I need your help please

[Dotty2019]

I need your help to enable me to stop drinking.

I'm drinking every day and far too much. I couldn't get out of bed this morning to take the children to school. Probably a good thing as I would have been over the limit anyway.

I'm sick of feeling crap all the time. Why do I do it? I can't just have one glass. As soon as I start I think sod it and just carry on drinking until I physically can't any more.
I have so many problems in my life but this is one I can control so I'm starting with stopping drinking.
I'm going to use this thread to keep reminding me how much I need to do this. I would love some support and positive stories if anyone wants to join me.
Day 1 starts today! Thank you for reading

Struggling I'm so sorry you are going through this. Massive well done for reaching out to DH.
Hopefully he can support you.

I wasn't going to post anymore. I'm so ashamed to say that I have been drinking.
I have had a week from hell and really felt like giving up (literally)
Then I read your post this morning struggling and my heart just broke for you.
There is so much support on this thread and what I am amazed at no judgment.
Day 1 starts for me today (again)
3rd time lucky

Cherry a massive well done by the way. You are doing great! I found that I felt quite irritable and tearful after about 10 days
Keep going xx

Day 1 Dotty, new start. Struggling-how are you now?

I don't deserve a well done as I've bought wine and will probably have it tonight. I can't do weekends without it, I get so bored. I'm rubbish at this. Maybe if I can do every other weekend and try and moderate like that, I don't know. Feel like a failure too. Dotty, don't stop posting, we are all doing our best.

Struggling, how are you? X

Cherry you have done so well and you didn't drink last night so don't feel bad if you drink tonight.
The actual thought of never drinking is hard isn't it?
If I had stuck to my plan I would be approaching 3 weeks now. Oh well here we go again!
Hope you are ok Struggling?

I everyone. I am sorry to read all the struggles, going full AF is very very difficult and it takes a few goes. I imagine that is why I chickened out and do only Mon-Fri which reluctantly am keeping up. But yesterday I was drunk at 7 pm. Went to bed really late and today my head was a mess. It is just not worth it!
Please keep posting even if you fall down the wagon, because as you say Dotty, the support is great.

I know what you mean about being bored, especially if you have to stay in every night looking after sleeping children, but how entertaining is alcohol?

A lot of people like me like the disinhibition we get from alcohol that makes it easier to chat, laugh or dance. But I live in Mexico and a lot of people here are able to chat, laugh and dance without alcohol.

The thing is I don’t really have a social life as I have a little one, I maybe get out to chat, laugh and dance once in a blue moon so a bottle of wine is my escape/excitement on a weekend to get me away from Groundhog Day. Working, washing, cooking, nappies, tantrums, etc. I know it’s not right but feel a bit stuck in a rut.

Coyoacan ?? I don't think your post is very supportive.

@Smelly
Can you elaborate what you mean by ‘not very supportive’ ?
I read Coyoacan’s post as meaning ‘there is another way, people here in Mexico have fun without drink, perhaps we can too’
Did you read something else?

Coyoacan, please advise if this is what you meant?

Back to day one here. I foolishly thought I could have one glass when out for lunch and then stop, that has never happened.

New start Today, think of it as a blip. I'm now day 7. Managed to go out for a meal with friends last night who were drinking. I didn't miss it or feel like I was missing out. I took the car. I managed the meal but couldn't have gone on anywhere after. I could see all the loud drunk lads around us when we were walking to the car and thought I don't think I could hack a pub sober!

love I turned down a night out last night, I regret now but I was going to take the car and I just didn't feel like going if I couldn't have a drink. So well done you.

Need - give it a try the next time you're asked. It was fine. My next one is my works night out in a few weeks. I'm aware I'm very early days though.

Morning all
Day 1 over with for me again! It is just so nice not waking up with a hangover. I feel so much better when I haven't had a drink the night before!
Going to get lots done today.

Struggling I really hope you are ok?

One day at a time everyone x

Another day 1 here too. The ‘moderating’ has gone badly this week. I should have trusted all the books that told me moderating is harder than not drinking.

That is exactly what I meant, iamyourequal.

Inhibition is a problem that a lot of British people have and we need to work on ourselves to get over it and stop using alcohol as a crutch. The good news is that it is possible to be disinhibited in conversation and dancing without drinking.

Cherry111 Can you think of another treat?

Maybe the money you save on the bottle of wine could go towards getting a babysitter so you can take up a hobby.

Day 8 AF today - wasn't sure I would get here. Yesterday evening was difficult. DH & I were at home, watching a film together and that's a time when we used to open a bottle or two. But we were both strong and didn't start on the booze. DH hasn't stopped but has cut down - very proud of him! We did snack most of the evening though!
Coyoacan love your observation about people in other countries who can laugh, dance and sing without alcohol. Drinking is so deeply embedded in UK culture it's sad and very very profitable for the alcohol industry.

Hi silver-well done. I'm struggling a bit this afternoon. Sunday night I would have definitely had a drink. Trying to keep myself distracted. This is the first night I've really wanted a drink. I hope it passes soon.

So i went on a full on bender yesterday. Morning till night. Was awful. I went to the shop 4 times or so... then decided i would sit on the canal most of the day drinking. Other half got my dad around to talk some sense into me. Ive not drank today and i cant see how i ever can again. Moderating is impossible for me. Thank you all for being here for me. Just read through all the messages. Im ok. Im rough as shite and felt shocking all day. But we can do this together. Going to have an early night and tomoro is a new day. Big hugs xxx

Struggling - thanks for update. I've been thinking about you. Tomorrow is a new day.

Keep going Strugglingagain tomorrow is indeed a new day, and a Monday. We can all get diet coke and chocolate in and have an early AF night..

How are you all today? I had to keep myself occupied last night until bedtime as the temptation was overwhelming. Was thinking I could just get away with drinking at the weekends? Then I got a grip and reminded myself that I'm an all or nothing person and doubt I would manage that.

Well done lovemyfurrywuff
What day are you on now?

struggling I hope you are ok? We are all here to listen and support each other

Not good for me. DH bought a bottle of wine home. I really didn't want to drink but I did. This really has been one of the worst months for me. I did stop drinking after the first bottle where as normally I would carry on. So small steps.
Not sure if I can do 30 days but I'm determined going to try not drink anymore during the week.
One day at a time everyone x