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[Frouby]

Thread 8 for Tryers to be Dryers.

Join in for help and support and lots of laughs to reduce alcohol. Whatever you want to achieve with your alcohol intake, whether it's alcoholidays, dry days, less booze in general we are all in the same boat.

More threads floating around but I can't do clicky links. Just look for Wankerbastards and you will find us.

Car all mended now, thank fook. Been kayaking this morning in the pishing down rain and wind, then softplay hell party this afternoon.

Softplay hell is even worse on a rainy Saturday afternoon than normal softplay hell.

Just got back and am not ashamed to say I have poured a glass of wine. Got 1 more glass left in the bottle and will probably have a gin after.

I’d have done in at least a bottle under those circumstances Frouby
I had about half a bottle of wine and 2 gins last night which would have been ok if it wasn’t off the back of a week of excess.
It’s been pissing down here for two days. The river is worryingly high. I’m really hoping we won’t have flooding.
Today is ‘try and conquer the shit tip my house has become’ day. I keep getting work related texts which I’m trying to rebuff without looking like I don’t care. I do, I just need to prioritise other things today.

Pissing down here too and has been since yesterday.

Managed to stop at 2 glasses altogether. But had dinner at 6pm and was in bed for 7.30pm with my kindle 😂😂😂. Rock and roll here.

Dd has gone to Flamingo land for the day with her mate from school, they are going to be very soggy but at least stand a chance of getting on some rides without queueing for hours I suppose.

Had some sad news this morning. Yard owner phoned, found one of the pet sheep dead from a dog attack when she went to ponies. Mate is pretty traumatised by it all as you can imagine. Apparently there was a loose akita prowling around the village last night so assuming that's the culprit.

Dry today, making sunday dinner, then bath and bed again early. Think am a bit PMTy had headache for 2 days and feel really drained so assuming it's that.

Oh that is sad about the sheep Frouby. Do they know where the Akita came from? Seems weird it was prowling round.

We had sad news here this week too. My lovely next door neighbour passed away. He was found in the bath on Wednesday. He was 86 and so friendly. Always had a smile and a chat. He'd lived in the house next door for 60 years.

I'm doing lasagne for tea. Just trying to decide whether to round off the weekend with red wine. I shouldn't but I do fancy it quite a lot, so I might.

I'm sorry about your neighbour NC4, but it sounds like he passed away peacefully at least, at a good age. I'm sure you will miss him, though.
And the sheep Frouby, what a horrible thing to happen to a pet. It's hunting season here at the moment and every Sunday the hunters are out across the fields and footpaths with their guns, shooting game and occasionally each other as well as the other animals accidentally (cows, horses, dogs) and even the odd jogger. They hate cats too, as cats hunt the baby rabbits that they like to shoot for fun.

I'm not going to be dry either, have had rather a wet week, too much wine, but never a hangover which is bad as I've built up tolerance again. I even manage to run at 7am every morning so exercise definitely helps deal with alcohol. It isn't an excuse to overindulge, however and I'll try and be better this week and have more than 1 AF night.
Worked most of the weekend as well as picking up a tipping truck for DP, so now he has the full set of a mini digger, a trailer and truck. No excuse not to work now!
Picked up walnuts and mushrooms from the garden and did a batch cook of veggie soup, courgette and goats cheese quiche, a pumpkin and mushroom gratin and an apple crumble. Frouby inspired!

I hope you all had good weekends with the exception of the softplay centre, I'm so please my two are too old for that now. There are some advantages to having teenagers.

God, I'm with you on that one, Madame. However difficult older teenagers are, at least I don't have to go to Softplay Hell with them. They create their own Hells at music festivals etc, which mean I can worry about drink (hypocrite, moi?) and drugs, but at least I am not there to witness it.

Half a bottle of white tonight, for no reason at all. Especially so, given that I had a good week a week ago. Will try to do better tomorrow.

I also need to make more effort on the food front.

