Wankerbastards move to 2020. With moderatin' a plenty. We rage against flouncers, strops and teens, and of dryness we have big dreams. We want teacups not fuckups!

[Frouby]

Thread 9 for the tryers to be dryers. Join us if you want some support to reduce alcohol. All welcome for support, laughs and moderating.

Will tag a few peoples name I can spell as I am useless at clicky links.

@flossie
@madameforest
@longestlurkerever
@dionoysa
@waterandlemonjuice

I couldn't do any of the bonds tonight, I feel so fat and bloated and bluergh. Obvs dh fancied a curry so just scoffed that, despite feeling fat and bloated.

Really need some fresh air tomorrow so going for a mooch around the sales. And then depending on the weather a nice, long dog walk.

Not dry, no fucks to give though.

Well there's been high drama here. Miss PT broke up with DS last night, by text at her birthday party.
It ended up in a 3 on 1 fight on the front of her house, DS being the 1. I had to step in - she was nowhere to be seen.
I feel better for talking to his dad but I've been a bit wobbly and emotional today.
How's everyone else doing 😂

Oh NC4, I am so sorry, that's rubbish, poor DS. No wonder you feel wobbly.

I am feeling v bad tempered today. Not sure why. Maybe tired/slightly hungover though don't really feel hungover. Had a lovely time at wedding though, and managed park run this morning. Attempted half of mammoth clear up but have given up in disgust. Kids are messing things up quicker than i can catch up. May be AF tonight even though it's Saturday night - days feel jumbled up.

I wouldn't be surprised if she's back in touch in a day or two. I think her 'friends' have been shit stirring actually. Why she wants to listen to a bunch of arseholes and not her very lovely, loyal boyfriend I don't know, but I suppose I would say that. It's a shame.

Is it Saturday? It could be any day of the week. I have no idea. Well done on Park Run Longest. I did Metafit yesterday. Nearly killed me. Genuinely thought I might puke at one point. I had to have a swim to recover.

I'm almost ready to take the tree down I think. I won't till NYD but I'm a bit over Christmas now.

Not dry. Was unexpectedly AF yesterday, so I'm catching up 😁

Oh i have remembered what pissed me off, attempting to put together dd1's bike panier rack thing. I am putting an outright ban on presents that require work from me. I get properly upset over that kind of thing- my brain just doesn't work that way.

Metafit sounds hideous NC4. Well done for doing it.

Y to being over Christmas. Can't quite face going back to work but am otherwise a bit fed up of it.

Oh NC4 sorry about miss PT and the fight, how awful. I’m so fucking over teenagers though, ffs, I'm so sorry.

Longest well done for exercising, haven’t moved for days oops

We pretended we didn’t have kids and went out for a fab foodie pub lunch. dh drove so I drank, but less than a bottle. Came back and we are now watching Butch Cassidy and drinking more wine and have ordered pizza.

Hey everyone. So sorry not been around. Have been hiding away while drinking most nights as usual. I’ve tried to moderate on nights leading up to Christmas but obviously the festive period has gone mental!!

How is everyone?? How was your holiday Frouby?? How was crimbo??

I need to look back and read properly which I promise I will. It’s been hard to get online as have had ds staying plus dh home..and I’m
Constantly moaning at them for being unsociable and constantly looking at screens!! Haha so I’ve been sneaking on when they’re asleep 🤣🤣

Anyway...I’m back!!

Ps got Bad throat and tummy from drinking gin, wine and baileys last night!! Obvs convinced myself it’s something awful going on!! Half of me wants cheese with red wine now but half of me thinks I’ll feel relieved in the morning if I don’t!!

Evening all, welcome back flossie. Also been pissed as a fart most days. And feeling pretty vile because of too much food and drink. Which I solve by eating and drinking more, obvs. Holiday and Christmas were fab. Also a bit over them as well. Ds has been quite intense and full on. He doesn't cope very well with others taking some of my attention. Add to that the frenzy of new toys and general Christmas excitement and he's been a proper pita.

Taking his toys upstairs tomorrow in the hope of making things a bit more normal.

Only had a few beers this afternoon. And only out of habit/boredom. Didn't really want them. But have switched to water now.

Dd gone to her mates sisters 18th birthday party at a pub. It's a family party and mates parents are quite strict and old fashioned so not worried about any excessive drinking but am not sure what time she will be home. Late I presume. So will have 1 ear open for the door all night.

