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Alcohol has destroyed me

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startingover202 · 04/07/2023 19:54

I have ruined my relationship, my family and my health through drinking wine every day.
I am on day 3 of not drinking. I've had anxiety and shaking and my sleeping is bad but I'm determined not to drink.
I was shaking and anxious everyday after a drink as well as constant diarrhoea so I have to ride this out.
I'm slightly better today so hoping tomorrow will be better.
Has anyone else had withdrawal symptoms?
Alcohol services kept telling me not to completely stop but that wasn't helping.

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Coyoacan · 29/07/2023 03:21

I am depressed. I just think AA will address the alcohol not the underlying depression

Alcohol causes depression by dissolving vitamin B out of your system and it also has an adverse interaction with most antidepressants.

Anythingbutsnow · 29/07/2023 08:24

OP, only if you want to you can PM me your number and I will arrange a lady from AA to call you. Happy to do so, but only if that's what you want. You don't have to, but offer is there.

Just bear in mind AA volunteers are just recovered alcoholics who give their time to help newcomers, as part of their own recovery programme - they aren't professionals.

As I said, only if you want to

GracePalmer33 · 30/07/2023 08:39

Coyoacan · 29/07/2023 03:21

I am depressed. I just think AA will address the alcohol not the underlying depression

Alcohol causes depression by dissolving vitamin B out of your system and it also has an adverse interaction with most antidepressants.

It's not true either. AA addresses the reasons why we drank. It can help with fixing that "hole" in the soul that many of us feel like we had/have and was the reason why we drank.

BigGreen · 03/08/2023 09:47

Hello @startingover202 how are you getting on today? I hope you're continuing to reduce alcohol, that is real progress. Don't hesitate to reach out to AA or another support if you can.

BigGreen · 10/08/2023 14:03

How are you getting on today @startingover202? I hope you're doing okay out there.

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startingover202 · 13/08/2023 20:12

Not doing great tbh.

Still drinking. Had a couple of bad nights.

I need to stop but don't know if it's bad enough for me to walk in that meeting.

I know it is bad but in my head I think it can wait a bit longer.

Thought I hit rock bottom but think there's still a way to go.

OP posts:
Original poster
startingover202 · 13/08/2023 20:12

Thank you for caring.

So sorry for not caring 😕

OP posts:
andjustlikethat1 · 13/08/2023 20:16

How much have you had today?

TeeNoG · 13/08/2023 20:43

I'm here to tell you it is bad enough, you don't need to wait for it to get worse. Help is waiting for you but you have to accept it.

BarbaraV · 13/08/2023 20:52

Go get the help OP, that first meeting will be scary but going solo against alcoholism is worse x

mikado1 · 13/08/2023 22:33

Also thinking of you here OP and sending you some strength.

You're not in control of this so it is bad enough. Go into that meeting with all of us on this thread rooting for you. It will be a massive relief. Keep posting.

BigGreen · 14/08/2023 07:17

Great to hear from you @startingover202. I was wondering if you'd read any books about living with low or no alcohol? List here.

Also, how about joining an AA Zoom meeting online? You could just drop into one and listen without worrying too much about what it means for you.

It's okay to stay curious about what life without alcohol is like.

TooOldForThisNonsense · 15/08/2023 11:28

You don’t have to hit a rock bottom to want to change your relationship with alcohol xx

intherough · 25/08/2023 10:30

Thinking of you OP Flowers

mikado1 · 09/09/2023 08:00

Also thinking of you.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 09/09/2023 08:23

It is bad enough. Your addiction is sneakily making you look for excuses to not stop - I haven't reached rock bottom, AA didn't call back so there's no help, I can't go to a meeting because I slept badly, I can't stop until I've solved the underlying problem...

You need to go to a meeting, even if you're tired, feeling unwell, worried about what the meeting will be like etc.

VoldemortsKitten · 11/09/2023 19:33

startingover202 · 13/08/2023 20:12

Thank you for caring.

So sorry for not caring 😕

I think there's a part of you that does still care or you wouldn't have been brave enough to write your post. Don't give up on her she's still in there.

If you're not ready to face a meeting @startingover202 keep talking to us so many of us have been through this hell x

Theredfoxfliesatmidnight · 28/09/2023 23:27

Hi OP, how are you doing? xx

You have mentioned your work a few times, and it sounds as if you have a full time job. Is it possible for you to take a couple of weeks off, so that for that time, you can just concentrate on sobriety? That's what I had to do when I first gave up the drink, I just knew I couldn't work and get through a week without alcohol at the same time. I found hiding at home for a bit gave me a chance to quit the booze, and deal with the horrible mental and physical withdrawal symptoms, without having to deal with anything else at all. Not coming into contact with any temptations, stresses or triggers is not possible long term, but is possible by just staying at home temporarily to give you a kick start.

PS have a good honest look at your motivations and please do not use this strategy (or tell yourself you're going to use this strategy) if in reality you will just use the time to sit at home and drink uninterrupted.

PhDtax · 22/10/2023 23:51

Hi, how are you?

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