On a more serious note... Frouby, that is horrible. I am so sorry. Your friend must have been very upset by that. And I hope your headache has gone by tomorrow. You are doing so well with moderating - I am trying to live up to you!

NC4, that's sad about your neighbour too. I suppose if you get to that age, you have to be grateful if you go quickly. I heard today that I'm facing a renewed unpleasantness with my DM. It's funny that you think your parents are invincible, and then they are not. My mum was very young when she had me, so I've always thought she would live forever. So it's a bit shocking to realise that she won't.

NC4, I’m sorry about your neighbour.

Dion, I’m sorry about your mum too, I hope all is ok.

Yy to soft play hell, so pleased I don’t do that any more.

I drank on Friday, Saturday and Sunday and have just woken up and been not very well so now I have The Fear. It’s like smoking in a way: the black shadows Allen Carr talks about in The Easy Way to stop smoking (he means the worry that’s always at the back of your mind about smoking, when you’re a smoker) are there and I don’t like them. I’m contemplating trying to be AF for most of October but realise that’s a reaction to The Fear. So I’ll settle for being AF 3 or 4 days a week I think. Maybe.

my app tells me I’ve been AF 13 days in September including today, which I’ve already claimed. I’m clammy and sweaty and really hoping that’s it and I feel better in the morning.

Very sorry you feel so unwell, Water. 13 days is good, even if you're not feeling it at the moment. It's almost half the month. Could you remind me which app you are using? What you said about The Fear and the worry that's always at the back of your mind really resonated with me. I'm constantly worrying about drinking, even on days when I manage to be AF. It's never out of my mind.

Woken up today with dull ache in my lower right back right by my kids last night I had 3 large glasses of wine and a double vodka and coke which is probably causing the pain!! I've had enough ! I'm fed up of feelin the morning 'guilt' the fogginess when doin the school run! I'm in my 30s!!
I've got enough goin on n this is my only release.
I'm too ashamed to go to the gps I've taken pain killers n I'm
Off to work now 😫 hope everyone has a nice day xxx

Hi everyone. Can I join?
I am a single parent and drinking a bottle of wine a night and I am so ashamed of myself. I don’t want to do it anymore. I want to lose some weight and start looking after myself.

Welcome hedgehog 🙂

Blissa, hope you feel better soon too

I have only just woken up and feel loads better. Pretty sure it must have been something I ate yesterday but anyway, I’m aiming for 4 days AF this week, starting with today. Which will be easy because I have The Fear. EYE ROLL AT MYSELF. Dionysa, sorry if you recognise that feeling too, it’s annoying I know!

Dionysa, I use the Dry January app, I downloaded it when I did Dry January and kept using it, it works all year.

Welcome Hedgehog we are all in the same boat, some weeks are better than others. You should lose weight and save money if you can have a few days AF each week. I know it's hard when you are a single parent as the evenings can be long and there are only so many cupboards to tidy. You just need to break the habit, easy to say!

Water glad you feel better. I'm with you for the 4 nights AF. Tuesday is my problem because after running club and the physical effort the reward syndrome kicks in. I usually run early in the morning so no temptation do drink on other days after sport.

Dion I had half a bottle last night. I enjoyed it and felt fine this morning. Which isn't good as it's still 5 units so that made around 50 units for last week in total with only one AF day definitely not moderating.

Hello all and welcome Hedgehog
water I'm on day 13 too of September (I put tiny little marks on a scruffy paper calendar on my desk). My aim was 15 and I'll do 14 so I'm happy with that. I tried for a couple of months earlier this year and got to 8 with an aim of 10. It's still hiding how many units I rack up when not AF though (repeating myself I know).
Hedgehog an open wine bottle in my place rarely gets the cork put back in so I mostly try to avoid opening if there is no one to share with. I'm not single but up to a third of my evenings are just me and the kids for one reason and another. Do you have a game plan of how you want to tackle it? What age are your children? Mine are primary along with a few others here. There are those with teens too.

