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Day 1 for anyone just starting out

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Justdonthavethefirstone · 02/08/2020 13:58

Hi all. This is my day 1. I have joined some other threads for support but thought I would start a new one for anyone just starting out on this journey. I have a drink problem. It got worse over lockdown.i have had day 1 before and failed but this time I am starting off prepared. I have books to read. I have joined Mumsnet for support and have told my family and friends.

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JorisBonson · 16/10/2020 07:44

Happy Friday everyone!

hazelnutmochi · 16/10/2020 09:47

Happy Friday all!
Congratulations Joris! I got into knitting a while ago but never progressed beyond knitting scarfs. I've ordered a Cross stitch kit, feel like a little old lady.
Love the name change Sasta! Will check out the wasjig puzzles. I'm the same, my DH always sits down to do one of my puzzles and ends up doing loads of it Envy

Will check out that podcast writing, sounds good.

Ynwa12345 · 16/10/2020 11:10

I was also thinking of getting a cross stitch to help me not smoke!!! Have you got any recommendations @hazelnutmochi?

hazelnutmochi · 16/10/2020 11:20

That's a great idea Ynwa, I'm trying to stop snacking. I searched for cross stitch for beginners on Amazon and ordered this one
Has good reviews, cheap and pretty.

Day 1 for anyone just starting out
Winecheesesleep · 16/10/2020 18:50

I've had my first wobble this evening, DH suggested putting a nice wine in the fridge to go with the dinner I'm making and it seemed such a shame to say no. I went through the usual thoughts of "it would make the evening more special" and "everyone else is doing it so why shouldn't I".

I'm going to stick with it though, I've been feeling really good this week.

JorisBonson · 16/10/2020 18:55

You can do it @Winecheesesleep.

I feel the same, DH tucking into a nice bottle of red. I'm having tonic water and lime, sans gin.

Winecheesesleep · 16/10/2020 19:52

Thank you @JorisBonson! It felt very supportive to have a response within 5 minutes when I was finding it a bit hard. I haven't spoken to anyone about this yet IRL.

Hope you have a lovely evening, we'll be feeling good in the morning Grin

hazelnutmochi · 16/10/2020 20:25

Friday night is the worst, so nice waking up without a hangover though.
Must be hard with DHs drinking, mine doesn't drink much, just the odd beer so no wine in the house. I was feeling a bit triggery watching that life programme though, seemed to be so much drinking.

JorisBonson · 17/10/2020 10:53

@hazelnutmochi it was bloody great waking up without a hangover - I'm working all weekend (WFH today) and it made such a difference.

Hospital appointment all done with nothing scary to worry about 🎉 DH is taking me for a big greasy fry up, one of my other vices!

Hope everyone has a lovely Saturday.

writingsonthewall · 17/10/2020 13:18

Oh god I am in awe of you all that have Hs around boozing. I don't think I would have had the willpower to resist if mine was but he's still going with me. He took delivery of a brewdog advent calendar yesterday though so doesn't look like he's planning on carrying on for much longer! I ordered myself a no.7 one before they sold out. V excited, have never had an advent calendar before (except the ones with pictures in when I was a kid!)

Great news on your hospital appointment @JorisBonson fab news. And well done for not drinking last night everyone. @Winecheesesleep fridays are the absolute worst and I have a wobble every bloody Friday. We rock. So proud of your 88 days @Sasta and your 62 @Ynwa12345 I'm on 54 now I think.

There was a lot of boozing in life you're right @hazelnutmochi but I thought it showed it in a bad way so found it ok.

I'm sitting in my car as my dd is at her netball match and we're not allowed to watch (fecking corona)

Going to pub for a friends birthday this avo. Not fussed about not drinking though. Makes getting home a lot easier!!

