newborn adoption

[BrightSunshineyDay]

I gave birth yesterday and immediately relinquished responsibility. I have so much going round in my head right now that I hope no-one minds if I blurt it out here.
I will be speaking with social workers tomorrow so I want to think of as many questions as possible. I know without a doubt I am doing the right thing. He will go to a foster family for a few weeks until new parents are found (I was in denial about the pregnancy until only a couple ofdays ago)
How quickly will he be found a new family? Will the new family be in my local area? Should I write him a letter explaining my life circumstances and his birth story? Should I get him a keepsake? Is letterbox contact the best thing for him and his new family? Thats all I want. What is best for him. I want to do whatever is best so he can grow up not feeling abandoned or deserted. I want him to know I love him but I want him to have the best life possible.
Please tell me there are parents/a parent out there who are just about to receive into their life the most perfect beautiful boy, and they will be kind and loving and settled.
Sorry for the brain dump - I've been awake for hours and this is all going round in my head.

Any news? I really would follow up by email if you can, remembering to say that you have withdrawn your S20 consent, and get a solicitor on the case asap. They will fight the battle for you.

We are here willing you on. You are amazing. Go Bright, go Bright, you can do it!

XXXX

As Monserrat says, follow it up in writing and be very clear that you have withdrawn your s20 consent and there are no court orders. Do you have a list of solicitors to ring? Anyone on the Resolution site will be a family specialist. Prioritise getting someone who can speak to you soon (and legal aid).

We're all behind you!

Yes, Bright you can do this!!

Remember people in authority are just people, not better then you! For your dear son you are the most important person, not them.

Use that fire to keep going until he is with you.

Here with you, thinking of you.You post is the only one ever to touch me enough to post. X

Bright

Even the nice manager is still only talking about you seeing your son not returning him.

Seriously get a solicitor. One phone call from a no nonsense solicitor revoking the section would have your ds back in your arms today. SS would have no alternative as they have no court order and no grounds to get one unless he is in danger in your care

Bright, if it would help PM me approx where you live (London, Bristol, Carlisle etc) and I will have a look on the Resolution website to find a sol who does public family law and would be able to offer you advice without costing an arm and a leg.

Just use the phone bright. If you miss a call then you have the nice managers number to ring her back as soon as you have got off the phone to a solicitor. It's already been 45 mins.

Bright,

Please takes the offers of help to get you a solicitor. If it means you son son could be with you today, its worth trying

Still nothing. :( working my way through the resolution website trying to find a solicitor.

Tell me where you are (by PM if you like ) and I will do it for you XXX

Bright I'm following your thread, I can't believe what SS are doing to you.
Lawyer ASAP, this is just not on at all. Xx

Also wanted to add my support. I hope a solicitor can sort this asap. Your love for your son is so apparent, I hope he is back in your arms very soon.
And don't beat yourself up that you relinquished responsibility, it sounds like you were trying to do the best thing possible for him. That was astoundingly selfless and kind of you.

Just wanted to say I've been following your thread and rooting for you. You can do this, it's not about access, you want him back! I'm so surprised at ss. Keep fighting, you've had some great advice and we're all on your side xx

I actually can not believe what I am reading. I'm so angry on your behalf, bright. This is so so wrong. I get close to tears everytime I read an update. I'm so sorry this is happening to you. Xxxxxx

Agree put it in writing that you withdraw consent just as stated above

Get a solicitor now - hope someone here can help. Be strong. Clearly tell the manager next time you speak that you are revoking your earlier consent. But the solicitor can probably sort it much more easily.

Montserrat posted Tuesday about what you need to say in your email. You need to have things in writing urgently

Bright, I'm a former solicitor, although I've not done any family law in almost ten years. I'm happy to help you find someone who can help you today if you pm me.

montseratt I can't pm you, can you send me a message so I can reply with where I am please?

Thank you by bunty. I can't work out how to pm from this stupid tablet. Can you pm please so I can reply with my location? Thank you so much.

Re emailing? Who do I email? Just a gsneral ss email address?

Re emailing? Who do I email? Just a gsneral ss email address?

Have sent it. It will come in your email inbox and in your inbox on MN (Top RH corner on my PC)

Ring the person to whom you spoke and get their personal email address - a general one is of less use as you want to confirm conversations with individuals

Have PMed you with a reply

I have been following your thread and my heart goes out to you. This is totally unacceptable, no wonder SS have such a terrible reputation when you hear about cases like this. If you still haven't heard I would seriously consider phoning the non emergency police number. Ask them to immediately transfer you to someone with child safeguarding responsibilities and then explain to them that social services are refusing to return your son to you. You have full PR and they have no legal right to do refuse you custody (which in essence they are doing, even preventing access). Ask the police if you can legally go and take him back. Even if you have to sit in the SS office until someone goes to fetch him. I think yu have been so accommodating to them and at this point my patience would be at an end.