..if your kid lost his NEW wallet with his birthday money in and gift cards

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he is 11
i am times 2 million
would you reiburse as lesson learned
or let him learn hard way

there was NO reason for him to have had his wallet with him

Or coming up with, and using, his own strategies to avoid such calamities in future.

oh but it was mistake, poor boy. i am too upset at 'worried eyes'. have you rung police, someone might have handed it in.

he is probably gutted about it himself

make him go and see if it has been handed in at shop/local police station?

Not sure about replacing money etc, I can understand why he would want to take it with him and he obviously didn't want to lose it

maybe replace £30 and make him earn the rest back and explain that adults obviously wouldn't get anything back!

Was it £50 incl the game cards or excl? Tbh that is a lot of money both for him to lose and you to reimburse. Different if a tenner.... It's a hard call.

What were his plans for the money as I think that has some bearing - eg if he was going to spend it on something specific he'd wanted for ages or was just going to spend it on rubbishin dribs and drabs

UPDATE
have rung police
Grandparents want to give him ££ but know its a head and heart thing

dh insistent NO to recompense
ds1 still in room, "feels silly"

he wanted to buy wii tennis game thing
and some trousers.
POor boy

Awww.

As someone who loses every bloody thing I touch, I can feel his pain.

I think I would go with him earning the money back, but make the chores vastly overpriced so it is a fairly quick thing.

nope
mentioned that to dh , he says no

Buy some new fancy gizmo for DH, let him have it for a few hours then hide it from him.

dh does lose things himself.
will try and remember one

hard lesson I reckon

oh you too.
grr

mmmm. tough one. I would be very sympathetic and sorry. but I don't think a baleout is appropriate really. Nor is punishment. He's lost it, that's tough, but in life we have to deal with it...

AND
do we tell the donors
" oh yes thanks for the gift he lost it"

one is v local

What's a baleout saying? mum and dad have bottomless funds? what he does has no consequence as it can always be rescued by you?
Don't make it about you being cross and punishing him though. Its not your fault he lost it, don't let him make you feel it is.

yes i know
but

he is so sad.
but you are right.

Awww, he was just all excited at being grown up. I would go half and half, buy him a new wallet and have him earn the money back at a fairly quick rate.

Just say thank you for the gift.

and she says " what did oyu get"
he will Have To Lie

no he could say what he got, but doesn't have to elaborate.
if she asks, what did you buy, then he turns red an mutters about losing it when he went to the shop.

I wouldn't do a baleout if it wasn't birthday.

I know if I managed to lose birthday money somehow, I would gradually claw it back from house finances.

'i haven't decided yet'
'I am saving it to put it towards xxx'

(just trying to work out what I would say if I had done this...not that outlandish, I've had many cash gifts from gparents in law that I haven't really bought anything specific with

oh god I feel really sorry for him

I got and lost birthday money for my 15th, I don't think I have ever felt so bloody gutted, so excited about shopping trip and then just horrible disappointment and angry about person who had found it and kept it

I think we all feel sorry for him
but but but...