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Original poster

..if your kid lost his NEW wallet with his birthday money in and gift cards

211 replies

BadgersArse · 15/08/2009 14:59

he is 11
i am times 2 million
would you reiburse as lesson learned
or let him learn hard way

there was NO reason for him to have had his wallet with him

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FabBakerGirlIsBack · 15/08/2009 15:00

How much was in it?

Did you tell him to leave the wallet at home?

Original poster
BadgersArse · 15/08/2009 15:02

£50
not as such but he was only going up to the sweet shop.
no need for 2 game cards and cash

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Lizzylou · 15/08/2009 15:02

Was he all excited to have a wallet?

Toughie, perhaps reimburse half and make him work for the rest (like up the chimney or cleaning bogs)

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BadgersArse · 15/08/2009 15:02

very thrilled

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myermay · 15/08/2009 15:03

oh no what a shame. i honestly don't know what i'd do. i'd want to give it back, (how much was it) - but also think if i did give it back, they might get the "it doesn't matter as mum will sort it out" attitude. If an adult lost their money they wouldn't get it back. Sorry not much help, i might make them sweat and then a wk or 2 later give some of the money

rubyslippers · 15/08/2009 15:03

i think i would let him stew for a bit and then re-pay it but he has to earn it through chores and stuff

don't think it should be consequence free

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BadgersArse · 15/08/2009 15:04

He is in his room atm

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FabBakerGirlIsBack · 15/08/2009 15:04

I think cut him some slack.

Clearly he was very excited and feeling grown up to have a wallet.

I would give him the chance to earn it back.

Any chance it will turn up?

differentID · 15/08/2009 15:06

I'd let him suffer tbh, especially if you had told him not to bring it out.

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BadgersArse · 15/08/2009 15:07

oh god poor boy
his eyes are all worried.
I am livid though

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notwavingjustironing · 15/08/2009 15:07

I would be as cross as you are. And sorry for him in equal measure.

Agree with those giving him the chance to earn some of it back. Not all, it is a lesson learned after all.

It depends whether you specifically told him not to take it and he did anyway.

If he just took it because he felt important, then he probably feels terrible about it anyway.

If you told him not to take it with him - then that's a different matter.

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BadgersArse · 15/08/2009 15:08

no he wasnt told not to take it, he only went to the local coner shop - never presumed he would take the whole lot. twit.

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castille · 15/08/2009 15:09

Depends on child.

If not typical behaviour I'd prob reimburse partially.

If repeat offender/scatty child who needs to learn, I'd be harsher.

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BadgersArse · 15/08/2009 15:10

He is thoughtless and forgets things,
we had just been trying to get a cord hting to tie wallet into school uniform for next year.... put wallet down, mates call, off he goes WITH it

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differentID · 15/08/2009 15:10

how did he lose it. Have you spoken to him about it?

notwavingjustironing · 15/08/2009 15:10

Then I would be sympathetic and rueful with him, rather than angry.

(Obviously if it was my son I would be shouting and screaming at him, but I like to think I have a little more decorum with other people - so feel free to ignore my advice)

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BadgersArse · 15/08/2009 15:10

it fell out of his pocket.
god i need a crystal ball.

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differentID · 15/08/2009 15:11

Have you walked back with im, looking out for it? Was it noticed by staff or handed in do you think?

notwavingjustironing · 15/08/2009 15:11

aaah more detail.

Right then, be CROSS.

Lizzylou · 15/08/2009 15:11

Totally agree with Fab.
I bet he feels awful now, he was just enjoying having his own wallet.

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BadgersArse · 15/08/2009 15:11

rofl at ironing
i was so indandescent i went all steely.
but no i havent hiumiliated him, apart from calling him an "utter moron"

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BadgersArse · 15/08/2009 15:12

notwaving - this is like an AIBU thread

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notwavingjustironing · 15/08/2009 15:14

by stealth....

castille · 15/08/2009 15:14

Like DD2 then.

HOW do you teach a child to be more careful with their stuff? I struggle. She is repentant, tearful and cross with herself every time, but she NEVER LEARNS.

Drives me potty.

TBH I'd let him stew, and earn it back gradually with displays of responsible behaviour.

differentID · 15/08/2009 15:15

Make him go back and look for it.

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