Ynwa12345 · 17/10/2020 18:21

Glad all well health wise @JorisBonson! Must have been a relief!
Hope everyone had a great Saturday.
Feeling slightly deflated today prob Reading too many corona threads!!!! Haha
How was the pub @writingsonthewall?
Well done on you racking up the days!
@Sasta love the name and well done too 84 days nesrly 90 that's amazing!
@Rupertpenrysmistress hope you are OK and work isn't too stressful.
Kids were driving me nuts at 6am this morning H went for a run so I went for a walk /jog but... To buy cigs! Hahah who jogs to buy cigs I have no idea. Lol

writingsonthewall · 17/10/2020 18:23

lol @Ynwa12345 I defo would have done that when I smoked!!

Sorry you're feeling down. Bloody corona is literally so annoying and shit. Wish it would just GO AWAY.

writingsonthewall · 17/10/2020 18:24

Also, pub was fine. But yeah I stayed for an hour and a half and that was enough. Now at home cleaning the house and listening to Absolute 80s on the radio

JorisBonson · 19/10/2020 12:25

How was the rest of everyone's weekend?

I broke a bit last night. We went for dinner and I ordered a beer without even thinking. I drank half of it and didn't enjoy it (came home and had a peppermint tea which is highly unusual for me!)

So I'm back to day 1 but I'm not going to best myself up. If anything I've shown that I can have a beer with dinner and don't need to turn that into wine and a cocktail then more wine at home.

hazelnutmochi · 20/10/2020 12:28

That's great news re your hospital appointment Joris! And well done on not finishing the beer/allowing it to lead to wine etc.
I've not really had a big test yet but sometimes when I pop into a shop I look at the wine and can't believe I'm a non drinker now!
Ooh No 7 advent calendar sounds good Writing. I think I'm going to treat myself to a posh chocolate one rather than whatever is cheap at Tesco. I've had a wine one before.

Hope everyone else is doing ok.

writingsonthewall · 20/10/2020 12:43

Onwards and upwards @JorisBonson at least you didn't have much

@hazelnutmochi yeah think I'll need a chocolate one too

@Sasta lockdown where you are sounds savage 

@Ynwa12345. @Newernewist @Winecheesesleep @joysmoy @Rupertpenrysmistress and anyone I've missed. Hope all ok. Day 57 here and fair to say the novelty has well and truly worn off!

Rupertpenrysmistress · 21/10/2020 17:11

Hi all glad to hear everyone is hanging in there,I feel like the novelty has truly worn off too hanging I am day 87 today. I feel so fed up not sure why exactly, PMT, work, covid and that, I can just have one bloody civil glass of wine. I went to the shop earlier, on the way I thought I fancy a glass of wine, as I was looking I said to myself if that rose is between £5&6 I will buy it, it wasn't any way I looked in the wine fridges and thought no come on not yet. I promised myself I could if I wanted!! have one at Xmas.

Everything seems so relentless, nothing to look forward to and I live in tier 1 so God only knows how those in 2&3 feel.

Anyone got any positive stories or suggestions so I can give myself a kick up the arse.

Ynwa12345 · 21/10/2020 18:05

HI @Rupertpenrysmistress so good to hear from you. The novelty for me has also worn off that's why I'm feeling angry and mehhhhhhhh! The things women go through too I was cramping so bad this morning with p pains and H just looking at me saying oh take a neurofen not oh ill drop the kid. Also eldest whole year group has closed due to a positive case somewhere in his year. But what doesn't make sense is that the little one can go and I can go to work? For me this doesn't make sense... So eldest is fuming and so upset about missing football club mufti day football camp over half term the lot. Yet little one can go to the park but he can't???
H opened wine yet again his glass is sat there on the island and I'm really fing tempted to drink... I really want one! I was thinking Xmas and my birthday (around the same time) and it will have been 4 months or so by then... Well done for not buying though @rupert takes real strength honestly.
Hope everyone else is OK and keeping well.

