Mindfulness, Moderating and Not Texting In The Kitchen !

[Amdone123]

Morning all..hope you're all ok. Well I had busy weekend. I didn't quite stick to my plans : I drank Friday evening ( didn't eat), and drank last night, too. I don't feel great today but I am looking forward to having a break. I know I want to get back to being af and all its benefits.
I was thinking that I am able to stay in and not drink. My next step will be going out and not going mad !

The other week I left the prosecco because I knew had I drank it, it would have set off a session.

That resonates with me. I am trying to work on my triggers. Ironically I know what triggers my over eating but struggle more with the drinking.

I am 50 soon and need to take care of my health as it's not like I have youth on my side anymore.

Hi guys.
Hope we're all well.
I'm just back from a weekend with my friend, drank Fri & Saturday.
Now got that awful anxious feeling.
Why do we do it to ourselves?!
I can't seem to socialise without alcohol 🤦‍♀️
I won't be drinking now until probably 3 weeks time, and that's fine, i don't have a problem doing that. I just can't stop once I start...
No real point to this! But thanks for letting me rant guys!
X

@ANewToday, yeah definitely. Have a think about your triggers. Boredom is a big one for me and Sundays are notoriously boring for me. I've no intention of drinking today but I have to be so careful. I keep thinking that I don't want to feel rough tomorrow.
@CH79, I hear you ! I'm exactly the same. I drank last Friday with my dsis. I was so tired on the Saturday night but could not get to sleep. God I was so anxious, depressed and wondered why I inflicted it on myself. Still drank last Sunday. And the Friday just gone though I was pleased I'd had a break of 4 days!
You've got 3 weeks now to have a rest. Will you not drink in that time? If not that's really good. You're not on it every day or even every other day.
P.s Rant all you want ! Makes me feel less alone. ( that seems weird for me to say that - alone - as if you met me you'd think me the most bubbliest, friendliest, most sociable person, but this alcohol problem does have me wondering what's wrong with me

Thanks for the rant! 😂
Yeah, I doubt I'll drink now until the 22nd. I've no social occasions until then. I don't really drink at home, if I do it's maybe 1 cider. But when I socialise I just don't know when to call it a day.
I'm feeling a bit better now, less anxious. I'm bloody fed up with feeling like this though.
Oh well! X

Oh yeah the beer fear anxiety is awful isn't it. I hate the going over the night before wondering whether I let my hair down too much.

Did really poorly last week:

Thurs - half a bottle of wine
Fri - a gin & a bottle of wine
Sat - a gin & a bottle of wine
Sun- a vodka

So the only days I moderated were Thurs & Sun. Not great. Only positive is that I did moderate a bit I guess 😔

Hi there, welcome to Monday! I'm back to the mid week moderating, so will be AF to Friday now. Onwards and upwards!

@Gemzee, that's not too bad overall. Fridays and Saturdays are difficult. Keep trying. Sunday was a vodka - it's not too bad ( a glass right?! ). You do right to look for the positives.
Morning! I was so happy yesterday. I sorted tea for everyone, bathed the little one, read etc then sat in bed with the dog. I had such a moment of being content and happy. It's amazing how happy I am when I'm not drinking. And yesterday was a bit tricky. My ds rang from supermarket asking did I want anything ( he meant groceries but I usually throw in a sneaky bottle of wine which then sets me off on a downward spiral), but I said no, we need nothing ( true). Then my dh was taking the dog to the shop for a paper. I'd decided on meatballs for lunch and thought a bottle of red would go lovely but I didn't ask. He would get it me without any debate so I was proud of myself. Stuck to sparkling water and lime which was nice enough.
Today I feel great. Have a lovely day everyone 😊

@Gemzee don't feel bad, Thursday and Sunday were wins and the main thing is you're sticking with it. The past nine months has been a spiral of unhealthy eating and binge drinking for me, but I'm just going to keep trying. One day at a time eh.

Thanks both I suppose in the past I'd have had a bottle of wine Thurs & Sun as well so yeah the fact I moderated on those days is improvement. Yes, definitely 1 day at a time.

Just checking in with everyone. I've been silent for a while as I have just not been drinking hardly at all.

However, Friday night DH and I are going out with a two other couples who drink a lot. LOADS! Tbh I already feel like just getting completely pissed. But I don't want to ruin my weekend. Make a tit of myself. So I am trying to focus on the morning after feeling and not the exhilarating bit of getting wildly drunk..

@DirtyDancing, morning and well done for not drinking much recently. How come you want to get drunk Friday? You mean you feel like it cos you haven't drank for a while? What would you drink? I mean if it's wine you drink you could try a few long drinks in between? I've just turned down an invitation because I know I'll get drunk n be stuck in town etc etc. Well, getting drunk isn't the only reason. I hate winter and going out. Am too cold. I'd rather stay in. @Mj20, hey, you'd have been proud of me yesterday. I was craving a glass of wine ( I was on day 5 so about right with me!!). It was a gorgeous day here ( sunshine one of my many triggers). I bought 3 x mini bottles of prosecco and had 1 ( 1!!) with my lunch. I had it in a champagne flute with a strawberry. I had another with my tea ( proud that I ate cos I really wanted to go out / source wine).
So, overall October not going too badly. I've not been perfect but that's cos I'm not.

Hi all!!! Hi @Amdone123 I’m so sorry I’ve been quiet guys! Was moving house, then went on hols!!! I’ll catch up on the thread and then respond properly! Xxxx

@DirtyDancing I've been silent because I have been drinking and didn't want to have to admit it!

Managed to get through Saturday night without a drink so there is that.

