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[Frouby]

Thread 8 for Tryers to be Dryers.

Join in for help and support and lots of laughs to reduce alcohol. Whatever you want to achieve with your alcohol intake, whether it's alcoholidays, dry days, less booze in general we are all in the same boat.

More threads floating around but I can't do clicky links. Just look for Wankerbastards and you will find us.

Well a slightly better night than what I usually have on a Monday. 2 gin and slim. Which calorie wise and unit wise is better than 2 or 3 lagers, or glasses of wine.

Had a lovely dinner though. Had loads of roast pork left from yesterday so made a bit of a concoction of soy sauce, honey, fresh garlic and ginger, 5 spice and chilli oil. Marinated the pork then stir fried it and added it to chinese curry sauce with onions and peas and had it with egg fried rice. Was lush and used up leftovers and was really quick!

Also got a bargain from fakebook marketplace. Been eyeing a new hutch up for the Guinea pigs from pets at home, was £90. Which I don't mind paying but dha proper mardy bum about flatpack, so kept putting it off for that reason. Saw one advertised today 10 minutes up road for £60, with loads of accessories so been and pickex it up. It's only 3 months old and been used as an indoor hutch for a little house rabbit that was mainly out but they lost hin to cancer a few weeks ago. House it came from was huge and very, very posh! They have even put flooring down inthe hutch to match their flooring 😂😂😂.

Piggies will love it, it's bigger than their hutch and the bottom on our current one is open on 3 sides so gets a bit damp. They will be ever so snug in this.

Chucking it down again. They have closed the lake for watersports as using it to reduce the levels of the river so the water quality won't be as good apparently. Hoping after tomorrow it dries up a bit.

Can I join please? Want to have a sober October

Jump onboard Accident! Good luck

Welcome Accident
How did it go last night Hedgehog did you manage AF? How did everyone else do?
I was AF, but nevertheless had a crap night's sleep.

snap madame AF plus crap night's sleep.

Welcome from me too, Accident. If you can manage a dry October, you're a better woman than I am.

Crap night's sleep for me too. I had one G&T last night after long lunch, but I think a hangover was already setting in by then, so didn't have anything else. Not even sure why I had the G&T, as I didn't really want it. Habit, I supposed.

AF for me last night but crap night sleep also. Wandered down a rabbit hole on amazon about narcissistic parents, panicked I am one, did an ‘am I a narcissist?’ Quiz which said I’m not, wondering whether my mum is, a bit (can you be a bit?! Not sure!) so OF COURSE didn’t sleep well... but no booze.

So today is day 2 AF.

Welcome accidentalaccountant 🙂

Hi everyone, I’ve had mixed success cutting down my drinking over the last few years and have reached a point where it’s all out of control and both my physical and mental health are suffering.

I’ve found support threads on MN very supportive in the past.. so here I am.

I’ve signed up to the sober October penguin huddle too... accidental you are welcome to join me! (As is anyone else!) Whilst a sober October would do me the world of good, right now I just want to bank a sober Tuesday.

I look forward to getting to know you all! 🙂

Relatable Stircrazy. I had a sober Monday and am going for a sober Tuesday too. I had teenage drama to deal with last night which didn’t end till midnight.
I’ve not got much work on so came home to clean the house (I’m freelance) but Im thinking an afternoon nap might be more beneficial.

Hi, can i join please? read a few of these threads before and often been tempted to join and see how i go. so today (after having one too many last night and feeling shit all day!) i thought sod it, i'm going to take the plunge. i just wish i had more willpower so i could stop the pointless drinking at home nonsense. i've gone AF for a few weeks before (run up to a holiday/something big), but then something will trigger me nipping out to get a bottle of wine or small bottle of gin. doesnt have to be anything bad either, can be something good or bad, something to celebrate or commiserate, can be because i'm pissed off with myself over something or really pleased with myself over something. In a weak moment once the idea is in my head that's it. its so annoying! plus i'm in my late 40s now so any extra poundage is ten times harder to bloody shift and we all know booze is a massive contributor to that. i drink no more than 2 bottles of wine per week (sometimes i swap the wine for gin so i'll buy a half size bottle of gin and i dont get through that so quickly) if i'm drinking wine its a rate of half a bottle per night so that's 4 nights per week that i'm drinking and i feel shit the next day. its just a bad bloody habit and i'm sick of not having the willpower to resist. Dh likes his lager so he's not really a source of support so here i am, looking for support and of course happy to support others xx