Ynwa12345 · 23/10/2020 09:06

Just checking in. Hope everyone is OK. Happy Friday! X

Sneachta · 25/10/2020 06:14

Morning everyone previously OJ. I was MIA, I had my suspicious that my DD had read the thread. I dont think shes understood the concept but I nearly died anyway when she was mentioning things.

Day 97 here. Congrats everyone on their days and rupert fair play on resisting. It is totally bloody relentless. Ymna your house is as mad as ever lol

Fulli (ish) lockdown here again (pain in my hole writingonthewall) it's a bank holiday and kids off for mid term. We are just praying numbers go down so they will defo go back. My junior infant came home with his books just in case. Teacher told them that the were sent home to be cleaned, I saw him at them with my floor cloth. So it's back out with my 5km map to see where I'm allowed go.

Our Boris is called Michel Martin (pronounced Me-hall here) but I've heard him being called Mehole Martin Grin . I'm still able to go into work so I'm trying to remain as shagging positive as possible but people are very very down. Everyone is really

I saw a thread on AMA last night. Just peoples attitudes and stories from the other side. Keeps me strong anyway. We cant waiver now. No matter how shite things are.

Jorisbonson fecin delighted to here that news meh re the beer, relief must gave been overwhelming I'd have faltered too.

I LOVE the no 7 advent idea. Then I have something every day.

Hope your alluding good

writingsonthewall · 25/10/2020 12:05

Morning all, been meaning to post for DAYS! Work has been hellish so just not a minute to myself. Just logging on to do some now, on a bloody Sunday, but thought I'd spend a few mins saying hi first.

Day 62 here. So close to 100 @Sneachta WELL DONE! You're right we are all doing good - even if some have given in briefly, doesn't matter, just get back up dust down and get back on the wagon. What's AMA?

So shite to hear about your total lockdown in Ireland, you must be livid! I'm still in tier 1 so not much happening here but no idea if/when that may change. It's half term here next week and I've supposedly got the week off work but so much to do will have to do bits and pieces. Not as if I'm going anywhere anyway. Might do a couple of days out but the forecast is utter shite so who knows.

@Rupertpenrysmistress well done for not giving in, you're doing great. No funny stories here, feeling super MEH but work isn't helping and also having kitchen done which is turned the house upside down and have no oven, hob, kitchen sink etc. Driving me mad already. On Friday work was so awful I thought right I need a treat, making a coffee at home is annoying so I thought I'm going to be indulgent and order myself a Starbucks latte delivered. WAs so pleased with myself, it arrived all lovely and hot, I went into the garage room (garage conversion which is like a little den for the kids and where we've currently got a little fridge and the kettle etc) to put some sweetener in it and promptly dropped it on the floor and spilt the whole lot. Then I cried. Obvs. Typically that is the ONE room in the entire downstairs that has carpet and now looks like it has stained. FML! It's funny (ish) now but I was so pissed off, my lovely treat all over the fecking carpet!! So my idea is to treat yourself with a nice starbucks delivery, just don't spill it when it arrives. Alternatively I am doing lots of treating myself with donuts, chocolate, wine gums, etc. Not great for the old waistline though.

So, yeah, that's about the only story I have for you! Has anyone read or listened to "Glorious Rock Bottom" yet by Bryony Gordon? You must. Also you must listen to the "over the influence" podcast which is a pro-sober podcast and is really good, on series 2 episode 6 I got a little shout out as I had donated a few £ to the running of the podcast! You'll have to guess who I am if you listen!

I have FINALLY got around to getting the arm weights out of the garage. Haven't actually used them yet obvs, can't rush these things! Now I just need to google the arm exercises and actually do them. What could go wrong? However they are super light, one pair says 1kg on the end, and the other pair just says "3" but doesn't actually feel any heavier than the other ones so I am wondering if they are 3lbs? Is that likely? Are they going to be enough to actually do anything to my hideous arms?