Felt a bit better for taking the dog on a long walk earlier, have barely left the house since the 23rd. Also had a quick look in the Next sale and found a pair of lovely soft cotton PJs so have those on after a lovely bath and feel slightly better than yesterday when after a day of drinking and picking at left overs dh announced he fancied a curry. It didn't sit well on top of everything else and I felt deservedly shocking last night.

Tomorrow am going to the ponies to give them both a good scrub and fill some trugs with manure for the plot. So that's a nice wholesome day planned.

Urghhhhhhhhhh.

Not dry.

NC4, It is Miss PT's loss - but no consolation for your DS (and, therefore, indirectly, no consolation for you, as you are the one who has to mop up). I am so sorry for him, though.

Longest, a pannier rack would drive me to more gin than I possess.

My DC have invited friends for a "get-together". They have now gone out for a walk. I asked them if the walk would require ID. I also embarrassed one of them by saying I was just texting his mum.

Flossie, it is just lovely to hear from you. I am not dry, or even damp, either.

Lovely to hear news, Frouby.

NC4, also... I am more than happy to take my tree down now, this minute. DD said, darkly "you only put it up on 24th".

NC4 sorry about DS1 and Miss PTs
Flossie so nice to see you back! I hope you have nothing serious, but gin, Bailey's and wine sounds enough to make anyone feel a little sick.

No DC this evening, both are out, so having a nice quiet night with DH. Feeling tired, worked and ran 20km with the dog and forced myself to the pool for the first time in 3 weeks to swim 2km. Glad I did although there was an idiot swimming backstroke really badly who kept kicking or hitting me when he passed which wasn't very pleasant.
Off for an early night now, working all day tomorrow.

I’m actually really upset by the whole thing. That she let someone wind DS up to the point he lashed out, and won’t talk to him. I feel like she is being manipulated by an absolute arsehole and I just want to tell her. It’s not my place but she’s been part of my family for the last 6 months.

Eurgh, I feel grim. Drank way too much red wine last night too. I think I’m heading towards total sobriety.
Moderation just doesn’t work for me. I’ve missed my ADs for a few days too . I’m just hiding today as I don’t trust how I feel at all and have no-one to talk to (except you lovely lot)

Spoke too soon, dh was ill so I ended up watching tv alone at 8pm. Then I couldn’t sleep at 11.30pm despite stopping drinking at 6 ish.

Felt a bit sick but reckon that will have been lunch which was fishcake followed by venison pie with mash, caramelised shallots, red cabbage then half a portion of sticky toffee pudding with clotted cream. Plus a glass of Prosecco, most of a bottle of red then home for pizza with pepperoni, garlic and jalapeños washed down with a bottle of white wine. I mean OBVIOUSLY! Eventually slept, propped up and didn’t wake until 11am so I’m fine once I get to sleep, just get anxious when getting to sleep.

NC4, of course you’re sad about it, I would be too. All you can do is listen. Hmm, total sobriety, I have moments of wondering about that too. Although bizarrely, I haven’t really drunk excessively this Christmas, I was worse during December. I think where I go wrong is drinking when I’m sad - it’s never a good idea.

Welcome back Flossie!

Frouby, me too on eating and drinking loads then wondering why I feel shit. Fgs, it’s not rocket science is it?!

Madame, back to normality sounds nice as does a quiet evening, hope you enjoyed.

Aw NC4, hugs. He's lucky to have a mum who cares. I hope he bounces back one way or another.

Slept for a zillion years after AF evening so feeling better, though managed to cancel some of that out by taking dc to hideous retail patk to spend their Christmas money. My beloved lido is open again though so have just been for mammoth sunset swim. Also went to see shaun the sheep at cheap cinema which was sweet.

Dunno about this evening. Might have a nanny state and play a board game. No promises.

After too big fuck ups regarding alcohol comsumption in the last 10 days, one that pissed the partner off so much he is still weird with me 4 days on... ive decided is about time i join you girls. Been lurking for a while but i need to be a bit more proactive now. Hope you're all good!

Welcome Improvements hope you find some support here.

Not dry here, surprise surprise. Can't even blame dh who has been dry the last 2 nights, it's all my own work.

