Wankerbastards move to 2020. With moderatin' a plenty. We rage against flouncers, strops and teens, and of dryness we have big dreams. We want teacups not fuckups!

[Frouby]

Thread 9 for the tryers to be dryers. Join us if you want some support to reduce alcohol. All welcome for support, laughs and moderating.

Will tag a few peoples name I can spell as I am useless at clicky links.

@flossie
@madameforest
@longestlurkerever
@dionoysa
@waterandlemonjuice

Thanks for the new thread Frouby!

Thank you Frouby.

Thanks, all, for being so kind. Yesterday was just completely shitty. Lots of quite minor things all piled on top of one another, DD on a mission to create arguments with me, plus pain levels off the scale and apparently nothing that anyone can do about it.

Anyway. Glad you had a good birthday in the end, NC4!

Thanks for the new thread Frouby.

Dionysa, why was your day so bad? 💐

Flossie, lol at kinky bollocks

NC4, I’m glad your birthday was good

Dionysa, minor things multiplied made me pretty much lose it a week ago, sounds normal to me. Pain sounds horrible.

I had to unclaim my teacup again, drank last night, although wasn’t excessive so I feel fine today. Intending to be AF today but we may go out for dinner so won’t be if we do.

Well it's all go here. Hoping dds dragonboating cancelled, it's freezing cold and pissing down rain and I want beer 😂😂😂.

Not remotely packed. Got as far as dragging my stuff out, nagging dd for her ironing stuff and that's it. Ds birthday tomorrow as well. So party at softplay hell after school. Plus have dh at home as he's finished today.

Still, 1 more school run, 3 cases to pack, 1 softplay party and a house to clean and tidy and that's me done for Christmas 😁

Hideous weather here too, Frouby. If my DD did dragonboating, I'd be telling her they'd cancelled it regardless. I wouldn't even leave the house again this evening for gin.

So I'm not the only one whose school holidays have started, either! 🍷

Water, your record this year has been fantastic overall, and that's the thing to focus on. Thanks for the kind words. I could have coped with any one of the relatively minor things yesterday (I think), but they just heaped themselves up on top of one another.

Flossie 🤣 at kinky bollocks!!

Thanks for the new thread Frouby, not long until your holiday now, I bet you can't wait to escape the cold wet weather!

Dion I hope things are easier for you today.

Water you are moderating and did so well in November so don't be too hard on yourself!

Moderating this week, not managed any AF nights, but no more than half a bottle of wine so not too bad. The DC are seeing their dad for the 3rd time this year, OH and I are off to the coast Saturday morning for a little weekend, I hope the weather won't be too bad.
Looking forward to being child free and getting some sea air and doing lots of walking and shagging and maybe even having a lie in on Sunday. I may not even go running on Sunday it will be my first day off in ages. I've run around 6150 kms so far this year

X posted with Dion, glad today was a little easier. Cheers!

dion I can't get away with that as she is on the WhatsApp group chat which announces such things.

It's cancelled anyway whoop whoop. Only 3 had confirmed so fortunately it's cancelled.

madame weekend away sounds lovely, bet there's loads of bumsex though. I'd rather go running 😂😂😂.

Oh Dion, the pain on its own sounds horrendous. Surely there must be something they can do?

Agreed re weather but please brave the rain and vote, everybody. There were big queies in London giving me hope but London is never very representative.

Have not been moderate enough this week. Am also done in. Managed to drop a plate on to a pile of glasses just through sheer exhaustion. Think pmt is at least partly to blame.

Dm was fine but her drinking is now at such self destructive levels i am not sure what to do or say about it. It's sort of like she's given up on life. She's never aggressive or abusive, just slurry, repetitive and clumsy. A warning to myself as i guess i am the same.

Enjoy your lovely weekend Mme. We have booked a rare babysitter tomorrow too. Tonight i am going to brownie carol concert.

Longest I'm so sorry about your DM. France probably isn't the best place for her if she has a problem with al Phil, at least if she is with the retired ex pat brigade. I avoid them here because they are generally very insular, speak no French, socialise amongst themselves and drink and eat too much.

To be fair dm does speak fluent French and barely eats. I don't think she's any better in the uk tbh. She's always had a tendency to drink too much but since my dad died it's got worse and worse each year. I'd blame unsuitable dp but she was just as bad when they briefly split.

Oh Longest, that's very hard for you. Hugs. And thank you for thinking of me.

