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I need your help please

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Dotty2019 · 04/11/2019 10:21

I need your help to enable me to stop drinking.

I'm drinking every day and far too much. I couldn't get out of bed this morning to take the children to school. Probably a good thing as I would have been over the limit anyway.

I'm sick of feeling crap all the time. Why do I do it? I can't just have one glass. As soon as I start I think sod it and just carry on drinking until I physically can't any more.
I have so many problems in my life but this is one I can control so I'm starting with stopping drinking.
I'm going to use this thread to keep reminding me how much I need to do this. I would love some support and positive stories if anyone wants to join me.
Day 1 starts today! Thank you for reading

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lovemyfurrywuff · 03/12/2019 09:44

Hi Struggling, I have been thinking about you. Well done on staying AF and glad the meds are kicking in. I'm laughing because I'm little too. My eating is out of hand and I've gained another chin! I read something the other day that said don't give yourself a hard time about food just now...roll on the jelly babies.....

Strugglingagain · 03/12/2019 10:30

Lovemyfurrywuff, ive been thinking of you all to 😊 i used to eat my dinner and thats it but im on breakfast lunch and dinner now plus snacks, icecream, crisp, chocolate! I asked the dr this morning if the eating ans hunger will ease off and he said it should. He has doubled the dosage too. Although im feeling so much better im still not 100%. Probs around 80%. Hoping to be skipping around next week. I certainly have more energy. How are you doing? You still AF? XX

lovemyfurrywuff · 03/12/2019 11:23

Great they've kicked in so quick, good you have the support of your GP too. Yes, I'm still AF, just over two weeks. Had a fright with a family member yesterday who was taken into hospital(all fine now) and that normally would have been a trigger/excuse to get the wine out. Fair proud that I didn't. Had to laugh though as I was heading towards the vending machine in A and E and was planning on more sweets, OH had to stop me Shock

Strugglingagain · 03/12/2019 15:53

Glad your family memeber is ok and u managed to resist a wine and sweets. Haha xx

lovemyfurrywuff · 03/12/2019 16:21

I can't lie to you Struggling, if DP hadn't been with me I'd have been face down in a family pack of skittles!

Strugglingagain · 03/12/2019 16:41

Are u on any kind of antids? Sorry if u have said before, just dont fancy scrolling through all thread lol. Im trying to not have dinner as i have had breakfast and luclnch. But now i am munching on a belgian chocolate eclair.. with a piece of melon so dont feel as bad 😂 hope this eating slows down a little as i cant put on to much weight x

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Dotty2019 · 03/12/2019 16:55

Struggling so glad to hear you are ok! I've been really thinking about you and hoping you were alright.
Well done lovemyfurrywuff at least it is winter so a good excuse to eat Grin
Well this is day 3 for me and I have absolutely no intention to drink this evening. I've been in a bit of a cleaning spree to keep my mind off things.
Things still not great for us at the moment but at least I'm not numbing myself and tackling some of the jobs I need to do.
Not really looking forward to Christmas.
Really really don't want to go to the gp yet. Trying to do this myself and trying to look on the bright side of things.
Keep going everyone. One day at a time x

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Annasgirl · 03/12/2019 17:11

@Dotty2019, well done on 3 days. Try not to think about Christmas yet. Just look at it one day or even one hour at a time.

Next week you can plan some distractions for Christmas. There are some great support groups on Facebook and of course there is everyone on here. And just think about how much more you will be able to enjoy with your DC if you are not hungover.

Strugglingagain · 03/12/2019 17:11

Dotty, well done for last couple if days and good on you for trying to do it without help.. i personally dont think i could, i was so low and so down and depressed i didnt want to be here. Are you and your hubby having personal issues on top? Why aren't u looking forward to xmas? Thats not nice for you. U dont need to answer if you would rather not.. just seem to be havjng more issues than the drink alone 😥 xx

Silversleeve · 04/12/2019 20:27

Good to catch up with you all. I'm day 18 - although I did have a mug of mulled wine on Monday evening (all the alcohol had pretty much vanished after a 2 hour simmer) . Todays AE homework is really good - all about being positive and optimistic.
Onwards and upwards!

lovemyfurrywuff · 05/12/2019 07:47

Hi Silver,day 18 for me today. The Alcohol Experiment is working for me too. Find the daily emails really helpful, she seems to know exactly what you're going through on a particular day. I've moved onto jelly beans now, very addictive.

Biggeorge1985 · 05/12/2019 12:01

@Silversleeve and @lovemyfurrywuff, can I join the Alcohol Experiment if I’m past 30 days? I like the idea of the daily emails. I’ve been on the website but it seems to be for 30 days only. I’m wondering if you have any info on ‘beyond 30 days’ when you sign up? I’m on day 74 but by no means out of the woods. I don’t crave alcohol as such but I have to be mentally prepared everyday and I still get moments where I feel off my guard. Very scared to relax into this sobriety thing as I feel that complacency may come if I do...then I’m scared I’ll hit the wine again.

By the way, my sugar cravings didn’t go away till about day 60! Sometimes all I ate in a day was chocolate cake and skittles...all...day...long! 🥴 Defo eased off past 60 days. Now I’m starting to think about losing weight but didn’t even bother whilst devouring my body weight in sweets. I just thought “I’ll sort that out at a later date.”

lovemyfurrywuff · 05/12/2019 15:56

Goodness I'll be the size of a house if I carry on eating crap at this rate. I'm already bursting out my clothes! Laughing at you just eating cake and skittles, I feel the same way. I've lost all interest in proper food. 74 days is amazing though, you must be so proud of yourself, well done.
Just join the AE and get the emails, they do help.