@youboozeyoulose, that made me laugh ! If you're having a bad time of it, don't worry about it. I get like this then have to remind myself I've not killed anyone! Indeed there are times when I think I can make whatever choices I want. I badly wanted a drink yesterday, could have gotten absolutely legless. I wanted to say balls to it all n get on a train to the seaside with my dog, book into a bed n breakfast n drink n smoke to my heart's content. I may still do that one day ! I also thought of the 5 year sign post thing and thought if I am dead in 5 years, at least I'll have enjoyed myself!! I'm a bit of a rebel deep down.
Just keep trying, do it how you want to do it. It's thee only way I think !

I really wanted a drink yesterday as rough few days at work. Bought a couple of bottles of lager instead of wine so I knew I wouldn't drink too much which seemed to work because once settled at home I can't be bothered to go out again. Laziness wins.

Why are all the most pleasurable things also bad for us

@ANewToday, lol, I know. I was thinking this the other day about alcohol and it's because it's mind altering ! Having alcohol makes me relaxed and helps me escape. A nice bath does too so maybe I should bathe more. I'd probably end up on The Radox 🤣
I find that I don't really go out for it but if it's in the fridge it will be gone. It's why I often pour remains down the plug hole.

I was bad on Weds but didn't drink yesterday. My husband was at the cinema with friends last night and I thought I'd have wine, then changed my mind to a vodka or two .. what I actually did however was had no alcohol & read my book in bed 😁
We are buying our first house at the moment which is a little stressful & I'm definitely using it as an excuse to drink!
At least Mon, Tues & Thurs were alcohol free.
Glad you're all ok and think we need to stop beating ourselves up when we are 'bad', at least we are making improvements here & there

@Amdone123 that question stings.. in a good way! Basically you've really hit the point. I've been so good cause ive just avoided these situations for weeks & weeks. I drink to join in, to let off steam (work has been shit recently) and to get drunk to be the 'party me' everyone will be expecting. But I'll hate myself the next day. We didn't go out last night because our sitter pulled out..: But we have manage to rearrange for tonight. Feel like I got a second chance as I feel different today!

God knows if this will work; but I'm going to go to the gym later and let off steam that way. Ive booked a facial for Sunday. my favourite thing and I never, ever get round to having one so I'll be such a treat I do not want to feel hungover for it. I want to enjoy my Sunday not languish on the sofa.

@youboozeyoulose I hear you. What's been the trigger? Are you in a routine of drinking at home, or are you going out a lot. My out of control is in social situations so I've been avoiding. That's not ideal! I'm about to head back into the lions den.

@DirtyDancing, I'm exactly the same. It pisses me off sometimes because even when I want to pace myself, people are waiting for the performing monkey to start! I'm great when i stay in! Though not always. Basically, I make excuses and blame everyone else ( or at least I used to). I'm getting better.
Enjoy the gym and look forward to tonight. Enjoy tonight but keep in mind that you don't want to feel rubbish. That does ( sometimes) work for me.

Morning everyone! Hope we're all OK. Well, yesterday wasn't too bad for me. I did drink 2 bottles of prosecco and had 5 cigarettes ( that was all I had. But I didn't buy any when shopping on purpose). I had a good day. I don't feel too bad this morning. A bit tired but I'm going out for a 2 hour trek with my dsis. It's the hangover that incapacitates me that I can't stand. When I'm lay in bed unable to do anything.
I'm aiming for 26 af days in October. I would have liked to do it all but it's not realistic. September saw 25 af days so I'd like to beat that by a little bit at least.
I can't see myself drinking now til Saturday. I didn't lose any weight yesterday when I got weighed so I'm trying harder this week ( though I did stick to it last week ! Joys of being 54 !!). But 6 good days should move a pound or 2!
Have a great day everyone. Lovely sunny day here. But my dh has got a better day as he's on a luxury all expenses paid holiday in the sun for being the top earner. I'm not jealous though. Not. At. All .

Amdone123 enjoy your walk today. 25 af days in September is really good. What are you up to currently for October?

Last few days haven't been great for me. Lots of stress at home which resulted in too much wine being drunk. I also need to lose weight and alcohol is hindering that.

@ANewToday, yes, September was good. I was actually on a bit of a roll ! For October I've had 2 days where I've drank 2 bottles and smoked. I did have a day last week when I had 2 mini bottles but if I don't smoke I don't count it as I class it as moderating if that makes sense. So up til now I've had 8 af days which is good. It's good compared to what I was doing before ( 6 bottles a week).
I've just been for a walk and we popped into the supermarket. I was going to get some beer as I just fancied one but then thought it could trigger me so I've got my sparkling water and lemon. Tbh beer is wasted calories for me.
Trying to lose weight is working for me because if I carry on like I was before, I'll carry on being overweight and I have a target for Xmas that I want to achieve.

@Amdone123 well done on your walk. You wrote something that just struck a cord: It's the hangover that incapacitates me that I can't stand. When I'm lay in bed unable to do anything".

I drank on Saturday night. More than I have done in a while. Couple of cocktails, few proseccos, bit of white wine. All I could think was: I'm going to feel shit tomorrow. I don't want to feel tired and shit tomorrow. We left about 1am. Sure enough yesterday I was tired and felt a bit hungover (which seems worse since I have been drinking less!) but I did get up and about an do stuff.

So I'm really done with booze. I didn't even want to drink on Saturday. I didn't get anything out of it and I didn't perform. I feel like I've made the switch. Not sure yet how other people will take it, how much pressure I'll have to drink. I need to practice saying: 'I don't drink alcohol anymore' !!

Looks like it's been pretty quiet on here, how is everything doing? I've actually being doing quite well lately. A lovely dose of norovirus has helped to be fair.