I dragged myself out in the teeming rain to vote. I asked if they had had a low turnout, in view of the weather. They said it had in fact been unusually high. So there could be hope. I'm not in a marginal. However, it's potentially interesting, in that it has traditionally been a safe Conservative seat (Labour get about minus 3 votes), but it's also a constituency that's overwhelmingly and quite passionately Remain, and the Lib Dems have been working very hard here.

Relieved to hear about cancellation, Frouby. I had forgotten that they all communicate via phones and social media, just because I'm an old gimmer and don't do either of those.

MadameF, what a lovely weekend plan. I hope you have a fab time.

Should have said I am not AF, just because.

DD is now being nice, though. She bought me a bag of chocolate buttons to apologise for being a "selfish cow". I was very grateful!

Aw that's good Dion. Dd1 similar. She is a sweetheart 1:1 and i put dd2 to bed before meeting dd1 at church so she has been running me a bath, worrying about my bike-inflicted bruises and fretting about me working late. Christingle service also sweet, if a bit godly. Sermon was all about things that frighten you but no mention of the Tories. I think we are pretty safe here. Has historically been red/yellow marginal but lib dems took a kicking post coalition. Corbyn's constituency is down the road so funny to see the local area on the news.

Frouby, glad you escaped dragon boating. I ducked out of cycling to dd2's swimming lesson too and took the car, even though it's a fiver an hour parking.

Dh and i both worked from home together which was nice actually. Even snuck off for lunchtime dalliance!

Morning (just) everyone.

Longest 👍🏻 at siesta crapuleuse - not sure if I have that right! But sorry about your mum.

Dionysa, thats a big admission for a teenager so it’s something I suppose. Madame, enjoy the childfree weekend and the shagging.

I drank last night. We went out for Thai, it was nice and I slept until 10am and drank water in the night so feel ok.

Although am 😰😰😰 about the election. FFS!

Ugh water, don't even. I am normally pretty sanguine about elections thinking it is all cyclical, but this feels like a very important time where we will be positioning ourself on the world stage and against the climate, and we will have Boris running amock with no checks and balances. Awful. Want to hide under a rock.

I didn't have the right to vote, was a remainer (obviously living in Europe) but felt an enormous sense of relief that at last things will start moving with Boris, love him or hate him.

It's horrible. Doesn't help that I was at the count till 4.30am so I'm also overtired. Ours is a safe Labour seat but it all seems very futile when you look at the bigger picture.

I had a cry earlier about what it means for my boys for the next five years. They are both at such crucial times in their lives.

As a working class single parent, I feel vulnerable knowing someone who holds us in such contempt holds so much power.
But not only that. Some of the biggest employers in my region are manufacturing - aerospace and the likes. Trucks. The others are public sector. No-one knows what is going to happen with their jobs, and when those jobs go what support is there? Universal Credit?
It just feels like a return to the Thatcher years, an assault on the public sector and the working class.

Why did people vote for this? Corbyn might not be the right man for the job, but he'd be a damn sight better than Boris.

It took me so long to write that I crossed with you Madame. Yes, things will get moving with Boris. I think that's what scares me.
It's an end to the stalemate. Just not the end I wanted!

I agree the stalemate was awful but some kind of compromise needed to happen- an olive branch type of thing and someone saying "look, everyone, we differ on this big issue but we want the same things, we just disagree on how to get there, its going to be ok". Instead it is so divisive, so win/lose so hard hearted. I read one of the threads from an upset young woman worried about her future and the replies she got were so depressingly cold. And none of them were about Brexit and i don't know if brexit is the symptom or the cause or some combination of the two but we just seem to have lost all compassionate for one another, it's like a broken world. I don't know where to look for any sign of optimism or hope. I wonder what it feels like in Scotland where they seem to be rallying round a renewed call for independence. I imagine it still feels quite hollow somehow, that you'd be leaving the union for all the wrong reasons.

I'm feeling quite bewildered today, but my friend/occasional boss wrote this today. He'd been up all night too. Its local focussed but it resonates wherever you are, I think:

www.lancs.live/news/lancashire-news/opinion-now-election-over-can-17413204

Nc4 what a great article. And partly why I felt so relieved today. I didn't want Brexit but the results of the election clearly show that the majority do so there is no doubt and we just have to get on with it. And get it done as soon as possible. Our energy can be better used for other more productive things rather than arguing or wishing the referendum had never happened.
Note to self: get residency card sorted ASAP 😅

Election aside (and I completely get it), I am broken inside. Everything is too much.

I want to be AF for at least one night, but keep failing.

Too many things are heaping up again. Bills I can't begin to pay. DC. XH. DP. Pain. Remembrance of what could have been.

It is just all too much.

I can't really see a way through, though there will presumably be one.