So last night I find out my DP was going to arrange to meet up with an old 'work' friend one evening after work go for dinner with her and I only find out from a message pop up on his phone, Safe to say I am not dry tonight

Come on in morning. We’re all at different stages here, so I’m sure you’ll find some helpful support.

Blissa I assume there’s no innocent explanation? I’m sorry. Sounds rough. 🥵

Nodding along, Morning. Though I'm sorry to say I have been known to drink more than that.

NC4, teenagers. Sigh. One of mine started some kind of argument with me at 10.45 last night (or tried to: I withdrew).

Blissa, I'm really sorry to hear that. I wouldn't be dry either.

In fact, I'm about to have a single can of G&T, so this is not an AF evening. It has been a long and tiring day (yet another excuse).

Stircrazy, there's no way I'm going to manage the whole of October, or even one night at the moment, but I hope you do!

Evening all

Welcome accidental and morning and stir. I hope you all stick around.

Blissa I would be wet too, mainly because it's raining and I would be launching dhs stuff out the bedroom window.

NC teens are a pita. Think mine has improved quite a bit since starting all these watersports. Mainly because she is tol tired most of the time to flounce about.

She's thoroughly over excited tonight as she's recieved an email from Team GB dragonboat junior squad inviting her to some training camps. They are scattered around the country and 1 weekend a month, have sort of tentatively said yes to one of the ones oop north as long as it doesn't clash with school and revision.

Didn't get half of what I wanted to get done done today. Ended up doing that paperwork again, so it's £100 in the bank anyway. Moved piggies into their new house which they are a bit bewildered by and keep looking at me as if to say 'can we go home now please'. Battled with some mud in the chicken run, took ds for his passport photo doing, had meds review for inhalers at docs and just got mine and dhs stew and dumplings in now. Oh and did an hour of my own work as well.

Period from hell arrived, have horrible cramps and feel a bit sickly. Would normally resort to gin, but have taken ibuprofen and am dry! Bizarrely. Because until 5pm I was waiting for dh to come home so I could have one, but then decided to try and get to 6pm. Then had a shower and supping some orange cordial which is shite, but it's too late now.

Need some AF soft drinks in again.

Looking forward to my bed and my book. This is why autumn is good, less sunshine, early nights and a good book instead of mindlessly swilling back beer just cos it's lager weather.

Having said that have just remembered I have some sloe gin in cupboard 😂😂😂

Send the sloe gin my way, Frouby.

Ah thanks for being so welcoming everyone.

Blissa - oh no, that’s awful, big hugs to you,

Frouby - the Team GB thing is great news. What a jam packed and v productive day for you. Shame about the damn period - my sympathies! That’s a whole other kettle of fish when you’re trying to be good but well done staying dry.

I wouldn’t have minded doing sober October but going away for a week during October so that ain’t happening. But if I can keep things to an absolute minimum between now and my holiday I should at least feel a bit fresher and less bloated! Going to try and get a good night’s sleep tonight. I’ve stayed dry (my Day 1), mind you that hasn’t been hard tonight given how bloody crap I’ve felt all day. Watching Friends now and Bake off later, if I can keep my eyes open! Keep wrapped up warm folks, winter’s nearly here!!

My new dressing gown is going to be my cloak of sobriety this month. It’s so cosy I can look forward to putting it on when I get in, and I won’t want to take it off to go to the shop.
Teens are a pita but then they are really lovely. DS1 and Miss Pink Trainers went into town for a student shopping event thing, and took DS2 with them, till about 8 when they put him on the bus home. I can’t think of many 17yr olds who would take their 13yrs brother out with their girlfriend.
Then he texted to make sure DS2 was home safe.
My heart’s bursting with the three of them!