Silversleeve · 05/12/2019 17:07

@Biggeorge1985 - 74 days is fantastic! I'm sure the AE website and emails will help you. Given the emails and lessons so far I would guess there is definitely help beyond the 30 days - I don't think given her philosophy and approach that she will abandon us at day 31. Grin

Strugglingagain · 05/12/2019 19:46

Dotty hope your ok?

Day 12 here and just eating eating eating!! Putting on a pound a day... its a joke. Gonna speak to doc as im sure its due to the mirtazapine. Seriously cant afford to put a pound a day on. Im now 8st 11lb and ive always been between 7st12lb and 8st2lb. Put on 11 lbs in 11 days 😭 feeling really bloated and starving at the same time. I was onky 9st6lb when pregnant. Gonna be that size in a week if this continues. Need an anti d that helps lose weight now xx

lovemyfurrywuff · 09/12/2019 08:29

How are you all doing? That's me on three weeks. I've stopped my painkillers too. I intend to be drug and alcohol free and see what happens...

idot · 09/12/2019 16:18

just wanted to join your thread...

8 years ago I re-met my teenage sweetheart. we got married. I was transported from a dump to live by the seaside. she is a gorgeous, clever wonderful person. I found a job we had wonderful holidays and days out. we both love all the same things. my life had been transformed.

Alcohol destroyed it all. At the age of 44 I am back in said dump living with my parents having lost the woman I love, my home and my job.

And guess what? I'm still drinking.

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Dotty2019 · 10/12/2019 09:10

Hi everyone
Sorry I haven't been on but I haven't been too great.
I have been drinking but moderating and not nearly as bad as before.
This is such a stressful time for me and I really don't think I can try AF until after Christmas. But I'm definitely a lot better than before.
Struggling please don't think I have anything against ADs. I just don't think I am that bad. I did go on them a few years ago and they helped me tremendously. You are doing so well!

Ilovemy how amazing are you doing?? Well done and keep up the good work.

I know I can beat this and I'm already feeling positive that next year will be different.

Hi idot and welcome. Have you looked at the alcohol experiment? Link on previous pages. It may help you. I am finding this thread an enormous help. I'm sorry I haven't managed yet to go completely AF but I do think I will get there. I'm so grateful to all the support and advice.
X

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lovemyfurrywuff · 12/12/2019 08:04

Good to hear from you dotty. I've been thinking about you all and wondering how you are doing. You'll know when it's the right time to stop if that's what you choose to do.
Welcome idot, the alcohol experiment with Annie Grace has really helped me.

Silversleeve · 16/12/2019 11:35

Hi to the newbies... keep us updated on how you're doing
@Dotty2019 - "a lot better than before" is really good - AF will wait until things are more settled for you.
I'm on day 30 AF today - due entirely to the Alcohol Experiment. @lovemyfurrywuff you must be there too - are you keeping AF or moderating or going back to where you were? I think I'm staying AF - but we've a big big celebration this week where there will be champagne and stuff...........

lovemyfurrywuff · 16/12/2019 11:45

Hi Silver, that's me four weeks today, chuffed. I'm thinking I'll stay AF. I'm tempted with Christmas to have a wine or two but I know I'll be right back on it so I'm still thinking what's best. If I could moderate it would be fine but I don't know if I'm capable of that. Are you feeling better for it?

Strugglingagain · 17/12/2019 06:57

Day 24 here. Feeling so much better. I really do think i will want a drink at xmas like u lovemyfurry... said to other half other day im gonna get alcohol free lager and wine so i feel like im having a drink but dont have the rougness and illness to go with it next day. Think thats safest thing for me. I'm really not missing feeling shite everyday. Althoigh having a terrible time with baby sleeping and teething so its a good job im not drinking as having about 4 hours sleep at night... which has been going on for weeks now and dont see an end in sight.

What is everyone else doing over xmas? Staying af? Having a couple?

lovemyfurrywuff · 17/12/2019 10:12

Hi Struggling, how's the eating going? The sugar cravings are subsiding slightly for me but I've put on another 1.5lb this week. I'm trying not to give myself too hard a time. I've also come off strong painkillers that I've been taking for a while. That's been very hard, harder than the alcohol actually. So that's me 10 days without the drugs and got the final email from the alcohol experiment saying that's 30 days up. I have treated myself to a beautiful necklace to celebrate, I've saved quite a bit not drinking so I feel no guilt about this treat.
I have an overwhelming fear that if I have one wine I'll drink the bottle then it'll all be for nothing. I can't say I feel loads better but in a month I've managed to stop drinking and taking tramadol which I was prescribed for period pains.
I suppose thinking about it I've had years of being numb with both substances and I feel exposed if that makes sense? I'm incredibly tired, it's a struggle to get moving. Every day it gets a tiny tiny bit easier. I also hate this time of year. Anyway enough of my ramblings, hope to hear from you all soon.

Nutellaoneverything · 17/12/2019 21:43

Please could I join? I could have written any one of these, but I feel like it's even more shameful as I drank mostly whisky and am only in my early 30s. 10-20cl per day, sometimes more.

I began on Monday so have done 2 days by myself before looking on MN to see if there's a thread here I could join so am looking forward to waking up to my 3rd hangover free morning tomorrow!

lovemyfurrywuff · 18/12/2019 08:21

Good morning and welcome Nutella. How are you feeling today?