Got another bottle of gin as a late Christmas present as well . So my gin collection is mightily impressive just now. Elderflower this time. Currently have Gordons, Tanquery, rhubarb and ginger, raspberry, violet, elderflower and a blood orange gin liquer and a rhubarb and ginger liquer, plus a few gift packs of various minatures. Good job really because I am not touching beer until at least Easter. It's far too calorific and I love it too much to moderate.

Had a lovely and productive day though. Me, dh and ds went to stables this morning. I spent a lovely hour pampering BabyPony while dh and ds collected some trugs of manure for the plot. Then they came and brushed LittlePony. Then dh and ds went to allotment to do manly things while I tackled house from top to bottom which looks a million times better. Finished ds final lego set with him, had a lovely bath and now watching football waiting for favourite pizza place to open so dh can go pick us one up.

Sad about MPT NC, I would be pissed off as well. I remember my mam cried more than me when I split with my boyfriend of 2 years when I was 16, and then hated the next one because he wasn't the first one 😂😂😂.

Hi Improvements. Welcome aboard!
Frouby your gin collection is indeed impressive. Reminds me of the days of my gin shelf - before I separated from XH and lost all control!!

Thanks for the kind words everyone. I think I might pop round and see Miss PTs mum tomorrow. Explain to her that DS isn't just a thug that goes round lamping people at parties but he was massively provoked on the back of being dumped by text. I'll offer to pay from the damage to her hedge too, even though DS was pushed through it. It's really unfair that he's being made out to be the bad guy.

Just ordered a curry in for my tea. I'm really looking forward to it. I feel like I haven't eaten a proper meal in days.

NC my top shelf is very impressive to be fair. I have about 8 bottles of wine, baileys, tia maria, a few different sorts of vodka, a couple of whiskeys/bourbons, the gins, some advocado, schnapps, and a few other odds and sods. Mostly either gifts or left overs from parties.

Problem is I like beer best of all, followed by wine, followed gin. Come January thouugh am aiming for 5 days dry then just either a bottle of wine or a few gins over the weekend. Least I will be able to vary the gin 🙈.

Dh gone for pizza, me and ds watching Jurassic World 2 again. Love this film, and the first one.

Hmm, afraid the nanny state lost out after one of those bedtimes that just seemed to go on and on. My house is four storeys high and it felt like i walked every step 18 times. Christmas cds on, red wine in hand and i am finally relaxing. Will try AF and game evening again tomorrow, after taking kids to theatre and possibly hamleys (if they find their gift voucher) and the transport museum (if i am feeling masochistic).

Thank u all for the welcome!
Well, after feeling like crap due to my craziness after too much alcohol on xmas (ive been feeling like crap about my drinking for a while but that hasnt stopped me from having my evening wine/beer...) im having my first AF night since i can remember pretty much! (Thats if i dont give in and run to the off licence) no alcohol in the house. Wish me luck because ive forgotten how to fall asleep without a drink!

Good luck and welcome improvements!

Welcome improvements and well done on being AF last night.
Frouby your top shelf is impressive. I have a cupboard with lots of spirits but I never touch any of them, I only like red wine (or a beer after running in the summer). If red wine didn't exist I'd probably rarely drink
NC4 did you see Miss PT's mum?
Longest did you make it to Hamleys?
Dion is DP behaving better?

Not AF here, think I'll wait until Wednesday. Worked yesterday, things did NOT go as planned but never mind. Made soup with the stock of chicken carcass, and bubble and squeak with left over Christmas veg, I think I'm turning into my mother.
Today had time to run 10 miles and cycle 30. New Year's resolutions (apart from drinking only 1 bottle of wine over a weekend) is to give up chocolate and do less sport. I saw a doctor last year and she said I was the only patient she'd ever had who she had told to reduce physical activity. Apparently my pelvic floor is due to fall through at any time with all the running. I have, of course, ignored her advice.

@madamef ur doc recommended you reduce? Wow! Apart from walking (which i do a lot) i dont do anything else! Not that i have time to as all i do is work and look after the kiddos.
So i had a very successful AF day yesterday (massive success for me ha!) but about to watch a movie now... and dp is off to the shop for some beer. . . Oh well.. he will be AF from the 1st as he is a gym freak... it might be easier for me to follow suit then too... (or so i tell myself)