Sorry, hit send too soon - fab news re DDs dragon boating Frouby. It does sound like it’s really doing wonders for her.
Any more news on the boy front?

Ahhhhh at nice teens NC4

Welcome new people. We all know what its like to drink because Wednesday...

Day two AF complete for me. Feel rubbish though!

Frouby your DD must be thrilled being invited to a team GB camp! You too of course. Well done her and you being AF.
Water excellent, Day 2. I'm afraid I didn't make it, DH was in a bad mood because he has messed up the starter on his new truck, I got soaked on the club training session so we shared a bottle of red. So feeling rubbish again this morning, but then I did being AF so no change really.
NC4 teens can be lovely. Mine are at the moment.
Dion one G&T is nothing.

NC I think they have entered the friend zone now lol. They speak on the phone and text each other a lot apparently but no dates have happened. He's also been invited to the camps (he's very, very sporty) so they are going to try and arrange to go to one together. Probably Liverpool as that's the closest one to us, one of our coaches is based in Liverpool and he has another dragonboat club there so we could possibly stick them both on the train from sheffield and get a lift from the station to the camp, save parents driving a 4 hour round trip twice.

She's very chuffed but the actual trials are in April 2020, so have said it won't be the right time for her to start something like that because of her GCSEs. She luckily agrees so her plan is train really hard with our club this year then go for it for the 2021 trails. But have said she can do a training camp this year just to see if she does want to pursue it. Realistically she is tiny compared to a lot of the other GB juniors so might not have the physicality for it seriously.

Despite AF last night I feel lousy, bloody periods can fuck off. Going to drop DS off then go ponies and hope a bit of exercise makes me feel a bit better. Got to do some food shopping as well, bloody hate food shopping and hate thinking what to cook for everyone. Fml.

Morning all
felt lovely to wake up clear headed and bright and breezy today (unlike yesterday!!) so today is my Day 2 and the sun is out here (about bloody time!!). Good days to everyone.

Morning all. Clear headed and day 2 here too. morning hopefully we can jog along together for a while.. although I’ve been known to drink in an evening what you drink in a week.. 😬

Dragon boats sound exciting, piggies intriguing and teens scary.. I find other people’s lives fascinating!

I’d love to say I woke from an amazing sleep this morning but actually I woke feeling enormous waves of (unfounded) anxiety which are yet to shift. I’ve taken the dog running, made a ‘to do’ list and scoffed 4 buttery crumpets. Still anxious. My guess is it’s alcohol withdrawal symptoms so I’m just going to have to ride it out.

I completely get why lots of folks don’t want to do a sober October.. I guess my rationale is I usually will find any excuse (happy, sad, angry) to drink and actually I need a solid, publically acceptable one not to. Accepting I am going to do myself real harm if I don’t alter my behaviour feels a bit too scary?

blissa sending a hug.. life sounds tough at the moment.. (((HUG)))

Stir crazy - happy to jog along with you. Hope the anxiety has lifted.

Frouby - with you on the food shopping! I forgot quite a few things last week just because someone’s child was screaming the place down. Think I just rushed ha ha!

Madame and Water - hope you’re both feeling a bit better now.

NC4now - ah, lovely when your kids look out for each other isn’t it. )Makes some of the other shit we have to contend with worth it!).

Well hope everyone has good afternoon, back to crappy work now but I’ll check back in again later.

Morning glad you felt good this morning and good luck with Day 2! Although I'd be happy to drink what you currently do in a week, that would be real moderation for me!

Stircrazy a sober week is impressive for me let alone a sober October, and there are 31 days so not the shortest of months! I'm impressed.
What sort of dog do you have? I've got a border collie, I run with him every day, we do at least 60 miles a week so he doesn't have time to miss not shepherding too much. He rounds up the cats and me and my running friends instead.

Frouby do you have a photo of your new piggy hutch? Mine is starting to fall apart and I need to get another one for the winter (or get DH to build one).

Blissa how are you doing?