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..if your kid lost his NEW wallet with his birthday money in and gift cards

211 replies

BadgersArse · 15/08/2009 14:59

he is 11
i am times 2 million
would you reiburse as lesson learned
or let him learn hard way

there was NO reason for him to have had his wallet with him

OP posts:
Flamesparrow · 15/08/2009 17:54

but but but....

he is a kid. Life is crappy enough as an adult, it doesn't have to be when you're 11.

sherby · 15/08/2009 17:55

yep I agree

unless he has issues around losing/not looking after things I would be tempted to reimburse some of it

differentID · 15/08/2009 17:57

sherby BA has already said he has issues with carelessness, which is why the majority of posters are of the foot down brigade.

noddyholder · 15/08/2009 17:58

You old witch stop buying shoes and give it back to him!

sherby · 15/08/2009 18:01

yes but don't most 11yr olds?

and it fell out of his pocket poor sod, not like he put it down and left it somewhere

PinkTulips · 15/08/2009 18:02

Has he gone back and scoured the footpath? surely it can't have been snatched up that quickly? Has he asked at the shop, i dropped my debit card by my car at the garage once and once i realised it was missing (while trying to pay for the weekly shop ) i ran back and someone had handed it in for me and it was behind the counter for me.

Poor lad, i'm a serial loser of things too and my heart is breaking for him as it really is the worst feeling

Could you at least buy him a new wallet if he was that excited about it?

Greensleeves · 15/08/2009 18:04

I'd reimburse him

very sternly

Flamesparrow · 15/08/2009 18:10

I am a serial loser though. Believe me, it is not down to carelessness, it is some sort of freak genetic/personality flaw.

I have done everything in my power to try and stop it happening since I was about 8, but it has never improved.

When I see parents going with the "just be stern and they'll learn" approach it just brings back all the feelings of what a total failure I must be to lose everything.

sherby · 15/08/2009 18:12

sitting on my hands so I don't say that maybe it might have been a good idea to buy the chain WITH the wallet, he is 11 after all

Greensleeves · 15/08/2009 18:12

exactly, me too Flame

the pure MISERY of things just fucking disappearing and it being my fault

no amount of harsh treatment did any good, I'm still as bad as ever. Keys, phones, school letters, the lot.

poor little mite, he's only 11

Flamesparrow · 15/08/2009 18:13

Greensleeves - my mum still assumes that anything she can't find at home I must have borrowed and lost

Greensleeves · 15/08/2009 18:14

that used to happen to me all the time - people just look at you as if to say "well it must have been you, you're bloody useless"

and I am, so no denying it

noddyholder · 15/08/2009 18:15

Ds is dyspraxic and a serial loser too.nightmare for him things just disappear.We have tried every method going to do something about this and although he seems better over all we still lose several school pe kits per year and phones disappear too.

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 15/08/2009 18:16

Replace the money given by others so he can be truthful about what he bought. Lying isn't great.

I think your DH is mean and you should not help him next time he loses something.

Hell, if I had the money I would replace it.

Greensleeves · 15/08/2009 18:17

agree your dh is being Victorian Dad

overrule him

FritesMenthe · 15/08/2009 18:18

Buy new wallet and chain and deduct from £50. Buy Amazon gift voucher to replace the balance, so he can buy his Wii game.

And give stern talking to, that if it happens again...no bailout.

TheFallenMadonna · 15/08/2009 18:19

Practical things help people who continually lose things, IME. Like your chain idea.

Guilt and punishment, not so much.

I wouldn't reimburse if I couldn't afford it, but not as some lesson to be learned. Because I rally don't think it woirls like that.

TheFallenMadonna · 15/08/2009 18:20

Or indeed works like that

ahundredtimes · 15/08/2009 18:27

I think it does work like that though. Next time he has a wallet with £50 in, he will remember the horror of his 11th birthday when he was an utter muttley and it dropped out his pocket and it was gone, gone, gone forever.

I lose things too. Bad and unhappy experience has made me a checker of specs and keys and wallet, like a tic.

Is the only way.

I feel bad for him too though btw.

We bought ds2 a PSP. And the utter berk only left it out in the garden during a thunder and lightening storm. Broken. I was furious at myself for having given him one though actually because he's so hopeless.

TheFallenMadonna · 15/08/2009 18:33

Just me then. Am still a hopeless loser rather than a compulsive checker, even after many stern lessons being taught. I'm resistant to conditioning.

Flamesparrow · 15/08/2009 18:34

Nope TFM - me n Greeny are the same

ahundredtimes · 15/08/2009 18:37

Well you must all pull yourselves together and sort yourselves out. Tsk. So much carelessness.

ahundredtimes · 15/08/2009 18:38

Also SURELY he will think -

I don't actually need to take £50 out with me to the corner shop. Why would I do that? I'll keep it here and just the £1 I need for the sweets.

bigchris · 15/08/2009 18:39

yes we need to know if you and him have looked for it properly

maybe get him to tell the givers he lost it

and then reimburse tomorrow

i think he's learnt his lesson by now

TheFallenMadonna · 15/08/2009 18:40

Ah

"but surely you thought, after last time..."

Yet.......no, I didn't think!