Sober 8/3/2021 who's with me?

[mumjustmum]

Tomorrow, I'm going sober. Nothing. Not one. No NA drinks either. Just need to change this horrific habit and addiction I've allowed myself into. Today I will drink 4 bottles of wine. I look and feel
Terrible.
Anyone with me?

Morning. Urghhh. Anyone else feeling more hungover in the morning than they used too after they had been drinking? Im shattered and got a headache from Hell today.

Morning all. Woke up thinking is this what normal people feel like every dsy?? Woke up clear headed and refreshed. I gave up smoking at the same time but thats proving more challenging than the wine.
Finally admitted to DP how much i was actually drinking . He was aghast at the cost

Just saying hi, and good luck its worth it. I realised in October that my drinking had got out of control, and other than a few times over Xmas where my dh brought home gifts of wine from work (despite me asking not to and him not drinking) I've remained AF.
I found the first week odd, I often woke up with more of a hangover than when I'd been drinking but now I feel so much better.
I do miss it, I can't think about never drinking again but I do know I can't just have one. I'm much more productive, positive, happy and I've lost weight.

@Ecdysis

It's great to hear from someone further down the road, gives me hope and determination this is the right thing for me.

Hi everyone
I was a bottle of wine a night girl, I'm currently on day 3. I feel like I've loads more energy already and love waking up with a clear head.
If I could limit it to a weekend that would be massive progress for me

Say 4 nearly over for me. Local
Shop is now closed so I can no longer get alcohol. If I can make it to this time everyday then I can get through the night.

My sleep is awful as is my anxiety but the nausea and headache are gone. I am eating far too much but will worry about that later.

I am going to give myself a few more days and then introduce exercise.

I hope everyone is managing ok and well done to you all

Hi everyone, wow... what a rollercoaster! I was SO angry with everyone and everything yesterday, but managed to not drink and to get out for two walks which helped.
Sleep was awful, despite being so tired, and my skin itched (??) all night long all over. Anyone got any ideas on this? Dehydration? I could literally be scratching my skin so hard I'm surprised I didn't bleed, and then 30 seconds later feel the itch again!
Today, today I'm sad and bored. The weather is awful so I've been home all day with three very young children. I actually cried from boredom today, and ALL I want now is two bottles of cava and an early night.
It's incredibly tempting 😔

@mumjustmum you are doing amazing. I get the boredom, sitting around, miserable outside. But you can do this and tomorrow will be aside.
Be kind to yourself and reward yourself.

The itching you describe I also get. Always in day 2, but luckily it never lasts long.

Mumjustmum tomorrow will be harder if you have the cava. Keep strong , early night x

@Secretsquirrelsbuddy @Sharpasknives thanks both. I'm cooking dinner to try and fill myself up enough to pass the craving. I know I'll be SO pleased if I don't drink.
Can't wait for the itching to stop!

How has everyone's day been? Any plans for tomorrow?

@patrickbatemansbusinesscard I hope tomorrow goes well for you. You won't be the first or the last, so best to be honest? Does anyone in RL know?

Ive not told anyone, not even DH and i tell him everything. Im starting some new tablets and told him as they can harm your liver its best to limit alcohol, and hes accepted that. Honestly? Im scared if i tell him the truth he will make me stick to the programme and im not sure im ready for that yet.

I havent told anyone in RL either. I dont need theadded pressure of trying to meet others expectations or seeing the disappointment. I just need to do this for.

I’ve been drinking a bottle of wine most days for a while now. Whenever I try to stop I don’t make it as long as a week. I’m tired of having no will power and I’m tired of getting fatter and fatter. Like a lot of people I justified it as normal drinking. Everyone likes a drink don’t they?! But it’s not normal!

I had one of those tiny bottles which just has a large glass in it on Monday evening and just knew deep down it had to be my last. I haven’t even wanted a drink yet. But I know it’s early days and I’m afraid I’ll find my feet taking me to the wine aisle when I go shopping.

One thing I’m doing now which is new is creating a new narrative in my head as though I’m talking about something that happened a long time ago. I say, “I used to drink everyday and it wasn’t doing me any good, I’m so glad I gave it up. I feel much better now” “I used to struggle for money because it all went on drink, but now I’ve saved loads of money and have some nice new things”.

Hi everyone, I didn't crack last night and I didn't drink, and I'm SO pleased today that I didn't. Still slept terribly, but I don't mind that at all.
Thanks everyone for all your support.

