strategies for getting yourself through this.

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startingover202 · 07/07/2023 23:27

Thanks everyone.

Just told myself it's a bad day and tomorrow is a new day.
It's ok to feel down and not bury my emotions in a bottle as that will bring worse days.

I've made it through another day sober.

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redfacebigdisgrace · 07/07/2023 23:30

Keep going. One day at a time. I found the hot weather hard too. Thatchers alcohol free cider is lovely in the heat

WandaWomblesaurus · 07/07/2023 23:45

You are doing really well.
This is an act of self love to help yourself and be present for yourself.

Coyoacan · 08/07/2023 00:08

Take vitamin B complex for your nerves and anxiety. It is also good for damaged livers. And congratulations

Colette · 08/07/2023 00:13

Keep going you’re doing so well !

CallieQ · 08/07/2023 00:29

Well done Flowers

YouBringLightIn · 08/07/2023 00:59

startingover202 · 07/07/2023 23:27

Thanks everyone.

Just told myself it's a bad day and tomorrow is a new day.
It's ok to feel down and not bury my emotions in a bottle as that will bring worse days.

I've made it through another day sober.

Well done OP, this is the time when your body and your brain are pulling out all the stops to make you reach for a bottle because of the withdrawal.

You're doing so well , is it possible for you to buy yourself a nice journal and some new pens and when it's really tough try to write or draw through it. You will be able to see your journey and also to be able to see the reasons why you want to remain sober.
You've got this.

mikado1 · 08/07/2023 08:05

Huge well done. Remember your addicted brain is lying to you. Don't believe it abd keep going.

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startingover202 · 08/07/2023 21:08

I failed

Had a couple of drinks i the pub.
Now at home with a bottle

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Mumtothreegirlies · 08/07/2023 21:13

you can start again tomorrow. each day without a drink is good for you. Do you think you have the strength to pour it away?

Coyoacan · 08/07/2023 21:16

Just means you have to start again.

Would joining a group like AA help, OP?

And have you thought of some nice non-alcoholic drinks? Me, as I used to love gin and tonic, found that tonic water is just as good.

You can do it. And do take vitamin B complex. You can actually take double the recommended daily dose, especially in emergency situations like this, without a problem.

peachypudding · 08/07/2023 21:25

Start again tomorrow OP. You really can do this.

mikado1 · 08/07/2023 21:53

Pour out the rest if you can. You broke an egg, don't throw the box on the floor. Keep posting op.

dotdotdotdash · 08/07/2023 22:03

It’s okay OP. Pour it down the sink, get to bed. Tomorrow is another day. You haven’t failed. Sobriety, good health, good relationships are all in your sights

redfacebigdisgrace · 08/07/2023 22:29

Two steps forward one back. You’re still further forward than you were. Don’t hate on yourself. Pour the rest away and have a drink of water and get to bed.

brightspice90DaysLater · 09/07/2023 07:51

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I know what you're saying and I get it but I think saying it is simple isn't acknowledge how difficult this is for the op. It is bloody hard and you can absolutely do it OP.

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TeeNoG · 09/07/2023 12:16

I've never known someone to nail sobriety first time round (myself included)

Please be kind to yourself and just try again today Flowers