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Original poster

..if your kid lost his NEW wallet with his birthday money in and gift cards

211 replies

BadgersArse · 15/08/2009 14:59

he is 11
i am times 2 million
would you reiburse as lesson learned
or let him learn hard way

there was NO reason for him to have had his wallet with him

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ahundredtimes · 15/08/2009 21:45

Aren't I chatty?

Right am going to watch film now. I'd like there to be a definite course of action decided tonight please BA. My dc want to know what you'll do. So does the dog.

ahundredtimes · 15/08/2009 21:46

YES. Much worse. The loyalty! The trust! The hurt! I can't tell you.

Wallace · 15/08/2009 21:49

I will ask ds1 (10) what he thinks in the morning.

brokenspacebar · 15/08/2009 21:49

luff this thread and responses so far... I am in the make him suffer camp/but want to give in, say comforting things.

my dd is away tonight, so I can't ask her.

Ponders · 15/08/2009 21:57

My DS (16 now) has constantly & consistently lost stuff since he was old enough not to be monitored at all times - most recent was loss of wallet containing brand new rail card about 2 days after receiving it.

Sanctions don't work. Not recompensing him never stops him doing it again later. Money, clothing, phones, school books, it's all gorn.

If your DS is VERY smart & VERY lucky he won't do it again. But don't hold your breath

Original poster
BadgersArse · 15/08/2009 21:59

lol at dog
our mates on holiday almost forgot their kid one day as they sallied forth on a trip

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Ponders · 15/08/2009 22:04

Just asked my 16-yr-old. He says give him half the cash back but that there is no way of teaching him this lesson - he will either teach himself or not learn.

(What you could do, to avoid some of my DS's mistakes, is stitch up all his pockets. Things fall out you know...)

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BadgersArse · 15/08/2009 22:10

Yes i agree its innate.
we have a complicated key ring hting planed for secondary school
( note he was only 11 a week ago)

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Ponders · 15/08/2009 22:11

Oh god, keys is another one. Mine has lost dozens. (It goes with genius you know )

juneybean · 15/08/2009 22:14

Ahh I lost a bracelet my mum bought me for my 21st birthday and I still feel bad about it now (24).

But I was older and it was my fault I guess, so I would give him some back and buy him a new wallet.

squeaver · 15/08/2009 22:17

lolol at this thread.

Flamesparrow · 15/08/2009 22:37

I can't find my nail scissors

In my defence - I hid them from DS, so they are not where they should be...

PinkTulips · 15/08/2009 22:52

flame, i moved the nail clippers last week and caused havok as no one could figure out where i'd put them... least of all me

Poor dog 100x, at least you forgot to bring him though, would have been worse if you'd left him on the beach

The absolute worst thing i have a tendancy of forgetting is to strap the kids into the car, thankfully they're scared rigid by my stories of car crashes safety concious and as soon as i turn on the ignition they start screaming 'Moooommmmeeeeeee I'm not strapped in!' but i have driven all the way home from the shops to find the baby snug in his carseat with no buckles on

Flamesparrow · 15/08/2009 22:54

Have you found them?? Where were they??

I know this isn't relevant to the thread, but tis still lost stuff

brokenspacebar · 15/08/2009 23:02

I am very good at losing things, if that can be considered a skill/good in any way?

If it is something I lose in the house, I reckon I will find it when I am not looking for it, the other day we needed masking tape, I looked in the drawer, it was there, I didn't see it, today I looked for something else and found the masking tape.

DH gives me a very hard time about it, I never learn, when I was 8 I lost all my holiday money, when I put my purse(one of those ones with little beads on it) down, to wash my hands, in a public loo in Lochinver, that hurt, my parents couldn't afford to replace it either. I still remember, I might have forgotten it if they had replaced it?

PinkTulips · 15/08/2009 23:06

On the dresser in our bedroom... they usually live on the kitchen windowsill as they're mostly used downstairs and that's the only spot the kids can't reach

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BadgersArse · 16/08/2009 10:40

spacebar - no its not a skill at all!

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LIZS · 16/08/2009 10:41

another thought , he did definitely take the wallet out I suppose ?

castille · 16/08/2009 10:44

Am quite depressed by all the grown up scatterbrains on this thread

There is No Hope for our careless kids

CybilLiberty · 16/08/2009 10:48

My dd (13) and half brain dead, lost her £90 mobile on a coach (I didn't pay that much for it, it came with contract). I was half fuming, half hacked off and half felt sorry, so a bit like you.

I made her ring and email the coach company to check. She was convinced 'they just send you another one' to replce. Not so. In the end I bought her a really cheap jack £10 phone, it tough.

But for your boy, I wouldn't recompense. it is a hard lesson learned.

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 16/08/2009 13:06

A100times - I can't believe you left the dog for 4 hours.

Flamesparrow · 16/08/2009 14:07

Castille - they are not "careless" kids. Going by how the majority of the scatterbrain parents feel, they care very much

castille · 16/08/2009 16:20

Flame - I've got one. DD2 is very definitely careless with her things, but like BA's DS, not deliberately, and she cares very much when she loses things. That is what I meant.

Hence the dilemma.

And hence my despair when I see that such children don't always grow out of it!

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BadgersArse · 17/08/2009 17:39

well dh has agreed that he will partially refund the money and certianly the gift cards.

ds currently working hard around house.

has had to write thankyou emails for gifts he hasnt got

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NoahFence · 31/08/2009 14:53

OH

MY

God

Update!