Hi Hedgehog, I’m a single parent too. I’ve come to realise that I drink out of boredom and loneliness more than anything else.
I’m tired of feeling ashamed too. Water sorry you feel so bad today. I’ve got The Fear today too. I’ve been thinking about signing up for Stoptober but I’m not sure I can do it and I don’t want to let the charity down.
I drastically need to cut down though. I clocked up around 50 units last week too Madame. I know what you mean about the reward impulse.
I’ve been enjoying sport more lately but I can’t face it when I’m hungover so maybe that can be my incentive.
I’ve retreated back to bed this morning out of shame. Might go swimming later to try and dust myself off.
Dion sorry to hear your mum’s not good.

Hi everyone!
Yes I know i drink out of boredom and feel it’s the only way I can switch off. I’ve got 3 children, 16, 13 and 5. The 16 yr old is very good at helping out with the youngest. I took day off work today cos I’m fed up x

Hi. Can I join you? I'm trying to become an occasional drinker rather than a regular drinker. Mainly for health reasons, but also weight - I've lost some but am still clinically obese and I don't want to be! I used to drink every day, but after a real effort turned myself into a weekend drinker a few years ago. However, I do tend to pile it on then. I've just been doing a moderately dry September, in that I only drank when I was invited out, and such was/is my pathetic social life, that that only involved three days of drinking, but for most of those I drank quite heavily - for example had three glasses of wine in the pub on Saturday and then came home and have another 1/2 a bottle. So, its stopping once I've started that's the problem!! I've just started with the drinkaware app, which helpfully calculates calories and cost of anything you drink, in the hope that this will help, but any other advice gratefully received!

Passing through. Far too embarrassed to post. Just drunk too much recently. Can’t see this week being any easier either.

The wine witch is shouting in my ear 🙄

Hedgehog tell her to shut up, find a distraction, go for a walk, anything. Once you ate through Monday it gets easier.

Hi Maudesmum, I love the name Maud, my dd was nearly Maud.

I went to the cinema on my own this afternoon, which was nice. Downton Abbey, such schlock but enjoyable and phoar at various men: Matthew Goode, Branson, Barrow, swoon swoon!

Not tempted by wine tonight at all because of The Fear so day 1 ticked off I reckon.

Evening all

Flossie come and talk to us anyway, don't be ashamed, it's all OK in here.

Welcome Maudsmum and Hedgehog. Can definitely relate to drinking cos bored and fat cos drinking cos bored. 🙈. Am supposed to be going to fatclub tonight but am fed up of not losing weight. Am not losing cos beer.

Had a productive day today. House relatively tidy ready for a deep clean tomorrow. Need to tackle skirting boards and woodwork, the hallway of doom, the upstairs windows and various other jobs.

Weather tipped for vile tomorrow so might as well get jobs done at home.

Went to work in the end 🙈 I normally start drinking at 6 Ish stop about 930-10 never drunk I mix mine with lemonade too so never too bad a hangover in the morn or my tolerance level is going up 😒
Im aiming for 3 days AF this week wed Thursday n fri as I'm out sat 🙈 I am currently reading Allen Carr book too which is quite enjoyable! I told myself after this morning I would be dry tonight but DP has been instructed to bring me wine on way home 🙄 how is everyone's evening going ?? Xx

Welcome from me too, MaudesMum and HedgeHog. As Madame says, we're all in the same boat, one way or another. I had a relatively good week the week before last, a pretty rubbish one last week, and intended to do better today but went out for lunch with an old friend from when the DC were babies, which never ends well. I'm fed up with myself, because Monday sets me up for the rest of the week, and it's now looking bad already.

Flossie, I second what Frouby says. Come and chat and have a virtual hug.

Cinema sounds good, Water. I can't remember when I last went. It's so blimming expensive (though so is wine, and that doesn't seem to stop me. FML). Thanks for app info.

I hope you're feeling a bit brighter now, NC4. And I'm glad you're feeling better now, Water (apart from The Fear).