That's shite about your elders school thingy @Ynwa12345
and also utter nonsense when your littlest can still go in and to the park etc. Don't give in and drink. IF we want to, we can all have one at Christmas. It'll be interesting to see whether we do want to enough though. I went to a work friends on Thursday with a couple of others and they were drinking. I tried to hide the fact I wasn't with AF prosecco but one of them twigged so I had to say I was having a break. They were like "well you have to drink when we go out next month for x's birthday". ARGH. I said "er yeah sure". Now dunno what to do, I feel like such a bloody bore not drinking. And yes it was true I had had enough by 9pm and wanted to go home. Handy to be driving though, I used to get an uber back from hers and it was like £30.

Mehole Martin made me laugh :-)

Right better stop procrastinating and get on with the work. Please keep posting everyone, you guys really keep me going and I don't like how the thread has gotten so quiet.

Happy sober Sunday all.

Rupertpenrysmistress · 25/10/2020 13:00

Hi all. Ymna I so feel for you it's all so crap at the moment, it feels like all the joy has gone. Hope you are feeling better sorry about your DH mine is a bit like that does not believe periods affect hormones etc, talking of which this is the reason I am currently consuming loads of chocolate.

Hi sneatcha I have visions of your little one sitting on the floor cleaning his book, it is so sad for little kids. Don't think there is much chance of school closure here.

Writing sorry about your latte I would have cried too! I suspect those weights are 3kg they don't feel much different until you start to use them,the you will know. Don't worry about complex exercises bicep curls will make a difference. I find exercise so boring but am going to start running again, I need to do something.

There was an amazing deal of southern comfort at Tesco which is a drink I love at, Christmas I put it in my online basket fully intending to put it away for Xmas but I removed it. 91 days for me today and I have annual leave next week so that will be lovely.

Not sure how many posters are left on here now, I do try to keep posting as it's lovely to hear how you all are. Have a lovely day.

Ynwa12345 · 25/10/2020 14:31

Hi everyone
Congrats on day 97 @Sneachta that's bloody amazing! Sorry about full ish lockdown your poor boy cleaning his books arghhh I guess your only saving grace is going to work away from the madness! Have you taken time off got mid term holidays? Or will H take over from the attic whilst the kids are off? Mehole marine made me lol too!
@writingsonthewall omg your story about the coffee made me nearly cry so I definitely would have bawled for ages over that!!! Bloody treat and on the carpet ffs!!!
That's good you went out though without thinking what will others think I'm not drinking but I think the casual drinkers don't get why we don't drink... I am thinking about Xmas and birthday so badly thinking one will be ok.. But then I value my sleep so much so I'm trying to keep that going.
I postponed my dental bridge appt (2000 pounds would have cost me) but I'm sure it's hurting more now since I cancelled and I mean the gap where the rotten tooth was! I have got a cracked large filling on the other side tho but then j think it's Coz I'm smoking soooo much I want to give up how did you give up @writingsonthewall? Well fing done for 62 days honestly amazing.
@Rupertpenrysmistress
You are nearing a 100 too??!! That's amazing we should all be proud of each other and our selves. Great achievements. I'm on day 71. Im at work and for the first time in a long time it's been a bit quiet! So I'm happy although I volunteered to hoover lol
Hope everyone is OK and positive! X

writingsonthewall · 25/10/2020 15:22

Good chat all, nice to hear from you all. So amazed at all of us and those nearing 100 days need some form of medal.

Don’t think it would have been a good idea to have a bottle of southern comfort in @Rupertpenrysmistress if you do decide to have one at Christmas then it’ll be better to pay the extra few £ then than have it taunting you for weeks!

Definitely psychosomatic @Ynwa12345 bloody teeth. My root canal thankfully stopped hurting after about a week. I’ve got to go for the crown on 4th nov. More bloody expense waaah

Right going to Tesco’s. Have discovered these delish after 8 straw things so going to buy more. So much for the diet

writingsonthewall · 25/10/2020 15:34

These are the bomb

Day 1 for anyone just starting out