Scattered welcome. We are all in a similar place. Well done on a week AF, I can't seem to manage 2 days at the moment.
AF here so far, though if dd didn't need a lift I would soooooo be on the gin right now.
Dropped dh off at a funeral the decided to call in at my mams. She had a house full, 3 of my sisters and my lovely niece, plus assorted kids.
Dsis asked me if I knew her news. She was buying a horse. Did I have any advice about what to look for? Told her not to do it.
Sis is one of those people that says shes an animal lover, but is more a collector when something has status or appeal. Then gets rid when she's bored. She is also the absolute worst kind of equestrian. She's very, very novice (despite have had a few on loan down the years, and actually owning a pony about 13 years ago. And not only is she very novice, she thinks she Charlotte Dujardin. She won't listen to advice, definetly does not want to listen to me (I am pretty knowledgeable, know what I know, but will also listen to anyone who knows more). She can't ride, can't do basic stable management, wouldn't know a lame horse if it fell over in front of her waving its leg.
She also has a 6 year old ds and a 10 month old ds. And her partner has recently been signed off work for MS, for at least 10 years and hes a builder so no hope of ever returning. On top of the MS he has additional neurological issues and is declining healthwise.
They have recently gone onto full benefits (absolutely no judgement here, they should have had them months ago). But even when they had 1 baby and were both working full time in decent jobs they were fucking shocking with money. Always borrowing to get to payday, always too skint for anything.
So why she thinks its a good idea to buy a money pit is beyond me. Told her she should have lessons for 6 months then decide. Lessons are too expensive. Told her to part loan for 6 months. Can't find anything suitable (after a week of looking). She quoted a livery figure at me, told her to double that by the time she has done with everything else, and only do it of she has another 50% on top of that figure.
Cheeky mare said I was being negative, it's her life long dream, she will be able to afford it because she can earn £200 a month without it affecting her benefits so that's what she is going to do.
Told her if she could earn £200 a month it's enough for a lesson a week, and she's better doing that. Then she threw a wobbler, said she hadn't asked for my opinion and I was a hypocrite cos I have 2.
Fuck sake. Pointed out I can always pay my bills, never borrow of anyone and have money stashed for emergencies, plus dh working ft, I work as well (and can up my hours if necessary) and I know what I am doing.
Shes going to end up with either a manky, worm infested cob with capped hocks, big knees and no teeth sold as a 9 year old. Or a scatty thoroughbred dopped up to sell that will splatter her.
Told her for what shes looking for she needs around 3k, plus another 1k for tack and rugs and equipment. She says she's seen some nice ones for £800 🙈🙈🙈. She phoned me last week to see if she could borrow my boots and hat ffs.
My mum asked me to have a word. Said no way, cos she won't listen. And I don't want to know what shes bought as it will be at best knackered and at worst dangerous.
So yeah. Bit of a rant.
Been to McDonald's and feel slightly ill now. Ds on fine form, dd been playing Build Me Up Buttercup on Alexa so he's put that on and is dancing around singing.
Ffs. Dd better not be late!