How are you all today?

Hi everyone.

I'm not sure if this is the right thread for me, because I'm not ready to stop completely. I want to be ready if that makes sense?

I drink far too much. Currently about 100 units a week. On a 'good' night it will be one bottle of 11.5% so 8.6 units, on a bad day can be 3 bottles in 24 hours.

I'm so fed up of it. My skin is awful all red and blotchy from it, it's obvious and it's embarrassing. Unless I stick to just drinking evenings, I get withdrawals like sweating, shaking, nausea, heartburn, headache, anxiety. Even if I stick to just evenings I still get anxiety and slight nausea like clockwork around drinking start time. I'm spending so much money and I don't have much to begin with. Sick of the guilt of that.

I suppose my problem is that I drink to self medicate. I have really bad PTSD, depression, and anxiety and I also have physical health problems. In fact, I started drinking to get to sleep at night cause pain was keeping me awake. I cannot sleep without drinking and that's what worries me so much about stopping. I need to get my anxiety under control somehow too.

Anyway I am going to cut down.

I'm in awe of how well you are doing on here. It's inspiring.

@mumjustmum well done you should be so proud of yourself.
@Silvine hi welcome aboard. Good luck with cutting down, even kne day without alcohol is an achievement. Be careful going cold turkey though depending on how much you drink you might need medical support.

I am doing ok today but my anxiety is already increasing about tomorrow. Friday is my hardest day. I finish work early and come home to a busy house. I usually have a drink while i catch upon housework and then relaxinG the bath and then basically it escalates all weekend.

I need a plan to get through tomorrow till the shop shuts. I know if i can do that i can do the rest.

I've been sober four and a half years. It is the best thing I've ever done.

I wanted to recommend a podcast called "the bubble hour" - listening to episodes (especially the earlier episodes) got me through my first months of sobriety. It's been an amazing tool for me.

I'm on day 4 that's the longest I've gone in a row in months and months.
It's so nice to have everyone on this thread, well done everyone

Well done everyone

41/2 years is a real achievement. Inspiration

Can I please join?

I woke up on Sunday and decided enough was enough. I am done. I was near suicidal on Sunday with the worst hangover, feeling ashamed and embarrassed and it took until Wednesday for me to feel ok again.

I drink most weekends but on Saturday I just went too far. I have this happen maybe 6 times a year and the fear and regret and the things I do and say make me know for a fact that one day I will ruin my life and I can’t let that happen.

I don’t feel at all tempted although my other half is not happy about it. We had started a new routine especially during lockdown where we would have nibbles and a bottle of wine on a Saturday night.

He’s not keen on this stopping but I just can’t risk the nights where I don’t stop and act absolutely ridiculous. I don’t know when those nights will be, something just switches and I don’t stop. So I said better I stop altogether.

He is giving it “oh a couple won’t hurt”. What makes it worse is that it’s my birthday this weekend. My 30th and he has planned a full on cocktail session and a fancy meal. I can tell he’s gutted and he’s tempting me by reading the cocktail list out to me and saying ohhh doesn’t this sound nice.

He doesn’t get it though. Yes he can get drunk but he never makes a fool of himself like I do.

On Sunday I woke up and had no memory. As he reminded me of the stuff I was doing I had a genuine urge to run away and kill myself. The only reason I didn’t is because if I moved I was sick. I cried all day on Monday.

I will never drink again and I know for 100% fact that this will be true. This is my day 4.

The good thing is a have a fairly close family member who stopped on Boxing Day after similar and another distant friend who stopped last September who I can look to for inspiration.

I will go out and buy some non alcoholic wine just so I can feel like I’m not missing out on my birthday and will make some mock tails.

@Longjohn33 welcome aboard. Days 4 is a fantastic achievement and you are so brave to face your birthday sober. I have had those days where the shame is all consuming and I like you know that if I don’t stop one of these drunken days I will say it do something to wreck my entire life and it’s just not worth it

I am day 5 and am starting to struggle. Physically I feel much better emotionally and mentally I am a mess. But it’s a healing process

@Longjohn33 well done! I've had the same hangovers in the past, the fear when you wake up and panic because you can't remember what you said or did. I've made an arse of myself on more than one occasion and been thoroughly ashamed the next day. Waking up at 5/6am with a dry mouth and banging head looking for painkillers then throwing them back up, that's what I've been like in the past.
I'm just finishing day 4, I've not missed wine like I thought I would and I'm looking forward to waking up with a clear head again